The reason I keep mentioning being forthcoming is because I find it lacking when you measure your returns against an index, yet you insist on changing the rules on how you measure them.
If you include dividends in your portfolio return calculation anyone with a brain would consider that you would also do so with the index. Otherwise, the comparison is - get this - meaningless.
That you would keep the measurement criteria consistent between the two calculations is assumed by anyone and everyone.
If you insist upon making a dissimilar comparison, for whatever reason, you should be forthcoming to the extent of disclosing the different measures employed. And failing to do so (diclosing the different methodologies) is misleading and disingenuous, and borders on an untruth (if not a lie).
Nothing you say will change the circumstances of what I have outlined here.