Guys make big deal over girls running in sports bras/spandex

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

I think a lot of what you wrote is just inside your own head. Guys are checking you out because guys check out every female they see who is in tight-fitting or revealing clothes. Very, very few of them are judging them as whores or anything like that. Women very likely judge you more harshly than men, and women ogle guys who are fit and wearing little also. I know because as a runner turned lifter who still runs a little hear and there, it happens to me all the time.

Not defending guys whistling at you since I know women don't appreciate that, but whistling means they think you look good, not that they're judging you in any negative manner. I think you need to chill out a bit.

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

Feel free to do the same to any guy running with no shirt on. Watch the difference in reaction from yours. I would also like you to explain to me why I get laughed at when at work, female coworkers, feel free to feels my shoulder traps or back in general. In the opposite situation I'd be jobless on my way to see a judge. The hr lady laughed at me. Double standards.

docLorna wrote:

Because apparently, we’re all animals.

You seem to be struggling with this most basic fact.

It happens because there is a culture that not only tolerates it but encourages it. Many men encourage this kind of behavior between themselves and men who do not condone it our speak out against it are chastised for it. Just look at this thread.

I run in Florida a lot. If someone (guy or girl, but usually its a guy) whistles or yells something like "ayyyy looking good" at me while I'm running in a sports bra, I usually assume they're just appreciating my solid pace, they fact that I'm working out, and yeah maybe that I'm looking good because I'm out here putting in the work! Wearing less clothes generally makes you stand out if you're running anywhere but the beach. Especially during "winter" months...because right now most people in Florida are wearing jackets in 70 degree weather. Honestly a lot of guys will says "looking good, how far you going?!" or maybe a lil creepier but still generally friendly "whistle, ay looking good hun wish I could get out there running." I've been lucky where no one has ever said anything extremely degrading/sexualized, and yes that would definitely make me feel uncomfortable and no one should have to run being afraid of that!

But I do think that general attention happens because wearing less clothes is generally noticeable. General friendliness/acknowledging you're a beast for getting a good run in isn't necessarily something to immediately think "they're sexualizing me running in a sports bra!" But more overt comments are unacceptable and should be considered harassment.

You're a good sport.

Nice try. A girl did not write this.

Well, I'm a girl and I could have written almost exactly that same comment, so +1, headnod.

Yikesyikesyikes wrote:

One time a guy in his 30s shouted something at me while I was running in Golden Gate Park, San Francisco. I didn’t hear him and shouted back, “what?”

He said, “you’re hot!” Then grabbed his crotch.

I was in high school at the time. Yikes!

***I should add I’m a guy, this was in the late ‘90s, near a notorious “cruising” spot in GGP.

ashcash23 wrote:

Guys please explain to me

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

There's nothing wrong with you, or what you're doing. You deserve to be able to workout in peace without being harassed. That being said, a certain percentage of men don't know how to act, when they see an attractive, fit female. It's unfortunate. It should change, but it probably won't in time for your next run.

Considering the world we live in, do what you decide is best for you.

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

Still waiting on the OP and or any white knight to give me an explanation for why double standards that go beyond harassment into sexual assault from women are tolerated? Thank you

ashcash23 wrote:

I’m not saying all guys of course but i’m a female that lives in florida so it gets pretty hot here in the afternoons. I wear a sports bras/nike pros or just regular nike tempo shorts and in the past 2 weeks 3 men have approached me and one has whistled like i’m some skank or something. Guys are able to go shirtless and be fine but I swear some females wear a sports bra running and we are considered the “whores” and men think we are wearing that to get there attention. LIKE NO ITS JUST HOT AF lol. Guys please explain to me why do you think so men do this? The 3 men were older (maybe 40s) but the one suprisngly looked in his early 20s.

0/10 or you’re just stupid. They are whistling at you because they think you’re attractive. How does this mean they think you’re a whore? Guys probably shouldn’t do this because it makes girls uncomfortable but to say they are calling you a whore or skank is very stupid so I don’t feel bad for you because you’re too dumb to feel bad for.

Runner's world did an article on this years ago. Women being cat called and honked at while out on runs. The article was filled with only anecdotal evidence with the author (male) saying he never experienced it but heard other women experienced it. I was shocked.

My own anecdotal experience was that I was honked at, yelled at, whistled at by women, called homophobic slurs, bottles have been thrown at me plenty. My two sisters who both run have never experienced this. Almost all of my harassment has come when I wear short shorts or no shirt. Its very degrading.

If you run by yourself carry pepper spray if you can get one legally. I'm a male, but sometimes when I go out in uncharted territory I carry a small one just in case. I think every runner should follow this. Be safe out there ?

This is ‘Merica! Carry a gun shoot those whistling pigs

Runningart2004 wrote:

uhhhh wrote:

I totally understand that it is hot and you want to stay cool. Me being a guy though and knowing how guys think, I would never dress like that as a girl if I was running. Like another poster said, men are very visual creatures. Whether you are looking for attention or not, you are receiving a large amount of attention from guys whether they make it apparent or not. You are potentially putting yourself in a place of danger by dressing like this.

We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.

Alan

See, he wasn't blaming the victim though. Most of the time when people like you shout "victim blaming" what actually is happening is that somebody is telling the truth about the way things are, and giving a warning. If a woman dresses scantily and gets assaulted it is in no way her fault, it is entirely on the shoulders of the person that committed the crime and they should be punished for it. But does that change the fact that dressing like a whore attracts unwanted attention? Could they have perhaps done something different in order to not risk the danger? Any action on the woman's part doesnt condone assault, but there are many actions the woman could take in order to keep herself safe.

It has to be really hot before I go shirtless b/c I think it makes me look like a tool.

Catcalling girls is wack, but there will probably always be cat callers, so either embrace it (I've been cat called running past a gay bar, it was flattering), or wear spaghetti strap thing (or whatever it's called)

Runningart2004 wrote:

uhhhh wrote:

I totally understand that it is hot and you want to stay cool. Me being a guy though and knowing how guys think, I would never dress like that as a girl if I was running. Like another poster said, men are very visual creatures. Whether you are looking for attention or not, you are receiving a large amount of attention from guys whether they make it apparent or not. You are potentially putting yourself in a place of danger by dressing like this.

We victim blaming now? At risk for what? How about we blame the predator rapist not the potential victim. Thanks.

Alan

Yeah, stop the victim blaming. Women should dress how ever they wish according to the law. Decency and those who actually love FREEDOM, should never blame a woman for being assaulted based on how she dresses.