Do you hate discussing running--especially your times or PRs?

don't mention it wrote:

Metric Miler wrote:

I think it's safe to say nobody will be taking your advice, but thanks.

I think you avoiding conversation about your running may have more to do with nobody wanting to talk to you.

That's too bad but at least you know why you make eyes glaze over as you go on and on about your meaningless hobby.

You would be wrong about the second one too.

Looks like you've tried to alter what the thread is about, which was about finding it awkward when friends/coworkers and family ask about your running when they know nothing about the sport. Nothing to do with going on and on or bragging.

Not answering when somebody asks you isn't the right thing to do, obviously. And if your friends and family don't ask about your running (knowing it is important to you) then that is very strange but whatever. Normal humans are interested in the activities of other humans that they are supposed to care about or like. If that's difficult for you to understand then please take this test:

They find it awkward because they assumed friends and family would learn about the sport to please them. If they hadn't made the mistake of going on about their little hobby then this scenario would have never happened.

Friends and family don't know it's important because I've never made it seem important. It really isn't in the grand scheme of things. Lots of more important topics to talk about.

Haven't you ever heard people whisper something like "Here comes Bob, DON'T ask him about his running/triathlon/biking or you'll never get away from him. He'll keep you cornered all night".

Don't be Bob.

You seem a bit paranoid, don't mention it. There is certainly a healthy amount to discuss any topic and you have to be socially aware to know how far to delve into it. Obviously if someone asks you about your running and you dive into your complete training regimen, goals, and past race performances, that may be taking it too far. But it is totally acceptable to talk for a minute about your running without people thinking less of you.

Alright take the test:

http://illnessquiz.com/sociopath-test/

Fools... wrote:

Coworker: Oh, 3:02? Is that any good?

You: I was excited about it. I've been working pretty hard to hit 3:05. Now I just want to get under 3 hrs, haha.

Coworker: Oh, nice. Do you run quite a bit?

You: Yeah, I try to get 50-60 per week depending on my schedule. My wife and buddies think I'm nuts but I love it! There are people out there worse than me. A few guys I run with go like 100 miles a week and run 50 mile races through the mountains! Those dudes are nuts...

Coworker: Yeah, my dentist does ultras! I think he does ironmans too. Those guys are crazy, haha. Hey, you wanna grab a drink with the guys after work tonight?

For those who are new to this now hilarious/scary thread, above is the hypothetical convo that "don't mention it" views as bragging/over sharing. Poor chap must stand in a corner afraid of what others are thinking all day.

It's hypothetical because it never happens like that. You narcissists will stop at nothing to go on about your little hobby.

Geez.

Think about all the complaints about the facebook sharer. That's you but in real life.

Metric Miler wrote:

Alright take the test:

http://illnessquiz.com/sociopath-test/

don't mention it wrote:

Metric Miler wrote:

Alright take the test:

http://illnessquiz.com/sociopath-test/

http://illnessquiz.com/narcissistic-personality-test/

(I know you are probably a troll and you have successfully gotten two of us. However, this message is just in case you really do feel afraid to discuss your interests with your friends. Based on your posts, you are. You are also afraid to ask your friends about their interests. This is not normal, but it is not that uncommon either. I do underhand that this type of fear can be a real problem for some people and I do not mean to make light of social anxiety as it is not a joking matter...)

Try to remind yourself that most people are too busy worrying about what you think of them to even bother thinking negative things about you. People like to be liked. People enjoy making friends. People like being listened to. Try asking your friends about their interests. You might find that some of their interests actually interest you. You might find that your friend has a hidden talent that they have worked hard to obtain. You might gain a whole new appreciation for someone.

Try talking about your own interests with people.

You might find that their are people out there with similar interests. You might find that people are excited to hear you discuss something that YOU are excited about. You might gain new confidence. Of course, their is always the risk of over-sharing and being obnoxious. The line should be clear though. If you struggle with knowing where the line is, seek help from a professional (not a slam... Some people do struggle socially).

Good luck, bud.

*I do know the difference between there and their. Apparently when I go into counseling mode, my grammar goes out the window. Just wanted to correct that so you wouldn't produce some type of negative social response. A gramme is better than a damn.

You sound needy. The OP asked about hating discussing running. The solution for something you hate is to stop doing it.

Metric Miler stated that he hoped road miles became more popular because he clearly wants to go on about his specialty and have more people understand it. That's odd.

You are either anti-social or lack general reading comprehension. The OP's title mentioned that he hated discussing running. However, his actual post made it clear that he does not hate it. He hates feeling self-conscious, misunderstood, and/or under appreciated. It is okay to feel these things and it these feelings don't make someone narcissistic. It is human nature. Others tried to offer legitimate advice; you, on the other hand, were a jerk and insinuated that people who talk themselves or their interests were braggarts. You proceeded to admit that you don't ask people about their interests because they aren't the exact same as your own. This admittance should disqualify you from being taking seriously when it comes to social graces.

Oliver Stanley wrote:

I got this one

You do the marathon ??

Yea

What time you run ??

2:29

Ah , least you finished

Any women beat you ??

I beat most of the women, but all the pregnant ones...

"Do you hate discussing running..."

Asks the guy posting on a forum for discussing running?

People don't get what he's going on about. Should they be obligated to in order for him to feel better?

Maybe they are the problem and you can harp on about them instead of me.

Just go for transparency, not overexplanation or false self-deprecation if you are the shit.

Someone asks you your time, reply with the time. If they are overimpressed, just let it be. Don't encourage them, but don't say it sucks compared to what you used to run or what pros are running because a hobby jogger is lurking in the midst and it is like a thin person complaining they are fat.

If they are nonplussed, don't explain how good it is (I think this goes without saying.)

Possible answers to "Is that good?":

It's good for me, not a Kenyan.

It's good for an average person, but average for a really good person. (both tooting your horn and being self-deprecating at the same time)

I'm going to the Olympic trials, bitches--but not gonna win.

Yes.

Metric Miler wrote:

The worst response is "is that good?"

Really? It doesn't bother me at all, because aren't 99.9% of us hobby joggers anyway?

Metric Miler wrote:

Alright take the test:

http://illnessquiz.com/sociopath-test/

I passed with flying colors, not only am I the smartest guy in the room, but I am the best sociopath too... and I have no doubt I could run a 5k marathon!

A work colleague of mine asked me what my best 5K time was, and when I told him I ran 15:36 when I was younger, he was astonished. I told him that it really isn't a good time for a competitive college runner, and he thought I was just being super modest. He then told me that "15 minutes is incredible", so I told him it was actually only 15:36, which now made probably made him think I was neurotic. Bottom line, I agree, it can be an awkward thing to talk about with certain folks.