Just won lottery - wife wants to give it away to deadbeats

Chris m Lynn, Mass wrote:

A person very near and dear to my heart approximately 5 years ago had absolutely no financial problems. When I say no financial problems I mean like Powerball winning type financially. She would make donations to firefighter charities $30,000+, to shelters 10,000-$20,000 and others she felt would help best a cause or person, place in need. Well fast forward 5 years and now she and her children are struggling that is almost not believable but she is in a shelter now and her and kids(7) lived like kings and queens 5+ yrs ago. She always wanted a large family and more so when she was growing up and children getting older. There was a family disagreement and overnight went complete opposite from you and your wife, as far as one night she put kids to bed and when they all woke in morning were broke and the worse thing was after all those years of her growing up and her kids now growing up, she isn't one to look for help-handouts but more the one who was always there for family, friends and few charities and shelters I mentioned earlier. The point of me writing this is I'm all for helping people who are struggling cause maybe bad choices ie: drugs, gambling or whatever. She's never smoked a cigarette let alone any illegal drugs or activities like gambling and the 100s of thousands she donated over the years and now she's on the other end and sad thing more so cause of the kids but also herself are staying in a shelter as I type this. Actually she's getting 4 kids up and ready for school and the other 2 get themselves ready and oldest on break from 1st year of college. I mentioned earlier she has never been one to need or ask for help but for sake of kids ultimately did ask a couple-few places she would donate to every year and like I typed earlier somewhat decent amounts of financial help to, not 1 not even firefighters union who she and myself respect that profession has not got back to her bout the message I begged her to ask and told her the money you gave every year and multiple times a year won't and or hasn't gotten back to her to help in any way let alone financially and or emotional support. I always told her it so nice of you to help fire victims with food, clothes and even renting hotel rooms to help any family in need of help but unbelievable that in her time of need those places, shelters, charities have not helped In any way shape or form. It upsets me cause she always would try and help anyone, even if just a smile to make one laugh to helping in other ways. Now she's unfortunately in that situation with the kids who all are on honor roll and deans list even though there life has been completely flipped upside down but yet there still holding strong and doing great in school and are really good kids. They volunteer at food pantry in a different town than there staying cause to help anyone they can and do it with smile but kinda sad cause they like helping you don't want to volunteer in the town they're staying in the shelter in case they were to see friends from school and be embarrassed because they would at the end of the night take the leftover food and they don't want kids from school seeing them do that. Which if i was a kid i could understand were the kids are coming from, that could be embarrasing and dont wanna be picked on or bullied. Ive told the kids at some point things will turn around and hopefully soon but mainly keep their heads up and grades up. Point being basically is it is okay to help other people out even if one feels they are lazy or bums basically but just always remember it isn't just about money!!!!! Yes money does help certain situation and one never knows when they're going to get or be in a situation but I personally would do what your wife wants and if you feel thats too much then between you and your wife you come up with a reasonable number. It shocks me that all the money she would donate and also her time that she would help out at food pantries and still does, even though she's in a bad situation and that not one place she reached out to or that she donated to every year hasnt even reached out to her or the children which to me is mainly about the kids state of minds as well and offer any services to her or them. In a way I get frustrated and wish she never donated that money to any of those places because at least she would have some of that money today to put a roof over her children's head and enough food in their stomachs to get through the day but NO not one place has done one dam thing. So like I mentioned maybe you and your wife can come up with a better number because maybe that number is a bit High but it also could have been a number that when we all are little children thought a million dollars would last forever, well they/you now know a million dollars does not go even as close or as far as one would have thought as kids and when it seems like your wife may have made that deal with them. In my opinion and I know it probably doesn't mean much if anything to you but if y'all feel they do not need or deserve that much I would guess y'all love each other enough to be able to sit down and figure out a lump sum number or possibly a yearly figure almost like an allowance In a way but if y'all wanted to you could do it anonymously and no one is none the wiser. I know I have repeated myself a couple times and I may do it again but when and if you can help someone especially someone and not that this makes her better than others but someone who has helped many people with her donations directly and or indirectly, yet she is holding on because of the children and she doesn't want them to see her cry or struggle which is hard to do considering it's her and the children in a 3 bedroom 6 room apartment. It's an unbelievable Rags to Riches or riches to rags story but in the end I hope and pray that it works out for her and the children because if anyone deserves help of any kind it would be her and her children. I hope you'll come to a decision without arguing back and forth over money when like you mentioned are pretty much set for the rest of your lives. Just know having money is a great thing but it can also change people for the worst not saying that is going to happen to you and your wife but please don't let it happen because of money or the fact of giving family some money or yearly allowance anonymously if y'all would like to give her 5 cousins money and them not feel like there a charity case and whatever y'all decide on you do it in a lump sum or once a year whatever amount y'all decided on. Believe me if my friend was in a situation where she could somehow get not a million dollars but a thousand dollars to buy a used vehicle to get the children to and from summer activities or just a fun day out with the family at the lake/playground. If for whatever reason one may want to help her and her children out you could send a message via by replying to this or you could send a text or call 857-236-3751 my name is Chris Mulcahy or email

cmulcahy434@gmail.com

if you could think of a way to possibly help her or a possible charity that helps people or families like hers and or others and unfortunately there's a lot of people-families that could use a helping hand. Unfortunately not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a family or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out it almost seems like they forgot who she was or what she used to donate monetarily and just support wise. She's learning now that not all places are what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen to her and she would be in this unfortunate situation not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a person or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out to all those places it seems like they forgot who she was or what she has donated monetarily and just support wise over the many years. She's learning now that not all places are not what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen and she would be in this situation she would probably change a couple at least of the places that she donated to in the past cause shes seeing now that some places dont return calls or help even minimally. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the five cousins but please do not let the money get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident but things can change in a heartbeat. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the 5 cousins but please do not to let the money to get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident of any kind. Like my friend Sherrie and kids Abby, Adry, Matthew, Ally, Billy, Joey and Timmy. Thats youngest to oldest 5-19. If you do end up emailing and or texting messaging me I can in return give you her number and or email so you could contact her directly only if that is something y'all would feel comfortable doing. Wow that was like a therapy session for me, Sherrie is the only person that I have talked to about this situation because she is a little embarrassed being able to provide for her children one day and the next barely able to provide three full meals a it's tough to try to explain that to a child who does not fully understand but I know I'm trying and I know Sherry is trying true communicate with the children for the most part of what is going on and that it is an adult problem and all we want them to do is focus on school. I actually volunteer at a food pantry in my city and I get food from that pantry and give it to her I know she don't want to take it because she thinks there's someone out there worse off than she is in there is always someone worse off but at the same time I tell her the children have to eat they are growing and need the nutrition. Not to end this on a sad note but my mother passed away in late April and after funeral costs and headstone flowers there was about $3,500 left for myself and my brother and my sister. Because I won't or can't see her all the children suffer I did what was what I thought my mother would think was best and what I felt very good about doing in that was ultimately given her $2,000 of the $3500 so she could at least get the children through the school year or the rest of the school year and fortunately it has to some degree got in them close in school is over a week from tomorrow. That money helped her with end-of-the-year field trips and food and some new summer clothes. At least with a few of the children being closer in age things that were bought last year that one grew out of they were able to pass it down to the next youngest or whomever it fit. So that helped a lot with heaven a little basketball team on your hands and a few Within a few years of each other the 3 girls and 4 boys, it helped very much to be able to pass them down. Again she was appalled that I mentioned doing that because she never had to do that and every season pretty much buy new clothes accordingly in regards to the weather. I promised her I would help her the best I could and losing my mother in April she helped me and I knew that the couple thousand dollars that I gave her would help her in the children. Also I know that my parents even though both are gone would want that money to go to something meaningful to me and without hesitation that was the first thing that popped into my mind and it was a bit of a struggle for her to accept it but she knew or knows it's best for the kids and I didn't treat like a charity case but something I wanted to do from my heart. I do hope what you mentioned is true and if so congratulations to you and your wife and I hope you make the right choices with the money because I would hate to hear of a marriage falling apart because of those horrible lottery winner stories. I don't even know if you will get this far into this message but if you do thank you very much for taking the time to listen because like I mentioned earlier Sherrie is the only adult that I can talk to about the situation. Feels better than therapy getting that off my chest. Who should I make the bill out to for the therapy session, Lol. Thank you and have great day and now I'm off to shower and jump on bus cause the 13 year old is graduating middle school at 2pm today and I got a 2hr greyhound bus to catch to be there for him and sit with her and hopefully weather helps out and looks like it may and go to lake and playground. I've been trying to teach the children you don't always need money to have a fun time like swimming in the lake. Also and I know no matter what she will that is Sherrie will get these kids out of this situation somehow someway and she and the kids are going to be better off because they now know how to live on a very small small budget. Which I joked with her is kind of a good thing because you don't have to buy clothes or new clothes every season of the year but ultimately passed the ones down to the younger ones that don't have holes or on dirty and the ones that may have holes and stained they can wear to the park and ultimately get dirtier. Everybody and unfortunately the children is at least taken all learning a little lesson from all this and I told them that basically the main thing is they have health and each other. Again I don't know if you're going to read this ginormous vent that I was just able to do but if you do get to the end God bless you and thank you for listening or reading. Thank you again!!!!!!

Chris m Lynn, Mass wrote:

A person very near and dear to my heart approximately 5 years ago had absolutely no financial problems. When I say no financial problems I mean like Powerball winning type financially. She would make donations to firefighter charities $30,000+, to shelters 10,000-$20,000 and others she felt would help best a cause or person, place in need. Well fast forward 5 years and now she and her children are struggling that is almost not believable but she is in a shelter now and her and kids(7) lived like kings and queens 5+ yrs ago. She always wanted a large family and more so when she was growing up and children getting older. There was a family disagreement and overnight went complete opposite from you and your wife, as far as one night she put kids to bed and when they all woke in morning were broke and the worse thing was after all those years of her growing up and her kids now growing up, she isn't one to look for help-handouts but more the one who was always there for family, friends and few charities and shelters I mentioned earlier. The point of me writing this is I'm all for helping people who are struggling cause maybe bad choices ie: drugs, gambling or whatever. She's never smoked a cigarette let alone any illegal drugs or activities like gambling and the 100s of thousands she donated over the years and now she's on the other end and sad thing more so cause of the kids but also herself are staying in a shelter as I type this. Actually she's getting 4 kids up and ready for school and the other 2 get themselves ready and oldest on break from 1st year of college. I mentioned earlier she has never been one to need or ask for help but for sake of kids ultimately did ask a couple-few places she would donate to every year and like I typed earlier somewhat decent amounts of financial help to, not 1 not even firefighters union who she and myself respect that profession has not got back to her bout the message I begged her to ask and told her the money you gave every year and multiple times a year won't and or hasn't gotten back to her to help in any way let alone financially and or emotional support. I always told her it so nice of you to help fire victims with food, clothes and even renting hotel rooms to help any family in need of help but unbelievable that in her time of need those places, shelters, charities have not helped In any way shape or form. It upsets me cause she always would try and help anyone, even if just a smile to make one laugh to helping in other ways. Now she's unfortunately in that situation with the kids who all are on honor roll and deans list even though there life has been completely flipped upside down but yet there still holding strong and doing great in school and are really good kids. They volunteer at food pantry in a different town than there staying cause to help anyone they can and do it with smile but kinda sad cause they like helping you don't want to volunteer in the town they're staying in the shelter in case they were to see friends from school and be embarrassed because they would at the end of the night take the leftover food and they don't want kids from school seeing them do that. Which if i was a kid i could understand were the kids are coming from, that could be embarrasing and dont wanna be picked on or bullied. Ive told the kids at some point things will turn around and hopefully soon but mainly keep their heads up and grades up. Point being basically is it is okay to help other people out even if one feels they are lazy or bums basically but just always remember it isn't just about money!!!!! Yes money does help certain situation and one never knows when they're going to get or be in a situation but I personally would do what your wife wants and if you feel thats too much then between you and your wife you come up with a reasonable number. It shocks me that all the money she would donate and also her time that she would help out at food pantries and still does, even though she's in a bad situation and that not one place she reached out to or that she donated to every year hasnt even reached out to her or the children which to me is mainly about the kids state of minds as well and offer any services to her or them. In a way I get frustrated and wish she never donated that money to any of those places because at least she would have some of that money today to put a roof over her children's head and enough food in their stomachs to get through the day but NO not one place has done one dam thing. So like I mentioned maybe you and your wife can come up with a better number because maybe that number is a bit High but it also could have been a number that when we all are little children thought a million dollars would last forever, well they/you now know a million dollars does not go even as close or as far as one would have thought as kids and when it seems like your wife may have made that deal with them. In my opinion and I know it probably doesn't mean much if anything to you but if y'all feel they do not need or deserve that much I would guess y'all love each other enough to be able to sit down and figure out a lump sum number or possibly a yearly figure almost like an allowance In a way but if y'all wanted to you could do it anonymously and no one is none the wiser. I know I have repeated myself a couple times and I may do it again but when and if you can help someone especially someone and not that this makes her better than others but someone who has helped many people with her donations directly and or indirectly, yet she is holding on because of the children and she doesn't want them to see her cry or struggle which is hard to do considering it's her and the children in a 3 bedroom 6 room apartment. It's an unbelievable Rags to Riches or riches to rags story but in the end I hope and pray that it works out for her and the children because if anyone deserves help of any kind it would be her and her children. I hope you'll come to a decision without arguing back and forth over money when like you mentioned are pretty much set for the rest of your lives. Just know having money is a great thing but it can also change people for the worst not saying that is going to happen to you and your wife but please don't let it happen because of money or the fact of giving family some money or yearly allowance anonymously if y'all would like to give her 5 cousins money and them not feel like there a charity case and whatever y'all decide on you do it in a lump sum or once a year whatever amount y'all decided on. Believe me if my friend was in a situation where she could somehow get not a million dollars but a thousand dollars to buy a used vehicle to get the children to and from summer activities or just a fun day out with the family at the lake/playground. If for whatever reason one may want to help her and her children out you could send a message via by replying to this or you could send a text or call 857-236-3751 my name is Chris Mulcahy or email

cmulcahy434@gmail.com

if you could think of a way to possibly help her or a possible charity that helps people or families like hers and or others and unfortunately there's a lot of people-families that could use a helping hand. Unfortunately not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a family or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out it almost seems like they forgot who she was or what she used to donate monetarily and just support wise. She's learning now that not all places are what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen to her and she would be in this unfortunate situation not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a person or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out to all those places it seems like they forgot who she was or what she has donated monetarily and just support wise over the many years. She's learning now that not all places are not what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen and she would be in this situation she would probably change a couple at least of the places that she donated to in the past cause shes seeing now that some places dont return calls or help even minimally. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the five cousins but please do not let the money get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident but things can change in a heartbeat. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the 5 cousins but please do not to let the money to get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident of any kind. Like my friend Sherrie and kids Abby, Adry, Matthew, Ally, Billy, Joey and Timmy. Thats youngest to oldest 5-19. If you do end up emailing and or texting messaging me I can in return give you her number and or email so you could contact her directly only if that is something y'all would feel comfortable doing. Wow that was like a therapy session for me, Sherrie is the only person that I have talked to about this situation because she is a little embarrassed being able to provide for her children one day and the next barely able to provide three full meals a it's tough to try to explain that to a child who does not fully understand but I know I'm trying and I know Sherry is trying true communicate with the children for the most part of what is going on and that it is an adult problem and all we want them to do is focus on school. I actually volunteer at a food pantry in my city and I get food from that pantry and give it to her I know she don't want to take it because she thinks there's someone out there worse off than she is in there is always someone worse off but at the same time I tell her the children have to eat they are growing and need the nutrition. Not to end this on a sad note but my mother passed away in late April and after funeral costs and headstone flowers there was about $3,500 left for myself and my brother and my sister. Because I won't or can't see her all the children suffer I did what was what I thought my mother would think was best and what I felt very good about doing in that was ultimately given her $2,000 of the $3500 so she could at least get the children through the school year or the rest of the school year and fortunately it has to some degree got in them close in school is over a week from tomorrow. That money helped her with end-of-the-year field trips and food and some new summer clothes. At least with a few of the children being closer in age things that were bought last year that one grew out of they were able to pass it down to the next youngest or whomever it fit. So that helped a lot with heaven a little basketball team on your hands and a few Within a few years of each other the 3 girls and 4 boys, it helped very much to be able to pass them down. Again she was appalled that I mentioned doing that because she never had to do that and every season pretty much buy new clothes accordingly in regards to the weather. I promised her I would help her the best I could and losing my mother in April she helped me and I knew that the couple thousand dollars that I gave her would help her in the children. Also I know that my parents even though both are gone would want that money to go to something meaningful to me and without hesitation that was the first thing that popped into my mind and it was a bit of a struggle for her to accept it but she knew or knows it's best for the kids and I didn't treat like a charity case but something I wanted to do from my heart. I do hope what you mentioned is true and if so congratulations to you and your wife and I hope you make the right choices with the money because I would hate to hear of a marriage falling apart because of those horrible lottery winner stories. I don't even know if you will get this far into this message but if you do thank you very much for taking the time to listen because like I mentioned earlier Sherrie is the only adult that I can talk to about the situation. Feels better than therapy getting that off my chest. Who should I make the bill out to for the therapy session, Lol. Thank you and have great day and now I'm off to shower and jump on bus cause the 13 year old is graduating middle school at 2pm today and I got a 2hr greyhound bus to catch to be there for him and sit with her and hopefully weather helps out and looks like it may and go to lake and playground. I've been trying to teach the children you don't always need money to have a fun time like swimming in the lake. Also and I know no matter what she will that is Sherrie will get these kids out of this situation somehow someway and she and the kids are going to be better off because they now know how to live on a very small small budget. Which I joked with her is kind of a good thing because you don't have to buy clothes or new clothes every season of the year but ultimately passed the ones down to the younger ones that don't have holes or on dirty and the ones that may have holes and stained they can wear to the park and ultimately get dirtier. Everybody and unfortunately the children is at least taken all learning a little lesson from all this and I told them that basically the main thing is they have health and each other. Again I don't know if you're going to read this ginormous vent that I was just able to do but if you do get to the end God bless you and thank you for listening or reading. Thank you again!!!!!!

Chris m Lynn, Mass wrote:

A person very near and dear to my heart approximately 5 years ago had absolutely no financial problems. When I say no financial problems I mean like Powerball winning type financially. She would make donations to firefighter charities $30,000+, to shelters 10,000-$20,000 and others she felt would help best a cause or person, place in need. Well fast forward 5 years and now she and her children are struggling that is almost not believable but she is in a shelter now and her and kids(7) lived like kings and queens 5+ yrs ago. She always wanted a large family and more so when she was growing up and children getting older. There was a family disagreement and overnight went complete opposite from you and your wife, as far as one night she put kids to bed and when they all woke in morning were broke and the worse thing was after all those years of her growing up and her kids now growing up, she isn't one to look for help-handouts but more the one who was always there for family, friends and few charities and shelters I mentioned earlier. The point of me writing this is I'm all for helping people who are struggling cause maybe bad choices ie: drugs, gambling or whatever. She's never smoked a cigarette let alone any illegal drugs or activities like gambling and the 100s of thousands she donated over the years and now she's on the other end and sad thing more so cause of the kids but also herself are staying in a shelter as I type this. Actually she's getting 4 kids up and ready for school and the other 2 get themselves ready and oldest on break from 1st year of college. I mentioned earlier she has never been one to need or ask for help but for sake of kids ultimately did ask a couple-few places she would donate to every year and like I typed earlier somewhat decent amounts of financial help to, not 1 not even firefighters union who she and myself respect that profession has not got back to her bout the message I begged her to ask and told her the money you gave every year and multiple times a year won't and or hasn't gotten back to her to help in any way let alone financially and or emotional support. I always told her it so nice of you to help fire victims with food, clothes and even renting hotel rooms to help any family in need of help but unbelievable that in her time of need those places, shelters, charities have not helped In any way shape or form. It upsets me cause she always would try and help anyone, even if just a smile to make one laugh to helping in other ways. Now she's unfortunately in that situation with the kids who all are on honor roll and deans list even though there life has been completely flipped upside down but yet there still holding strong and doing great in school and are really good kids. They volunteer at food pantry in a different town than there staying cause to help anyone they can and do it with smile but kinda sad cause they like helping you don't want to volunteer in the town they're staying in the shelter in case they were to see friends from school and be embarrassed because they would at the end of the night take the leftover food and they don't want kids from school seeing them do that. Which if i was a kid i could understand were the kids are coming from, that could be embarrasing and dont wanna be picked on or bullied. Ive told the kids at some point things will turn around and hopefully soon but mainly keep their heads up and grades up. Point being basically is it is okay to help other people out even if one feels they are lazy or bums basically but just always remember it isn't just about money!!!!! Yes money does help certain situation and one never knows when they're going to get or be in a situation but I personally would do what your wife wants and if you feel thats too much then between you and your wife you come up with a reasonable number. It shocks me that all the money she would donate and also her time that she would help out at food pantries and still does, even though she's in a bad situation and that not one place she reached out to or that she donated to every year hasnt even reached out to her or the children which to me is mainly about the kids state of minds as well and offer any services to her or them. In a way I get frustrated and wish she never donated that money to any of those places because at least she would have some of that money today to put a roof over her children's head and enough food in their stomachs to get through the day but NO not one place has done one dam thing. So like I mentioned maybe you and your wife can come up with a better number because maybe that number is a bit High but it also could have been a number that when we all are little children thought a million dollars would last forever, well they/you now know a million dollars does not go even as close or as far as one would have thought as kids and when it seems like your wife may have made that deal with them. In my opinion and I know it probably doesn't mean much if anything to you but if y'all feel they do not need or deserve that much I would guess y'all love each other enough to be able to sit down and figure out a lump sum number or possibly a yearly figure almost like an allowance In a way but if y'all wanted to you could do it anonymously and no one is none the wiser. I know I have repeated myself a couple times and I may do it again but when and if you can help someone especially someone and not that this makes her better than others but someone who has helped many people with her donations directly and or indirectly, yet she is holding on because of the children and she doesn't want them to see her cry or struggle which is hard to do considering it's her and the children in a 3 bedroom 6 room apartment. It's an unbelievable Rags to Riches or riches to rags story but in the end I hope and pray that it works out for her and the children because if anyone deserves help of any kind it would be her and her children. I hope you'll come to a decision without arguing back and forth over money when like you mentioned are pretty much set for the rest of your lives. Just know having money is a great thing but it can also change people for the worst not saying that is going to happen to you and your wife but please don't let it happen because of money or the fact of giving family some money or yearly allowance anonymously if y'all would like to give her 5 cousins money and them not feel like there a charity case and whatever y'all decide on you do it in a lump sum or once a year whatever amount y'all decided on. Believe me if my friend was in a situation where she could somehow get not a million dollars but a thousand dollars to buy a used vehicle to get the children to and from summer activities or just a fun day out with the family at the lake/playground. If for whatever reason one may want to help her and her children out you could send a message via by replying to this or you could send a text or call 857-236-3751 my name is Chris Mulcahy or email

cmulcahy434@gmail.com

if you could think of a way to possibly help her or a possible charity that helps people or families like hers and or others and unfortunately there's a lot of people-families that could use a helping hand. Unfortunately not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a family or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out it almost seems like they forgot who she was or what she used to donate monetarily and just support wise. She's learning now that not all places are what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen to her and she would be in this unfortunate situation not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a person or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out to all those places it seems like they forgot who she was or what she has donated monetarily and just support wise over the many years. She's learning now that not all places are not what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen and she would be in this situation she would probably change a couple at least of the places that she donated to in the past cause shes seeing now that some places dont return calls or help even minimally. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the five cousins but please do not let the money get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident but things can change in a heartbeat. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the 5 cousins but please do not to let the money to get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident of any kind. Like my friend Sherrie and kids Abby, Adry, Matthew, Ally, Billy, Joey and Timmy. Thats youngest to oldest 5-19. If you do end up emailing and or texting messaging me I can in return give you her number and or email so you could contact her directly only if that is something y'all would feel comfortable doing. Wow that was like a therapy session for me, Sherrie is the only person that I have talked to about this situation because she is a little embarrassed being able to provide for her children one day and the next barely able to provide three full meals a it's tough to try to explain that to a child who does not fully understand but I know I'm trying and I know Sherry is trying true communicate with the children for the most part of what is going on and that it is an adult problem and all we want them to do is focus on school. I actually volunteer at a food pantry in my city and I get food from that pantry and give it to her I know she don't want to take it because she thinks there's someone out there worse off than she is in there is always someone worse off but at the same time I tell her the children have to eat they are growing and need the nutrition. Not to end this on a sad note but my mother passed away in late April and after funeral costs and headstone flowers there was about $3,500 left for myself and my brother and my sister. Because I won't or can't see her all the children suffer I did what was what I thought my mother would think was best and what I felt very good about doing in that was ultimately given her $2,000 of the $3500 so she could at least get the children through the school year or the rest of the school year and fortunately it has to some degree got in them close in school is over a week from tomorrow. That money helped her with end-of-the-year field trips and food and some new summer clothes. At least with a few of the children being closer in age things that were bought last year that one grew out of they were able to pass it down to the next youngest or whomever it fit. So that helped a lot with heaven a little basketball team on your hands and a few Within a few years of each other the 3 girls and 4 boys, it helped very much to be able to pass them down. Again she was appalled that I mentioned doing that because she never had to do that and every season pretty much buy new clothes accordingly in regards to the weather. I promised her I would help her the best I could and losing my mother in April she helped me and I knew that the couple thousand dollars that I gave her would help her in the children. Also I know that my parents even though both are gone would want that money to go to something meaningful to me and without hesitation that was the first thing that popped into my mind and it was a bit of a struggle for her to accept it but she knew or knows it's best for the kids and I didn't treat like a charity case but something I wanted to do from my heart. I do hope what you mentioned is true and if so congratulations to you and your wife and I hope you make the right choices with the money because I would hate to hear of a marriage falling apart because of those horrible lottery winner stories. I don't even know if you will get this far into this message but if you do thank you very much for taking the time to listen because like I mentioned earlier Sherrie is the only adult that I can talk to about the situation. Feels better than therapy getting that off my chest. Who should I make the bill out to for the therapy session, Lol. Thank you and have great day and now I'm off to shower and jump on bus cause the 13 year old is graduating middle school at 2pm today and I got a 2hr greyhound bus to catch to be there for him and sit with her and hopefully weather helps out and looks like it may and go to lake and playground. I've been trying to teach the children you don't always need money to have a fun time like swimming in the lake. Also and I know no matter what she will that is Sherrie will get these kids out of this situation somehow someway and she and the kids are going to be better off because they now know how to live on a very small small budget. Which I joked with her is kind of a good thing because you don't have to buy clothes or new clothes every season of the year but ultimately passed the ones down to the younger ones that don't have holes or on dirty and the ones that may have holes and stained they can wear to the park and ultimately get dirtier. Everybody and unfortunately the children is at least taken all learning a little lesson from all this and I told them that basically the main thing is they have health and each other. Again I don't know if you're going to read this ginormous vent that I was just able to do but if you do get to the end God bless you and thank you for listening or reading. Thank you again!!!!!!

Zillionaire wrote:

Chris m Lynn, Mass wrote:

A person very near and dear to my heart approximately 5 years ago had absolutely no financial problems. When I say no financial problems I mean like Powerball winning type financially. She would make donations to firefighter charities $30,000+, to shelters 10,000-$20,000 and others she felt would help best a cause or person, place in need. Well fast forward 5 years and now she and her children are struggling that is almost not believable but she is in a shelter now and her and kids(7) lived like kings and queens 5+ yrs ago. She always wanted a large family and more so when she was growing up and children getting older. There was a family disagreement and overnight went complete opposite from you and your wife, as far as one night she put kids to bed and when they all woke in morning were broke and the worse thing was after all those years of her growing up and her kids now growing up, she isn't one to look for help-handouts but more the one who was always there for family, friends and few charities and shelters I mentioned earlier. The point of me writing this is I'm all for helping people who are struggling cause maybe bad choices ie: drugs, gambling or whatever. She's never smoked a cigarette let alone any illegal drugs or activities like gambling and the 100s of thousands she donated over the years and now she's on the other end and sad thing more so cause of the kids but also herself are staying in a shelter as I type this. Actually she's getting 4 kids up and ready for school and the other 2 get themselves ready and oldest on break from 1st year of college. I mentioned earlier she has never been one to need or ask for help but for sake of kids ultimately did ask a couple-few places she would donate to every year and like I typed earlier somewhat decent amounts of financial help to, not 1 not even firefighters union who she and myself respect that profession has not got back to her bout the message I begged her to ask and told her the money you gave every year and multiple times a year won't and or hasn't gotten back to her to help in any way let alone financially and or emotional support. I always told her it so nice of you to help fire victims with food, clothes and even renting hotel rooms to help any family in need of help but unbelievable that in her time of need those places, shelters, charities have not helped In any way shape or form. It upsets me cause she always would try and help anyone, even if just a smile to make one laugh to helping in other ways. Now she's unfortunately in that situation with the kids who all are on honor roll and deans list even though there life has been completely flipped upside down but yet there still holding strong and doing great in school and are really good kids. They volunteer at food pantry in a different town than there staying cause to help anyone they can and do it with smile but kinda sad cause they like helping you don't want to volunteer in the town they're staying in the shelter in case they were to see friends from school and be embarrassed because they would at the end of the night take the leftover food and they don't want kids from school seeing them do that. Which if i was a kid i could understand were the kids are coming from, that could be embarrasing and dont wanna be picked on or bullied. Ive told the kids at some point things will turn around and hopefully soon but mainly keep their heads up and grades up. Point being basically is it is okay to help other people out even if one feels they are lazy or bums basically but just always remember it isn't just about money!!!!! Yes money does help certain situation and one never knows when they're going to get or be in a situation but I personally would do what your wife wants and if you feel thats too much then between you and your wife you come up with a reasonable number. It shocks me that all the money she would donate and also her time that she would help out at food pantries and still does, even though she's in a bad situation and that not one place she reached out to or that she donated to every year hasnt even reached out to her or the children which to me is mainly about the kids state of minds as well and offer any services to her or them. In a way I get frustrated and wish she never donated that money to any of those places because at least she would have some of that money today to put a roof over her children's head and enough food in their stomachs to get through the day but NO not one place has done one dam thing. So like I mentioned maybe you and your wife can come up with a better number because maybe that number is a bit High but it also could have been a number that when we all are little children thought a million dollars would last forever, well they/you now know a million dollars does not go even as close or as far as one would have thought as kids and when it seems like your wife may have made that deal with them. In my opinion and I know it probably doesn't mean much if anything to you but if y'all feel they do not need or deserve that much I would guess y'all love each other enough to be able to sit down and figure out a lump sum number or possibly a yearly figure almost like an allowance In a way but if y'all wanted to you could do it anonymously and no one is none the wiser. I know I have repeated myself a couple times and I may do it again but when and if you can help someone especially someone and not that this makes her better than others but someone who has helped many people with her donations directly and or indirectly, yet she is holding on because of the children and she doesn't want them to see her cry or struggle which is hard to do considering it's her and the children in a 3 bedroom 6 room apartment. It's an unbelievable Rags to Riches or riches to rags story but in the end I hope and pray that it works out for her and the children because if anyone deserves help of any kind it would be her and her children. I hope you'll come to a decision without arguing back and forth over money when like you mentioned are pretty much set for the rest of your lives. Just know having money is a great thing but it can also change people for the worst not saying that is going to happen to you and your wife but please don't let it happen because of money or the fact of giving family some money or yearly allowance anonymously if y'all would like to give her 5 cousins money and them not feel like there a charity case and whatever y'all decide on you do it in a lump sum or once a year whatever amount y'all decided on. Believe me if my friend was in a situation where she could somehow get not a million dollars but a thousand dollars to buy a used vehicle to get the children to and from summer activities or just a fun day out with the family at the lake/playground. If for whatever reason one may want to help her and her children out you could send a message via by replying to this or you could send a text or call 857-236-3751 my name is Chris Mulcahy or email

cmulcahy434@gmail.com

if you could think of a way to possibly help her or a possible charity that helps people or families like hers and or others and unfortunately there's a lot of people-families that could use a helping hand. Unfortunately not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a family or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out it almost seems like they forgot who she was or what she used to donate monetarily and just support wise. She's learning now that not all places are what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen to her and she would be in this unfortunate situation not always when one does donate to a particular charity or a family does that money always go towards a person or any family for that matter. Always look into the charity before you donate even though she thoroughly looked into the places she would donate to and ultimately found quite a few she thought would be helpful and she never thought she would learn the hard way as far as being the one that needed the help but upon reaching out to all those places it seems like they forgot who she was or what she has donated monetarily and just support wise over the many years. She's learning now that not all places are not what they look like from the outside and if she could go back if she ever knew this would happen and she would be in this situation she would probably change a couple at least of the places that she donated to in the past cause shes seeing now that some places dont return calls or help even minimally. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the five cousins but please do not let the money get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident but things can change in a heartbeat. I hope you and your wife can figure something out when it comes to the 5 cousins but please do not to let the money to get between you two because you never know whether it's someone getting sick or an accident of any kind. Like my friend Sherrie and kids Abby, Adry, Matthew, Ally, Billy, Joey and Timmy. Thats youngest to oldest 5-19. If you do end up emailing and or texting messaging me I can in return give you her number and or email so you could contact her directly only if that is something y'all would feel comfortable doing. Wow that was like a therapy session for me, Sherrie is the only person that I have talked to about this situation because she is a little embarrassed being able to provide for her children one day and the next barely able to provide three full meals a it's tough to try to explain that to a child who does not fully understand but I know I'm trying and I know Sherry is trying true communicate with the children for the most part of what is going on and that it is an adult problem and all we want them to do is focus on school. I actually volunteer at a food pantry in my city and I get food from that pantry and give it to her I know she don't want to take it because she thinks there's someone out there worse off than she is in there is always someone worse off but at the same time I tell her the children have to eat they are growing and need the nutrition. Not to end this on a sad note but my mother passed away in late April and after funeral costs and headstone flowers there was about $3,500 left for myself and my brother and my sister. Because I won't or can't see her all the children suffer I did what was what I thought my mother would think was best and what I felt very good about doing in that was ultimately given her $2,000 of the $3500 so she could at least get the children through the school year or the rest of the school year and fortunately it has to some degree got in them close in school is over a week from tomorrow. That money helped her with end-of-the-year field trips and food and some new summer clothes. At least with a few of the children being closer in age things that were bought last year that one grew out of they were able to pass it down to the next youngest or whomever it fit. So that helped a lot with heaven a little basketball team on your hands and a few Within a few years of each other the 3 girls and 4 boys, it helped very much to be able to pass them down. Again she was appalled that I mentioned doing that because she never had to do that and every season pretty much buy new clothes accordingly in regards to the weather. I promised her I would help her the best I could and losing my mother in April she helped me and I knew that the couple thousand dollars that I gave her would help her in the children. Also I know that my parents even though both are gone would want that money to go to something meaningful to me and without hesitation that was the first thing that popped into my mind and it was a bit of a struggle for her to accept it but she knew or knows it's best for the kids and I didn't treat like a charity case but something I wanted to do from my heart. I do hope what you mentioned is true and if so congratulations to you and your wife and I hope you make the right choices with the money because I would hate to hear of a marriage falling apart because of those horrible lottery winner stories. I don't even know if you will get this far into this message but if you do thank you very much for taking the time to listen because like I mentioned earlier Sherrie is the only adult that I can talk to about the situation. Feels better than therapy getting that off my chest. Who should I make the bill out to for the therapy session, Lol. Thank you and have great day and now I'm off to shower and jump on bus cause the 13 year old is graduating middle school at 2pm today and I got a 2hr greyhound bus to catch to be there for him and sit with her and hopefully weather helps out and looks like it may and go to lake and playground. I've been trying to teach the children you don't always need money to have a fun time like swimming in the lake. Also and I know no matter what she will that is Sherrie will get these kids out of this situation somehow someway and she and the kids are going to be better off because they now know how to live on a very small small budget. Which I joked with her is kind of a good thing because you don't have to buy clothes or new clothes every season of the year but ultimately passed the ones down to the younger ones that don't have holes or on dirty and the ones that may have holes and stained they can wear to the park and ultimately get dirtier. Everybody and unfortunately the children is at least taken all learning a little lesson from all this and I told them that basically the main thing is they have health and each other. Again I don't know if you're going to read this ginormous vent that I was just able to do but if you do get to the end God bless you and thank you for listening or reading. Thank you again!!!!!!

Darn it! I lost my place and now I have to start all over again.