Epidemic of attractive 30-somethings getting cheated on by their husbands

The hell with the business. I just want some good sex which I haven't had in 2yrs.

I was just talking with a friend about how difficult it is for a woman to work in a company with a lot of guys. my job is over events and I have to encourage the employees (mostly men) to go out to the social activities and have fun while they are there. It is really trixy for me. I have to round up everyone to go out. I know one guy wants to date me so I have to ask the EA to ask him to join the event so he doesn't get the wrong idea. It is very difficult. I think if they met you, it would be a lot easier.

Some really ignorant assertions being made by folks on this thread, i.e. "women after 30 are useless sexually". That is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. Has to be some inexperienced early 20s guys.

I'm in my late 40s and since my marriage ended 3 years ago, I have been with women from 28 to 48 (hit the bar scene for first time in 20+ years and had a BLAST on Match.com before finding a keeper). There are plenty of fit, beautiful, very sexual 40-something women out there who are READY, IYKWIM. My theory, based on observation and conversation, is they were sexually and/or emotionally repressed in their marriages and are "awakening" and feeling free for the first time in years.

The girl I've been with for the past 1 1/2 years is 42 and looks about 30 from head to toe (blonde, 5-7, 118, runs, does yoga and works out regularly). We go at it 5-7 times a week, sometimes multiple times a day. She can't get enough.

I've been with younger and "older" recently, and I say there is nothing sexier than a 40-something chick who is fit, takes care of herself AND is hot to trot. Great sex for women doesn't end at 30, people.

Sorry, mods, if the above was TMI. I just thought over-30 women were getting a bad rap and the record needed to be set straight.

This is an interesting topic and as a married man who enjoys the chase and flirtation stage (though I've stayed faithful so far) , it's got me wondering how many men are trying to hook up with my wife?

She's quite attractive and has a decent social life so if every man is like me, there must be quite a few people who want to bang her.

This is a man speaking from experience. You can't sexually compare a 20 something woman with woman in her 30s/40s. There is no comparison. The 20 yr olds are usually just babes and no nothing, still shy, have hang-ups, etc. All that typically goes away in the 30s/40s. Women are absolute fvck monsters in their 30s/40s. Sadly, that tends to change once they enter their 50s.

It's nothing to worry about. The biggest concern is the stability of your wife's job. If someone high up in the company likes your wife she has to be very careful. If he feels rejected then she loses her job. best to have the husband present.

Frogger wrote:

This is an interesting topic and as a married man who enjoys the chase and flirtation stage (though I've stayed faithful so far) , it's got me wondering how many men are trying to hook up with my wife?

She's quite attractive and has a decent social life so if every man is like me, there must be quite a few people who want to bang her.

If she's attractive, you can bet more than quite a few. There's probably a lot of things she doesn't tell you about all the dogs in heat chasing her.

I am 30 and got divorced 2 years ago. In the last two years I have dated women between 23 and 35. Personally speaking I would prefer to be with someone over 30. The 26 and under girls talk a lot about how they love sex and are good at it and so forth. the 30-35 year olds back it up in the bedroom. They are freaks and they want it all the time. I am to the point know that I would prefer to be with a fit, good looking, 30 year old over a young 23 year old and I really never thought that would be the case 2 years ago.

onlooker123456789 wrote:

I am 30 and got divorced 2 years ago. In the last two years I have dated women between 23 and 35. Personally speaking I would prefer to be with someone over 30. The 26 and under girls talk a lot about how they love sex and are good at it and so forth. the 30-35 year olds back it up in the bedroom. They are freaks and they want it all the time. I am to the point know that I would prefer to be with a fit, good looking, 30 year old over a young 23 year old and I really never thought that would be the case 2 years ago.

Yes indeed. Sooner or later, every red blooded man eventually learns that 30+ women rock out in the BR. The 20 somethings are pretty much a waste of time except maybe as eye candy.

lollllllllllllllllll wrote:

Most women aren't worth anything sexually post 30. The usual reason is they've had so many partners and try to bluff when they don't have the cards too.

God is a just God. Women are basically dead by age 30 sexually and God did this because most women usually deserve it.

Some women don't and they're actually worth something, like LoLo Jones for instance. Virgin, smokin' hot, fast, and desperate for something hard. Isn't surprising how that works. Sex ages women. College degrees and stress age women. Make up ages women. Being out of shape ages women. Drinking/smoking/drugs ages women.

Grow up kid and go back to your video games. Wait 15 years and get back to us, perhaps by then you may get a clue. Moron

Truth.

'the biological urge to get busy' don't care about cost/benefit analysis holmes.

Don't get it wrote:

What I don't get is the cost/benefit analysis of the decision to cheat

Lets Get Real Fellow wrote:

Frogger wrote:

This is an interesting topic and as a married man who enjoys the chase and flirtation stage (though I've stayed faithful so far) , it's got me wondering how many men are trying to hook up with my wife?

She's quite attractive and has a decent social life so if every man is like me, there must be quite a few people who want to bang her.

If she's attractive, you can bet more than quite a few. There's probably a lot of things she doesn't tell you about all the dogs in heat chasing her.

This is true. My attractive daughter has had multiple men hit on her at work. She gets so sick of it, but it is a delicate situation to balance. She has to work with these men so doesn't want the situation to become uncomfortable. It amazes her how blunt and persistent some of these men are. Not only are most married, but they also know she is married. A couple have been so relentless she could probably claim harassment. However, she does not tell her husband. Why would she? She doesn't want him to worry about it or in any way feel threatened by a bunch of losers.

It's better if your daughter is open with her husband about these things. If he finds out by accident, her credibility suffers even if the guys are the ones pulling strings and she's faithfully holding them off.

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Don't get me wrong. I understand the reasons why 23-year old strange might be enticing. What I don't understand is the decision making process. Does anyone think Tiger Woods wouldn't take it all back if he could? Banging all of those waitresses and skanks cost him $100 million and his golf game hasn't been the same. Plus, most guys don't have a Lindsey Vonn waiting in the wings.

My argument is that if these guys just thought about what they were doing and what 15 minutes of strange would "cost" them they probably would be happy with what they have.

I dont know your age, but you arent taking into account the huge ego stroke of having a young attractive women tell you she wants to have sex with you. And it doesnt even have to be young- just different..

Your wife will assume you are off the shelf and unavaliable so she will treat you as such. You become "safe" so she gives you a bj ever month and lets you bang her for 15 min once or twice a month blah blah boring boring. Then along comes someone new.. someone that makes you feel special and attractive...

I dont understand what there is to find out.

I'm lucky I work with all harmless mega nerds who don't know how to approach women.

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Is scoring some 23-yr old tail worth the shame of divorce, the financial distress, and having to tell your kids that you are a cheating a-hole?

Yes, it is. Absolutely.

..but I'd like to think that if I ever walked into my office and found a hot, 19-year old sprawled naked on my desk that I could turn it down.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Please...I did all of the above. I showered my wife with affection and attention, I helped with the kids, did dishes, folded clothes, cleaned bathrooms, mowed the lawn, fixed the cars...all of that while working two jobs and 60-70 hours a week, and at times I worked three. She still treated me like crap and once the kids came along intimacy was totally over. I never cheated, I asked for a divorce because cheating was going to be my next option and I didn't want to put my wife or kids through that. There are plenty of guys out there that give their hearts and souls to their wife and family and get nothing in return. Halfway through our marriage I agreed to move away from a house and community I loved to live near her family, and that was the biggest mistake I made because after that I was of no use to her.

This is why men are much easier to figure out. If we're in love and our needs are being met, our devotion is pure and unlimited.But women are volatile creatures and their maternal instincts cloud what motivations they may have for entering into a relationship.

No offense, you seem like a good dude, but your biggest mistake is that you did too much. You became Beta and not Alpha. You let your wife get away with too much, so much so that she had basically no accountability in the relationship. You should have layed some serious smackdowns prior to her cranking out kids. You let her get away with everything, and her final shot is now that you are "no use to her".

Typical princess b*tch.

Not picking on you...it happened to me too. I went above and beyond, worshipped my wife, etc. She just sat and acted miserable. I was a whipped passive puppy...and I too left my wife because I knew I deserved better.

After the split, my counselor told me to work on establishing boundaries. Simply tell your next partner what you will and will not stand for. They may hate your rules, but they will respect you for it. If they break the boundaries, LEAVE.