I wish I was making this up but I’m not. My friend and wife have been married for 8 years with 2 kids. She recently filed for divorce and the reason was she’s bored. She said she’s gotten promoted since they got together and he’s not. She also said that she’s gotten better looks wise and he hasn’t. I read that 90% of divorces involving women with college degrees are started by women. Interesting
Bored = Boning another dude
I think she's getting boned by another dude, rather than she's actually boning another dude. Unless you are referring to strap-on action, of course.
Marriage is just part of the toolbox for mass cooperation. We need it to help maintain a sense of order at scale. Women are going to be inclined to have children and will make irrational decisions if they get too close to the biological clock hitting 12. Single men looking for flings - the closer women are to that time, the more cautious you should be. If they are not being straight and telling you they "need" to have kids - don't trust them at all.
On the other hand, it's straight up instinctual for most men to desire many women. They are biologically built to impregnate as much as possible. I won't go as far as saying they are not built to hang around for long and have affection and want to care for their children, but most men do naturally feel attraction to several women and the urge to bang them randomly.
So men and women are often unhappy due to a self-imposed situation. I think you can be happier if you simply understand the biology and appreciate it. That allows you to more easily cope with your underlying urges and instincts.
IMO, infidelity should be socially accepted. Having a partner at home is key to raising children well. But we are raised to think that having more than one lover is immoral and bad (in some places it's even illegal). We could all be much happier if we got more love and attention instead of being suppressed. Most women tend to experience a much greater loss of desire with age as compared to men, but if they could feel comforted by the common union (them and children being provided for) and were not judged by society, I don't think they'd feel threatened by affairs. Same for men with respect to fear of losing custody of their children. Sadly, we operate more on fear of what we can lose than actual positive incentives.
"Men should be able to go out and have as many women as they want while they have a house wench raising their kids because apparently that's what women want" is not the sell you think it is.
You prove my point - society is brainwashed. I never said women want this, I said they shouldn't feel threatened by it.
Marriage is just part of the toolbox for mass cooperation. We need it to help maintain a sense of order at scale. Women are going to be inclined to have children and will make irrational decisions if they get too close to the biological clock hitting 12. Single men looking for flings - the closer women are to that time, the more cautious you should be. If they are not being straight and telling you they "need" to have kids - don't trust them at all.
On the other hand, it's straight up instinctual for most men to desire many women. They are biologically built to impregnate as much as possible. I won't go as far as saying they are not built to hang around for long and have affection and want to care for their children, but most men do naturally feel attraction to several women and the urge to bang them randomly.
So men and women are often unhappy due to a self-imposed situation. I think you can be happier if you simply understand the biology and appreciate it. That allows you to more easily cope with your underlying urges and instincts.
IMO, infidelity should be socially accepted. Having a partner at home is key to raising children well. But we are raised to think that having more than one lover is immoral and bad (in some places it's even illegal). We could all be much happier if we got more love and attention instead of being suppressed. Most women tend to experience a much greater loss of desire with age as compared to men, but if they could feel comforted by the common union (them and children being provided for) and were not judged by society, I don't think they'd feel threatened by affairs. Same for men with respect to fear of losing custody of their children. Sadly, we operate more on fear of what we can lose than actual positive incentives.
Yeah, pretty much.
I think that the different expectations that you describe are pretty much the norm in much of Europe. It is accepted that men will have a lover outside of their marriage. As a result, wives don't feel nearly so threatened by it. Husband and wife take care of each other (perhaps excluding sex, perhaps including it) and together take care of the kids. That the husband is having sex elsewhere is largely irrelevant.
There is a consideration there though. I understand the more relaxed European views, but people still get hurt by dishonesty and embarrassment. Even in most European societies, the acceptance of affairs (aka normal biological behavior) is not quite there yet. People are still hesitant to openly cheat and may feel embarrassed by others knowing of their partner's affairs.
I wish I was making this up but I’m not. My friend and wife have been married for 8 years with 2 kids. She recently filed for divorce and the reason was she’s bored. She said she’s gotten promoted since they got together and he’s not. She also said that she’s gotten better looks wise and he hasn’t. I read that 90% of divorces involving women with college degrees are started by women. Interesting
Haha. Your "friend" sounds lazy, out of shape, and lacking ambition. She's probably just sick of hanging around someone who seemingly doesn't care about their health or work. Of course she is bored. Your "friend" sounds boring.
I wish I was making this up but I’m not. My friend and wife have been married for 8 years with 2 kids. She recently filed for divorce and the reason was she’s bored. She said she’s gotten promoted since they got together and he’s not. She also said that she’s gotten better looks wise and he hasn’t. I read that 90% of divorces involving women with college degrees are started by women. Interesting
I think that the different expectations that you describe are pretty much the norm in much of Europe. It is accepted that men will have a lover outside of their marriage. As a result, wives don't feel nearly so threatened by it. Husband and wife take care of each other (perhaps excluding sex, perhaps including it) and together take care of the kids. That the husband is having sex elsewhere is largely irrelevant.
There is a consideration there though. I understand the more relaxed European views, but people still get hurt by dishonesty and embarrassment. Even in most European societies, the acceptance of affairs (aka normal biological behavior) is not quite there yet. People are still hesitant to openly cheat and may feel embarrassed by others knowing of their partner's affairs.
"biology" is used to defend all sorts of behavior, often beneficial to men and detrimental to women. Isn't it funny how that works?
It's "biology" that men want to have as many women as possible. How convenient. Have you ever considered that women also find multiple men attractive? Have you ever considered that women might want to fool around too?
It's biology that women are nurturing and therefore the more natural parents Well that's nice. So women doing all the housework and parenting is just fulfilling a biological need, while men run off and fulfill their biological needs of having as many women as they'd like. Lovely.
Actually, the only thing that's truly biological here is a desire for sex (procreation). But that's not to be confused with a biological urge to want kids. Some people want kids desperately, but that doesn't make it a biological urge.
Anyways back to the original prompt. IDK why the woman left but it sounds like her husband isn't challenging himself or bettering himself while she is. I'm not saying its right or wrong, but if she's bored she's bored, what can you do.
I am the first on this thread to say feminism is the blame for most divorces.
Something to brag about?
Weird
Yes because YOU never thought of it. Also, no one else thought about it. Do you guys not know what feminism is or did you just forget about it. It's a HUGE factor in Marriage/Divorce and many books and studies have been conducted and produced about it. I've often wondered why people on LRC do not attend to my threads. Now I have strong information as to the WHY.
There is a consideration there though. I understand the more relaxed European views, but people still get hurt by dishonesty and embarrassment. Even in most European societies, the acceptance of affairs (aka normal biological behavior) is not quite there yet. People are still hesitant to openly cheat and may feel embarrassed by others knowing of their partner's affairs.
"biology" is used to defend all sorts of behavior, often beneficial to men and detrimental to women. Isn't it funny how that works?
It's "biology" that men want to have as many women as possible. How convenient. Have you ever considered that women also find multiple men attractive? Have you ever considered that women might want to fool around too?
It's biology that women are nurturing and therefore the more natural parents Well that's nice. So women doing all the housework and parenting is just fulfilling a biological need, while men run off and fulfill their biological needs of having as many women as they'd like. Lovely.
Actually, the only thing that's truly biological here is a desire for sex (procreation). But that's not to be confused with a biological urge to want kids. Some people want kids desperately, but that doesn't make it a biological urge.
Anyways back to the original prompt. IDK why the woman left but it sounds like her husband isn't challenging himself or bettering himself while she is. I'm not saying its right or wrong, but if she's bored she's bored, what can you do.
Said the woman who didn't even identify herself as one.
Yes because YOU never thought of it. Also, no one else thought about it. Do you guys not know what feminism is or did you just forget about it. It's a HUGE factor in Marriage/Divorce and many books and studies have been conducted and produced about it. I've often wondered why people on LRC do not attend to my threads. Now I have strong information as to the WHY.
Yes, it is because you are a moron.
Weird that it took you this long to figure that out when everyone else on here has long known this.
There is a consideration there though. I understand the more relaxed European views, but people still get hurt by dishonesty and embarrassment. Even in most European societies, the acceptance of affairs (aka normal biological behavior) is not quite there yet. People are still hesitant to openly cheat and may feel embarrassed by others knowing of their partner's affairs.
"biology" is used to defend all sorts of behavior, often beneficial to men and detrimental to women. Isn't it funny how that works?
It's "biology" that men want to have as many women as possible. How convenient. Have you ever considered that women also find multiple men attractive? Have you ever considered that women might want to fool around too?
It's biology that women are nurturing and therefore the more natural parents Well that's nice. So women doing all the housework and parenting is just fulfilling a biological need, while men run off and fulfill their biological needs of having as many women as they'd like. Lovely.
Actually, the only thing that's truly biological here is a desire for sex (procreation). But that's not to be confused with a biological urge to want kids. Some people want kids desperately, but that doesn't make it a biological urge.
Anyways back to the original prompt. IDK why the woman left but it sounds like her husband isn't challenging himself or bettering himself while she is. I'm not saying its right or wrong, but if she's bored she's bored, what can you do.
Ummm . . . yes it does. Unless you are going to claim that humans are not biological organisms.
I am the first on this thread to say feminism is the blame for most divorces.
Or that feminism is what saved women from bad marriages...
Well that is about as logical as abortion saving people from bad lives. The person who commits abortion did not even give the kid a chance, how does she know he/she would not have had a happy productive life. In the case of marriage, so you shut it down after 20 years. But what if you fought through some of those little difficulties and became a happy couple? This also applies to what happened once Gays got the right to Gay marriage. That led to the Trans game that many of us predicted it would. Sign me and also hate me as Jed Clampett. These things are simple, get someone to translate the Bible for you.
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but good for her. You only get one chance at life. You shouldn't let anyone force you into an existence you find boring.
If I'm not giving my wife a life that she at least finds interesting and hopefully at times finds exciting and occasionally thrilling, she should leave.
Imagine simply giving up on having an enjoyable life out of some sense of duty to someone who isn't effectively partnering with you to provide the life you both deserve.
I'd like to hear her side before making judgement.
Is the husband lazy, expecting her to finance the family and do all the chores at home as well?
Has the husband let his appearance and physical shape slip really badly?
Is he just really boring and annoying to be around? Bad habits? Bad odors? Won't go anywhere, feet up kinda guy?
Women are allowed to divorce. It's not like Iran or Afghanistan or somewhere (although even there I think its possible to divorce). People change after marriage. What's the point of spending the remainder of your life in misery? Its better than cheating.
What about 90% of the time did you not understand?
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"biology" is used to defend all sorts of behavior, often beneficial to men and detrimental to women. Isn't it funny how that works?
It's "biology" that men want to have as many women as possible. How convenient. Have you ever considered that women also find multiple men attractive? Have you ever considered that women might want to fool around too?
It's biology that women are nurturing and therefore the more natural parents Well that's nice. So women doing all the housework and parenting is just fulfilling a biological need, while men run off and fulfill their biological needs of having as many women as they'd like. Lovely.
Actually, the only thing that's truly biological here is a desire for sex (procreation). But that's not to be confused with a biological urge to want kids. Some people want kids desperately, but that doesn't make it a biological urge.
Anyways back to the original prompt. IDK why the woman left but it sounds like her husband isn't challenging himself or bettering himself while she is. I'm not saying its right or wrong, but if she's bored she's bored, what can you do.
Said the woman who didn't even identify herself as one.
good you can identify one, sad for you that you'll never get close to one.
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