Any women on here who don't particularly want to get married?

Hi. I am in my mid 30's and am not sure if I really want to get married either. I have never wanted children. Although It would be awesome to find someone I could really click with, it hasn't happened in a way that has lasted. Movies portray relationships as so idealistic. But the reality is they can get stale easily if u don't both work at it. I'd like to think it could happen but .... In the meantime I am happy pursuing my a career (I also have a PH.D. and make a decent salary) traveling, running, dating new people, making new friends, and trying all the novel things that married people are not able to do. Carpe diem!

I'm a 36 year old woman in a long term relationship. Honestly, I love the idea of The Ring and The Dress, but the rest of it.....not too sure. We don't live together, and at this point in my life, it would be really tough to co-habitate when I'm so used to having my own space etc. Neither of us want kids thankfully, otherwise this could be a really complicated situation.

I agree with the fact that many women throw out the "I never want to get married..." line because it is easier to set yourself up for that then it is to want to get married and seem 'pathetic.'

That being said, this whole 'all women want kids' idea is bs. I can assure you, I am way too selfish to have kids. I have never wanted kids or found it to be some cute, exciting idea. I know, I know, my feelings might change. And they might. But the thought of a baby is enough for me to take the bridge-it just isn't my thing. My friends can't wait to have babies and I am insanely happy for them and even happier for myself that I can visit and look at the kids and pass it right on back to them when I have had enough.

Why do I feel this way? A combination of things. The first is I was the youngest of all cousins on both sides of the family so I literally have never been around or even held a baby. My brother is 11 years older; he doesn't have kids and most likely will not. Most of all I just don't have that motherly personality thing going on. It just isn't who I am.

About the cool factor. I generally feel like I am cooler than the other side of the pillow. I feel like the people I spend my time with are pretty cool as well. It has been my experience that those individuals who need to ask if they are cool or not, are usually not. Mostly, I just don't give a damn.

Seriously though, being single is fun. I would love to find someone who can handle me enough to marry me someday, I am sure that would be amazing. But for today and tomorrow and every wonderful day after that, I am enjoying the time I have with myself and my friends.

One last note. Not for nothing, I am not sure if I have ever heard someone say, “I wish I had gotten married sooner.” It is usually the other way around.

run4fun321 wrote:

trying all the novel things that married people are not able to do.

Other than "dating new people", what are these things married people can't do that you can?

as soon as I saw rsbones post, I was expecting something misogynistic like all his other posts.

As an older male, around 60, here is my perspective: The only reason to get married is to have children and raise a family. If you are not interested in that I really don't see the point.

You can have long-term relationships if you wish, but why are even worrying about whether to make a lifetime committment with someone when there is no real financial or tangible benefit?

Now if you decide you want to have children some day it makes the decision more complicated.

You sound fairly well adjusted... sort of.

Just to be clear though, you are definitely not cool.