The cope fantasies from the incels and idealists in this thread is laughably sad. You guys are biting on an obvious 1/10 and need to go outside, talk to actual people, touch grass, etc.
How are they cope fantasies? Are you implying that every single man and woman wants sex? That's factually wrong. And even if the OP is a troll, who cares? The topic in and of itself may be worth discussing. And really the idea that a single man is single because every interaction he has with women is awkward is a shallow idea. It's entirely possible for single men to talk to women about topics that have nothing to do with romantic interest. If a woman feels bored or put off, it may be because she is narrow-minded and thinks that the only reason men want to talk, is because of sexual interest. That is information limiting and shallow.
you say this but the OP opines on her appearance, implies they discussed her status/relationship history, but then says nothing about the vibe. i don't know how it went but that scenario, to me, sounds like he came on strong, didn't just get to know her first, and she's like, guard up, woah, dude, i don't do relationships. or haven't had one yet.
to be fair, maybe i am misreading. or maybe this one is awkward but not the next. but i don't think i ever hit "ok, how many people you dated" on a first meeting -- not even a date yet. cause he's either asking the question or getting a full shields up "i don't do relationships" response. from which the backpedal is, hey, you just seemed interesting.
i don't think most people hanging out with the coed half of their TF/XC team, or some such, get that response. we hang out and just chat and flirt. no definitions. i think it was a season and change before a girl i hung around a lot was like, are you going to ask me out or what. i remember the JV girls seemed more sexually aggressive and i think it's they were not going to state or running in college, and didn't know if they'd finish that season or be back next year, so if the relationship blows up and it's uncomfortable, they just quit.
For bit more context to the title question, there's been this woman I've noticed at my local run club in recent weeks who's quite attractive. This weekend, I finally got to talk with her a little bit after our group run and I was pretty shocked to find out she's NEVER been in relationship. Never. I didn't want to pry too much by asking "why" but honestly I've been thinking about it and now it feels like I'm looking for reasons. Is this a red flag? Ladies of Letsrun, I know there must be a few of you out there, is this normal?
I was concentrating on my career and while I dated I wanted no part of a serious relationship until I was about 35. Up until then I worked long days and wanted the freedom to do what I wanted which could have included relocating for a job.
So, on its own, it isn't a red flag.
There is no reason that you can't concentrate on your career, work long days, and have freedom while in a serious relationship.
For bit more context to the title question, there's been this woman I've noticed at my local run club in recent weeks who's quite attractive. This weekend, I finally got to talk with her a little bit after our group run and I was pretty shocked to find out she's NEVER been in relationship. Never. I didn't want to pry too much by asking "why" but honestly I've been thinking about it and now it feels like I'm looking for reasons. Is this a red flag? Ladies of Letsrun, I know there must be a few of you out there, is this normal?
One non-trump graphic shows that 67% of marriages are now from online relationships. The #2 category is from friends and is at 18%! Church used to be the #1 category among the ten rated in this particular graphic. Now it is dead last! Maybe this graphic will change, but it should tell you something. For one thing DATING is almost non-existent especially among youngsters like most of you. (I define youngsters as anyone under 45.)
I know countless independent, motivated, career oriented women that still squeezed in relationships during med school and residency. It was so common infact that it would be super weird if they didn't.
Despite the rigors and time demands of medical school and residency, I feel like it's more common for doctors to exit their 20s/early 30s partnered than it is for their peers in other professions. Medical schools are about a 50/50 gender split these days, and they're populated primarily with people in the same age range with similar aspirations and lifestyles. Med schools and residencies are really conducive to people coupling up. Young people who work in other sectors, in contrast, may have coworkers with a greater variety of ages and interests, or they may work in more gender-segregated professions (teaching, software engineering, etc.).
I think "busy pursuing career" could still be a logical reason an otherwise appealing person not having been in a relationship, but I don't think MDs make for a strong counterexample.
Can only speak from experience…but not a red flag in my opinion. I’m female late 30s, starting dating current husband at 31 and he was my first relationship.
I had a family member who married badly and had an abusive and miserable marriage and life. So my feeling had always been I wanted to get married and hopefully have kids, but I would rather be alone than end up in a bad relationship. I am now a surgeon, but during med school/residency I dated but just never found the right person. I felt that I was working to have a fulfilling career, had great friends, close with family, loved travel and other things so I was not chomping at the bit to settle down with any dude. But also yes, in my case medical training was a significant strain on dating. Specialties vary, but surgery is pretty stressful terrible hours, it was hard to relate to a banker who worked 35 hours a week which were half golf when I was working 110 getting my butt kicked. Also just not enough hours in the week.
Did end up finding the right person and it was worth the wait. I am a runner and reasonably fit but I’m ugly as sin, so perhaps this doesn’t apply. She’s probably crazy.
For bit more context to the title question, there's been this woman I've noticed at my local run club in recent weeks who's quite attractive. This weekend, I finally got to talk with her a little bit after our group run and I was pretty shocked to find out she's NEVER been in relationship. Never. I didn't want to pry too much by asking "why" but honestly I've been thinking about it and now it feels like I'm looking for reasons. Is this a red flag? Ladies of Letsrun, I know there must be a few of you out there, is this normal?
You’ve described a very good friend of mine. She was sexually assaulted very early on, and that has caused her to steer clear of any type of relationship. Tread lightly and be kind. You never know what other people have experienced in their lives.
My gf is 29 and I’m her first boyfriend. She had a lot of bad things happen to her or close family and friends in her 20s such that dating wasn’t a priority, and for the few times when things weren’t as turbulent she didn’t find anyone or it didn’t go well enough or they weren’t able to commit to get to the point of a relationship.
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For bit more context to the title question, there's been this woman I've noticed at my local run club in recent weeks who's quite attractive. This weekend, I finally got to talk with her a little bit after our group run and I was pretty shocked to find out she's NEVER been in relationship. Never. I didn't want to pry too much by asking "why" but honestly I've been thinking about it and now it feels like I'm looking for reasons. Is this a red flag? Ladies of Letsrun, I know there must be a few of you out there, is this normal?
you "finally" got to talk to someone you find attractive and have been watching for weeks. You talk "a little bit" - how did the conversation go to end up with her telling you she's never had a relationship?
either you, her or both of you are quite strange, my money's on you
As a late 30s, married with 2 small kids, I can't think of a better green flag for something that would be my age without being married and with kids - especially if she is financially stable and otherwise independent.
As a late 30s, married with 2 small kids, I can't think of a better green flag for something that would be my age without being married and with kids - especially if she is financially stable and otherwise independent.
It’s not a red flag instead it’s called Christ Centeredness! The woman is a jewel in the crown and probably practices sexual purity, get it?
It's incel posts like this that make my stomach turn every time I just want to look up recent race results or training discussion. Let's Run, you can do better.
OP, just go to a therapist to work out your mommy issues and you'll be much happier.
