Girlfriend of 1 year that I live with wants to go on a girls trip to Nashville with her friends. I’ve heard all the stories of how girls trips they cheat. Should I tell my girlfriend she can’t go?
If she’s that type of gal, she’s already been cheating on you.
Yep, and now is a good time to find out if she's the cheating type... not in 10 years from now and two kids later. Let her go. (Nice troll btw... 7.5/10.)
What I have learned about humans in 40+ years of living is that anyone who fusses about cheating or is overly controlling is prone to cheating themselves. Like 75% of the time. It’s remarkable.
Break up with her now. Just the fact that she's telegraphing this means she is going to be cheating on you a lot in Nashville. You okay with that, Beta?
Breaking up with her in advance is always a good idea nowadays with people living together. Why does she need to go on a trip like that when she has an exciting sexy man available at home? That makes no sense. Try to break up amicably, let her know that you will always be a friend and that you respect her decision. Be the Butterfly.
Maybe someone else has said this. I haven't read the whole thread. Turn the tables here. If you were going to take a week's holiday to somewhere like Las Vegas with some of your guy buddies would she take that as a code term for cheating? If she did and told you you can't go how would you react? Looking to the future, is it going to be the "rule" in your relationship that a) she doesn't go away on overnights unless you're there too, b) you can go away on overnights even if she's not along, c) neither of you goes away overnight without the other with maybe exceptions for things like family visits?
And while you're pondering this, you might want to look a bit further into the future of what's going on between you two and what implications not "letting" her go has. Maybe she's impressed with how much you want to be with her. Such women exist. Maybe she begins re-evaluating your relationship with you because she begins seeing that being with you means not being able to do things, mostly social things, she's normally done because you have a problem with it. Maybe she begins to see you as too insecure and less attractive. (I've read here and there that self confidence is a powerful aphrodisiac and you're not showing a ton of it here.) Maybe she's insulted that you don't trust her. Maybe she tells you to piss off, says you have no say in this at all in this.
And if you're giving her the message that a briefly extended time away from each other means cheating is likely or at least possible why would she not think that you won't be above playing around while she's gone? For my part, if I was seriously involved with a woman that I didn't trust to be away with friends for a few days without me I think I'd have to reconsider whether I should stay in the relationship.
Why are you living with this woman if you do not trust her? But Robert Montgomery Knight and many others have always said that saying NO is a good idea. You can always change your mind later.
So 8nsecure. My wife goes on a girl's trip every year and I go on guys trips every year. I also do out of town races with friends. Neither of us is 8nsecure so we don't stress about it.
So 8nsecure. My wife goes on a girl's trip every year and I go on guys trips every year. I also do out of town races with friends. Neither of us is 8nsecure so we don't stress about it.
Girlfriend of 1 year that I live with wants to go on a girls trip to Nashville with her friends. I’ve heard all the stories of how girls trips they cheat. Should I tell my girlfriend she can’t go?
She should cheat considering the lame statement you're making. Lame duck you certainly are!
I’m sorry but what??? If she needs a girls trip the relationship is ending? So after what point in a relationship is “your” woman not allowed to go on girls trips? 3 months? 6 months? I feel for any women in relationships with the boys on this thread. What a bunch of insecure, pathetic, controlling d*bags.
Girlfriend of 1 year that I live with wants to go on a girls trip to Nashville with her friends. I’ve heard all the stories of how girls trips they cheat. Should I tell my girlfriend she can’t go?
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LRC denizens take note! THIS is how you do a troll thread.
Girlfriend of 1 year that I live with wants to go on a girls trip to Nashville with her friends. I’ve heard all the stories of how girls trips they cheat. Should I tell my girlfriend she can’t go?
insecure? "tell my girlfriend she can't go?" you don't own her.
Girlfriend of 1 year that I live with wants to go on a girls trip to Nashville with her friends. I’ve heard all the stories of how girls trips they cheat. Should I tell my girlfriend she can’t go?
I would encourage her to go. This will actually make her realise you trust her and are secure within yourself. She will respect you that much more and be much less likely to stray.
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