NYT: "How a Polyamorous Mom Had ‘a Big Sexual Adventure’ and Found Herself"

Only 2 and due to the death of the first one. (Just setting the record straight.)

In the absence of marriage, this would just be called dating or promiscuity or what have you. In marriage, it creates disaffection and strife more often than not because people are emotional creatures who are naturally jealous of others and worried that their partner wants someone else more than them. Human relationships are too complicated to do this as a way of life without difficulty. Children follow models they learn from their parents much of the time even if they ignore what we tell them to do, so they may learn to fear attachment or to engage in risky practices or to not value themselves highly. Such relationships also bring strangers into our houses and strangers and unrelated adults are far more likely to harm our children than our spouses, relative to opportunity. The whole movement is based on exploring the possibilities of the principle nothing is wrong that is not directly harmful when practiced by consenting adults. So, it is a manifestation of a basic desire for freedom, whether from morals or other controls. I've seen how it does not work out. It is always possible that some individuals are benefited.

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wsj.com

Polyamory: Lots of Sex, Even More Scheduling

elizabeth.bernstein.50

Open relationships are having a moment. Who has time for this?

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IIt's leaked into the Wall Street Journal as well

The point about there being little difference in marital satisfaction between traditional couples and open couples rings as plausible. Much of a relationship’s value, especially for the slightly older demographic, is in long-term support and companionship and co-parenting when kids are present, but that doesn’t have to be intertwined with sexual monogamy.

Some people find perfect partners that make them want nothing more physically or emotionally or in any aspect, but most people don’t; in fact, almost nobody does.

I don’t disagree with any of your observations except possibly the part in bold. The comparison baseline is a traditional monogamous marriage, and it is not clear to me that one that is monogamous by forced principle is happier than one that consensually chooses to not have that restriction.

I take a good look in the member every day. Sometimes twice.

A boston globe article talking about finances-

boston.com

For polyamorous people, there is no romance without finance

John Waller

Just as each configuration, often dubbed a “polycule,” is custom-made, these relationships also require custom-made financial considerations.

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I wonder why the push to make this more mainstream?