junga wrote:
Ante up wrote:Thus proving that all men are pigs, and that all you want is to get into her pants.Seriously, that would creep anyone out.
Thus proving that Ante up is an idiot.
You're right Michael Bolton, try that line and lets see how much you get....I'm guessing about as much as you get now....none.
Whether the 2 of you are 25 or 55, it is NONE OF EITHER'S Business. Immature to even ask, or offer info on such a personal matter. Best left unsaid forever and a day.
Better hope that you've led a perfect life honey, because sooner or later you are going to Jonesing for a guy who takes issue with something you've done. You might not enjoy being judged.
Having said that, it is legit to be concerned about STD, but by the time that issue comes up you could ask about their sexual health legitimately
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I messed up and learned wrote:
I met a hot, athletic, smart woman last night. Things were going great, tons of common ground and similar interests. We were just having fun and laughing and she asks when was the last time I "got any". I tried to laugh it off and she asks again so I said "a couple of weeks, what about you?" She said about a week.
More joking laughing then she asks how many woman I have been with. I try to bypass the question, make a joke, ask her something but she presses so I answer and ask what about her.
Well I said my number was 8, she said hers was 4.....then she gets all weird and stops talking. I ask what happened she said mine is too many, she goes totally cold on me and suddenly has to leave.
Before this melt down I got her phone number and we made a date for New Years Eve together. I sent her a text, and got no response.
I think I am out...what should I do? How should I have answered?
dude, if she is this possessive already, you are MUCH better off without her - MUCH, MUCH better. Soon it will be "who were you talking to?", and "Who were you looking at?" Get drubk new years eve, sleep with some sleazoid, and foget about the possessive witch. If she wants you, she will call. And if she does...I wouldn't answer.
Do escorts count?
How do you answer when she asks how many other woman I have been with
Well I would tell her truthfully that I don't know you but that you posted that the number was 8. I will remind her that posters often lie.
Then I would ask her why she is asking me about some anonymous poster's sex life.
I messed up and learned wrote:
Update...
Thanks everyone for the advice.
We talked yesterday for about an hour. Things seem okay and we have a tentative date set up for Sunday. I am a little concerned it will happen...like all woman she really seems to enjoy sending mixed signals. I get a slight sense she is playing and leading me on so we'll see if the date happens.
She said my number of 8 shocked her because she is looking for a realationship and it seemed high. She was afraid I just want to have sex with her and nothing else. The guy she was with last week is her "f**k buddy" haha...those were her exact words! She said she would rather be with fewer guys and have just one "f**K buddy" to take care of her needs. She says she wants a relationship and will get rid of the "f**K buddy" when she actually has a boyfriend.
Women are weird, I dont know what if our date will happen Sunday but I'll let everyone know.
dude, i'm going to level with you. i'm the f*ck buddy, don't ruin this for me.
concerned female wrote:
It's not tacky. It's important to have an idea of how many women a guy's been with to know how many diseases he might have. One guy I dated said he has been with about 20 women. Does that mean it's really 40 or 10?
No, you both go and get an STD test and HIV test, than have at it. There is no reason to answer this question unless both people can handle the answer.
I messed up and learned wrote:
Update...
Thanks everyone for the advice.
We talked yesterday for about an hour. Things seem okay and we have a tentative date set up for Sunday. I am a little concerned it will happen...like all woman she really seems to enjoy sending mixed signals. I get a slight sense she is playing and leading me on so we'll see if the date happens.
She said my number of 8 shocked her because she is looking for a realationship and it seemed high. She was afraid I just want to have sex with her and nothing else. The guy she was with last week is her "f**k buddy" haha...those were her exact words! She said she would rather be with fewer guys and have just one "f**K buddy" to take care of her needs. She says she wants a relationship and will get rid of the "f**K buddy" when she actually has a boyfriend.
Women are weird, I dont know what if our date will happen Sunday but I'll let everyone know.
You are about to mess up again big time. I hope you learn something this time.
This bitch wants to have her cake and eat it too.
Update: Our Sunday date didn't not happen. This chick is some kind of lunatic or just loves leading guys on or something...looking for attention, bored, ego boost or whatever.
Yesterday, when I tried to set up the details of the date her cell wouldn't answer, she didn't respond to email or IM.
We IM'd this morning but she was giving weird short responses. She said she still wants to meet sometime and to call her later.
This whole thing was odd, some smoking hot woman expresses interest in me...I am okay looking but she is way out of my league in the looks department. I think she just likes to mess with guys and lead them on.
I messed up and learned wrote:
Update: Our Sunday date didn't not happen. This chick is some kind of lunatic or just loves leading guys on or something...looking for attention, bored, ego boost or whatever.
Yesterday, when I tried to set up the details of the date her cell wouldn't answer, she didn't respond to email or IM.
We IM'd this morning but she was giving weird short responses. She said she still wants to meet sometime and to call her later.
This whole thing was odd, some smoking hot woman expresses interest in me...I am okay looking but she is way out of my league in the looks department. I think she just likes to mess with guys and lead them on.
You are learning something after all. Now go forth, and be stupid no more.
does it count if you dont orgasm?
frankly speaking wrote:
does it count if you dont orgasm?
Only if you're Bll Clinton
That isn't true ... and I have the dress to prove it.
I thought it was a factor of 3, with men increasing their number 3x and women reducing their number by 2/3. Either way, according to the OP he was not counted in her # and she shouldn't have let it be a deal-breaker if she's worth being with. The OP got a premature glimpse into her neuroses and should be glad to have the early warning and easy escape.
I messed up and learned wrote:
I met a hot, athletic, smart woman last night. Things were going great, tons of common ground and similar interests. We were just having fun and laughing and she asks when was the last time I "got any". I tried to laugh it off and she asks again so I said "a couple of weeks, what about you?" She said about a week.
She's competeing, as if to say I'm less deparate.
More joking laughing then she asks how many woman I have been with. I try to bypass the question, make a joke, ask her something but she presses so I answer and ask what about her.
Well I said my number was 8, she said hers was 4.....then she gets all weird and stops talking. I ask what happened she said mine is too many, she goes totally cold on me and suddenly has to leave.
She just got laid last week, but has only had three other partners?
Before this melt down I got her phone number and we made a date for New Years Eve together. I sent her a text, and got no response.
I think I am out...what should I do? How should I have answered?
This chick is a psycho. First off, no one asks the initial question unless they are incredibly insecure/immature, and expects an accurate or honst answer that is. If her concern was legit, she might have asked about STDs/testing, if you're bi or some kind of furry/cuddle party kook.
Avoid this loser like the plague.
Anyway a definite figure other than zero is a so-so response.
It means you keep count, just say quite a few, not so many or
whatever doesn't really matter. Mind you I'd never admit to
94 or so!
wineturtle wrote:
Truth wins:
"No new partners since my latest STD test results if that's what you are asking... and you".
"I take my health seriously and before we get sexually involved we'll have a conversation about STDs and protection... are you thinking we need to have it tonight(now)?"
"What testing protocol do you use? Along with always using a condom. I'm tested for STDs every 6 months."
"I've averaged about 2 new partners yearly". Do not include the math!!!!!!! let her figure it out...so since 1958 that makes it just about a hundred huh?.
Please DO NOT look around the bar and say I see three references here now, if that's not enough there will be more later... that only worked with enlightened feminist bra burners during the late '60s. They demanded their rightful place on top during sex ... yeah.... pretty much got laid just by saying "You can be on top."
Sucks to be young in todays STD/AIDS environment doesn't it?
I was really lucky had 20/25 years of pretty uncomplicated 'sexual revolution' sex, post birthcontrol and pre AIDS.Being the manager of singles bars didn't hurt either ;)
Buddy, STD's have been around long before "today". Herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and countless others that can lead to major health issues were plenty prevalent in '58, '68, '78, and '88. It was "uncomplicated" for you only because you existed in ignorant bliss.
You should have said, "one woman, your mother".