Good work on asking her out man. Next time you see her make sure to keep looking down at the ground. Don't look at her. You want her to know you don't care about her anymore. Not looking at her will show this. If she tries to make conversation pretend you can't hear her. Possibly cover your ears with your hands and start shouting. She will get really annoyed that you aren't noticing her anymore and start to want you.
Or you could try and be the cool dude who keeps coming in for his coffee and being friendly like it was no big deal - it says you're secure enough in your manhood that one rejection doesn't send you scuttling away with your tail between your legs. Who knows? Maybe that'll make her think of some friend of hers you'd be perfect for. Maybe an ice cream shop girl.
I will walk in today and act as if nothing has happened. Like it hasn't bothered me at all.
master tactician wrote:
Trust me, if you get rejected its going to suck at first, but I guarantee when you walk out of that place, when its all over with, you'll feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders and be able to hold your head up high knowing you went down like a man: swinging. Just be in the moment, and lock eyes with her when you pop the question so she has to give you a straight answer.
You're right it did suck, I didn't think I would feel as frustrated and pathetic as I did last night. But it did feel a little better than not asking.
Keep asking her out until she files a restraining order. Keep this thread alive.
Ask the cute ice cream shop girl to join you for coffee... then get ready to turn the tables....
stuck with match.com wrote:
A special shout outs to
Girl Probs in college - Your since advice was great and helpful
Mrs. M. - Sometimes critical but you kept on giving
Mr. Obvious - Kept it real
I know I'm a dick - your criticism kept me on task
SUP BRO - Always funny, it would be great to see one more post from you
damn straight.
The fact that you buy outrageously priced coffee shop coffee speaks volumes, even if you are trolling.
1) you are gullible and stupid.
2) being gullible and stupid clouds your judgement
3) Because you are gullible and stupid enough to buy the coffee, you are also stupid enough to believe she likes you.
4) She smiles at you because it is her job.
5) What you think is chemistry is in fact your desire for your morning coffee.
6) Her idea of chemistry is smiling/flirting with this gullible and stupid loser so he will throw more money into the tip jar.
7) Read the previous 6 points again until you wise up.
My baby is coming back to me!
Dave the Dude wrote:
The fact that you buy outrageously priced coffee shop coffee speaks volumes, even if you are trolling.
1) you are gullible and stupid.
2) being gullible and stupid clouds your judgement
3) Because you are gullible and stupid enough to buy the coffee, you are also stupid enough to believe she likes you.
4) She smiles at you because it is her job.
5) What you think is chemistry is in fact your desire for your morning coffee.
6) Her idea of chemistry is smiling/flirting with this gullible and stupid loser so he will throw more money into the tip jar.
7) Read the previous 6 points again until you wise up.
Dam dude what are you some kind of jerk? Don't you think I feel bad enough that I emberassed myself and got rejected. I know its easy to criticize me on these boards for my actions and the fact that I got rejected. But I thought I had a chance. 1. There was no tip jar, please read earlier posts. 2. She was trying to iniate contact outside of work. The fact is I manned up, took the risk and went for it. I felt like I was in a lose - lose situation. If I asked her and got rejected I was gonna get bashed on here. If I asked her and she said yes nobody would believe. Just like nobody believed when I got her number.
Dude, im proud of you. You proved that you are a man, and you can initiate contact with girls, unlike most of the losers here on letsrun, whom have never had gf's, much less sex. All I can say is better luck next time, and I hope you find a girl.
How about that girl that works nights at the XXX shop??
the alpha and omega male wrote:
Dude, im proud of you. You proved that you are a man, and you can initiate contact with girls, unlike most of the losers here on letsrun, whom have never had gf's, much less sex. All I can say is better luck next time, and I hope you find a girl.
not a valid use of "whom"
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to the OP: you had the right idea by the end, just a little late. i think (this part is important) if you go into the next situation with more confidence (best derived from not giving a shlt if she says "no") then youll be fine. best of luck.
repeating due to importance: seriously, be confident. remember, you have the sword and they have the chalice. BAM.
So I went into the coffee shop today to get my coffee. I wasn't going to avoid her just because I got rejected. Things were back to normal. Also for the first time I wasn't a little jittery walking in there. Guys take this advice, if you get rejected play it off as if its nothing. Seriously.
Alright, now a lot of people have given you advice on this thread. Now, it is time for you to give us something:
Pics.
Just give us a link to a facebook photo of her. That's it. Nothing will become of you two now, so it is ok.
I would post pics if I could ensure that she is not contacted in anyway and not bothered. I would feel awful for her if somebody contacted her as a result.
I can not speak for everyone else here, but I would not contact her....first of all I have better things to do, second of all, i don't even have a facebook (can i still see photos??) so i can't.
Don't post her name or a link or anything...just copy a pic to your computer and then put it up. Then no one can contact her, unless they know her that is.
yay for pics wrote:
Don't post her name or a link or anything...just copy a pic to your computer and then put it up. Then no one can contact her, unless they know her that is.
I thought about that, using an image post. Then I thought what is the off chance that somebody knows her. I dont think I could ever get a cup of coffee there ever again, even if shes there or not.
stuck with match.com wrote:
yay for pics wrote:Don't post her name or a link or anything...just copy a pic to your computer and then put it up. Then no one can contact her, unless they know her that is.
I thought about that, using an image post. Then I thought what is the off chance that somebody knows her. I dont think I could ever get a cup of coffee there ever again, even if shes there or not.
oh come one...really, what are the odds that someone on here knows her?
I would say you have a better shot at still getting a date with her even after being rejected than anyone on here actually knowing her.
stuck with match.com wrote:
I thought about that, using an image post. Then I thought what is the off chance that somebody knows her. I dont think I could ever get a cup of coffee there ever again, even if shes there or not.
Why is anyone even bothering to ask for pics?
a. This last guys girlfriend was 180 pounds, I doubt this coffeeshop girl is a looker.
b. This guy took 2 weeks to ask out a girl. He has been spineless all along, why would he post pics?
c. He asked a girl out on facebook, clearly he does not know the proper useage of technology. I doubt he cas the mental capacity to post a link to any pics.
d. He is a troll and none of this shit ever even happened. There is no girl and none of the interactions are real.