z cdkon wrote:
The comments towards the end of this page are pretty solid, but some of these comments, frankly make me a bit sad.
I appreciate the poster who pointed out that 1. Throwing and shattering a young child's favorite toy out of anger is going to teach that kid that that's an appropriate way to handle frustration and might thus, turn him into a bully. I also think it IS really important for you to apologize to your kids when you do something wrong to them, and that was just that. You talk irrational Rojo? it's completely irrational to throw a toy and break it because you're frustrated. Be an adult.
2. Guys. men. Boys. Gather round. When people talk about men having and showing healthy emotions, we are not trying to "feminize" you. We are literally trying to stop you from doing destructive things like this, and only relying on anger and anger alone. Running to blow off steam, or lifting, or yoga, or realizing that life is meaningless, or any of those suggestions might stave off an underlying issue for a brief period of time, but it can't be the only thing you do or rely on. if you are displaying violent behavior in front of your kids and you are angry all the time then YOU NEED TO GET HELP. See a therapist. Learn coping skills. These things don't have to be the norm.
3. For the people who have said well my dad did x and I got over it, well you don't know how OP's child is going to react to seeing this. Everyone is different.
4. kids are irrational. being a role model for healthy behavior and showing them compassion is really important in raising healthy, emotionally secure adults.
5. Parenting is hard. Which is why getting help to be your healthiest self is important.
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Kids don't mean to be irrational. Their brains are literally not fully developed.