Girl Wants to Workout out With Me. Please Translate.

Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:

I honestly wasn't going to reply but this update is necessary and describes the bizarre twist which happened.

I knew this girl through her roommate. The roommate is a sweet girl but I would never make advances on her because she isn't attractive. I will now refer to the attractive one as "Blondie" and the other as my friend.

A week ago Blondie initiated communication with me and I was pleased how nicely things were falling into place. In an earlier post I mentioned that she began taking extremely long to respond to my txt messages and it got to the point where she stopped responding all together. Just to be clear I only txted her 5 times in a span of over a week. When she took long to respond or failed to respond all together I would put her on 24 hour radio silence just to make sure I wasn't coming off as too eager.

The day I posted that things weren't looking too good was the day hell broke loose at my friend's apartment. I only got some details but it sounds like Blondie is a psycho bitch. She is an athlete and is taking summer classes but from what I gather neither went or are going well. Blondie had a nervous breakdown and vandalized the entire apartment resulting in the three other roommates including my friend to immediately vacate the apartment that evening. Blondie is leaving on Sunday and is probably taking the Fall semester off.

This is the one instance in which playing it overly cautious has played well for me. I didn't get caught in the fray and have no personal ties to Blondie. My friend was actually homeless for an evening and crashed on someone's couch. Its kind of disappointing that I couldn't tell you guys some macho, sexually graphic story but I am glad I didn't go too far down this rabbit hole. I guess the lesson of the story is vetting someone is never a bad idea even if you may c*ck block yourself.

During this time I've been txting girls which aren't as attractive as Blondie but are definitely worth pursuing because they are normal and as of right now sane.

P.S. To clarify to Flagpole who challenged my daily agenda. I said I WORK 14 hours a day PLUS exercise and personal care. During the work week I typically only have an hour of personal time which cuts into my allotted time to sleep. I'm happy you are raising your kids properly and if I had a girlfriend I definitely wouldn't be exercising as much or making myself as many meals - because its the woman's duty to cook!

Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:

I honestly wasn't going to reply but this update is necessary and describes the bizarre twist which happened.

I knew this girl through her roommate. The roommate is a sweet girl but I would never make advances on her because she isn't attractive. I will now refer to the attractive one as "Blondie" and the other as my friend.

A week ago Blondie initiated communication with me and I was pleased how nicely things were falling into place. In an earlier post I mentioned that she began taking extremely long to respond to my txt messages and it got to the point where she stopped responding all together. Just to be clear I only txted her 5 times in a span of over a week. When she took long to respond or failed to respond all together I would put her on 24 hour radio silence just to make sure I wasn't coming off as too eager.

The day I posted that things weren't looking too good was the day hell broke loose at my friend's apartment. I only got some details but it sounds like Blondie is a psycho bitch. She is an athlete and is taking summer classes but from what I gather neither went or are going well. Blondie had a nervous breakdown and vandalized the entire apartment resulting in the three other roommates including my friend to immediately vacate the apartment that evening. Blondie is leaving on Sunday and is probably taking the Fall semester off.

This is the one instance in which playing it overly cautious has played well for me. I didn't get caught in the fray and have no personal ties to Blondie. My friend was actually homeless for an evening and crashed on someone's couch. Its kind of disappointing that I couldn't tell you guys some macho, sexually graphic story but I am glad I didn't go too far down this rabbit hole. I guess the lesson of the story is vetting someone is never a bad idea even if you may c*ck block yourself.

During this time I've been txting girls which aren't as attractive as Blondie but are definitely worth pursuing because they are normal and as of right now sane.

P.S. To clarify to Flagpole who challenged my daily agenda. I said I WORK 14 hours a day PLUS exercise and personal care. During the work week I typically only have an hour of personal time which cuts into my allotted time to sleep. I'm happy you are raising your kids properly and if I had a girlfriend I definitely wouldn't be exercising as much or making myself as many meals - because its the woman's duty to cook!

Neliah2507 wrote:

Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:

This girl I know through a friend and I have been txting a bit. She suggested that we go running or swimming together some time. Quoting her, "Its always a lot easier to do a workout with someone else so if u ever want to im down haha". I am three years older than her and to be honest I don't know her that well. I am definitely going to take up her offer at some point but I will go about it slowly because we are both busy and I don't see the point in rushing it.

So was I immediately put in the friend zone or is pound city coming my way?

It depends what you mean by "slowly."

I'm not sure how old this girl is, but I'm 26. She sounds like she is a bit younger. However, this is pretty close to a message I would send a guy if I was attracted to him. I think there is an even greater chance she is doing this based off physical attraction because she doesn't personally know you. There's not too many other ways that you can easily get someone to hang out in a 1 v 1 scenario that isn't labeled as some sort of date. I just had a guy who has been eye f*cking me at the gym for almost a week now finally strike up a convo with me today. By the time I left to go home he asked me to be his "running partner" sometime. I think that is and ALWAYS is the first way a guy tries to get me to hang out.

Point is, she is attracted to you. I don't think you have to be worried about being friend zone guy for awhile. It's not like she's going to expect you to pull her shorts down and do her on mile 5. Give her something that will leave her hanging. Make a flirty comment, wink at her, squeeze her arm, accidentally touch the small of her back. If you do something to indirectly confirm your attraction, you'll be fine.