So you're on the fence.
So you're on the fence.
You got it
I see what you are saying, but even if I fully believed in god or a deity ...things become a little different when I claim I'm being physically assaulted or raped by one. Just my thoughts. I don't know.
You need to fashion her a spiritual chastity belt to protect her from assault by the ghost. Cast a strong spell on it and keep the key for yourself.
It's OK to be spiritual. It's not OK to imagine that invisible monsters are sitting next to you and walking around your house.
Dude, I hate to break it to you, but your GF wasn't raped. She probably just got drunk and boned the ghost at a party and regretted it, so now she's saying he raped her. I've seen this 1000 times. If your girl is hanging out with a ghost all the time, it's only a matter of time before they bang. You're getting played, bro.
Since you care about her and want to help...regardless of what you believe...send her this article:
http://www.stuartwilde.com/2012/05/hauntings-poltergeists/
She might connect with it.
Basically...it says to treat an invasive "ghost" like any bully. Tell it to f...k off...don't back down. And use lavender. It encourages a proper attitude...helpful no matter what is real and what is not.
She's not mentally ill...at least not any more than the rest of us.
You really think it's a good idea that I instigate this further? I mean, by showing her that and letting her think I am trying to help her repel a spirit might just make her more engulfed in this life...don't ya think?
I'm just talking out loud here. I don't know what to do still.
Yeah...maybe. But the tone of that article is...don't be a victim...so it might empower her and get her to stop making a big deal out of it.
All you are trying to do is help her solve her problems... whatever they are. You don't have to pretend you believe...or not believe...any of it. Just be neutral. She says she has a problem...and you're saying...well, here's something that might help. I got it from a very reliable source...ha ha..
As long as it helps...who cares?
I personally feel she does need to understand that watching those shows is attracting all this. It is a principle of Quantum Mechanics that what you concentrate on expands.
But if in doubt...don't do anything and just leave her be.
Thanks. I really appreciate it.
Unite Against Roach Coaches wrote:
Yeah, your girlfriend's mind is going through some loops. Maybe not entirely her fault, but it seems that she is (not really intentionally) bringing a lot of it on herself by spending so much time thinking about this stuff, reading into it, watching TV shows. When you immerse yourself in anything, your brain can make it very real.
Case in point: My freshman year of college I was such a nerd that at one point I binged not on alcohol and sex but Star Wars Knights of the Old Republic games so hard that at its peak, for several consecutive nights I had pretty vivid dreams of myself in that Star Wars universe, being a Jedi. Now of course I knew what was going on (and was rather ashamed of it) so didn't get trapped into a spiral of believing I really was a Jedi, as your girlfriend is really believing she is communicating with "spirits", but I can see how one could inadvertently take themselves down that path, when it is something that some people do tend to at least sort of believe in, like spirits.
As you can probably tell with the whole Star Wars thing, I don't have much advice from the relationship angle of it. Maybe you could tell your girlfriend my story and she'll laugh her way out of her predicament. Good luck.
For a few weeks in high school I legitimately believed I was a Jedi. I think it was when I was struggling with my lack of belief in a god and wanted the truth to be something awesome. Being a Jedi would be awesome. So I convinced myself it was a thing. Didn't last very long.
I'm honestly pretty concerned at how many people are feeding your girlfriend's delusions. She might be mentally healthy (I certainly hope so) but believing you've been assaulted by a ghost is certainly neither good nor healthy (nor true, obviously).
The answer is simple. Google the nearest "spiritualist church" and go both there on Sunday. She'll learn there is more than just ghosts, there are entities everywhere just trying to communicate. Just listen to the ones that help and let the spiritualist religion heal you. In reality, it's about love, but in totality is so totally beyond understanding that the world is in the state that it's in. But the ones that grasp it aren't afraid of spirits, and certainly aren't having nightmares, or freaking about life. They're just living it up, waiting to die and or the next world, whatever it is! I run because I feel alive and maybe she should go run. Preferably in the woods and the longer the better. I probably didn't run long enough trail runs in college. Anyways, from where she's at in her head - let her run it all out and she'll love the spiritualist church for giving some meaning and something concrete in her life, and definitely something to pursue even though inconcrete it may seem...
If ghosts and spirits really exist do they have personalities, motives, intentions, consciousness? It sounds ridiculous.
I've read that our dreams are our minds trying to resolve our daily conflicts.
I know that years ago when I was playing a lot of chess my dreams were of chess boards with bishops, knights and castles flying across the board.
If your girlfriend is obsessed with all this nonsense it's going to continue in her dreams.
She needs a new obsession. Have here read 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle.
To quote an old line from The Eagles..."Don't Let The Sound Of Your Own Wheels Drive You Crazy."
Beliefs like "everything is material" are indirectly responsible for spiritualism. Because they are unable to explain everything about their experiences using a material context, people run off to look for the "opposite." This results in the ancient false dichotomies like material/ethereal, corporeal/spiritual, and so forth.
Everything is ultimately physical, as nothing can exist without some component that is part of the "real" world, something that physics would say exists. But as physics has evolved, not all these things are considered material, and unfortunately, there is no rigorous definition of just what "matter" is anyhow. At some fundamental level, matter and energy are the same thing. Space is empty but is also the "fabric" or stuff of the universe. And the universe is, well, you can say "everything," but then what's everything? Nobody knows. This kind of halfass thinking afflicts all of human knowledge, putting it all on a shaky foundation.
That includes Mr Krishna whoever who believed "nothing." Baloney, he wouldn't say or write anything if he didn't believe anything. The problem is that people misrepresent their beliefs to themselves through constant interpretation and lose touch with the instinct that founded their belief in the first place. Believing "nothing" - the view that "the wisest man says 'I don't know'" - is really only a first step toward wisdom. It is a bulwark against self-deception, but an extreme measure not needed by people with the sound instinct to discern between what they know and what they don't. Most of the time you don't need anything more elaborate than common sense.
I don't know if this helps or whether it even is the case, but look into sleep paralysis and whether she could be suffering from that. It must be a possibility.
Pat Swayze wrote:
Dude, I hate to break it to you, but your GF wasn't raped. She probably just got drunk and boned the ghost at a party and regretted it, so now she's saying he raped her. I've seen this 1000 times. If your girl is hanging out with a ghost all the time, it's only a matter of time before they bang. You're getting played, bro.
Mary Mother of God was raped by spirit.
henry4life wrote:
HaHa...I see your point there. But why not make a post to get some feedback on this? Actually, the BPD thread months ago was very informative. I thought it was amazing to hear stories.
I know tons of people who watch ghost shows and say they believe in ghosts...obviously, including my girlfriend. However, this is the first time it has escalated to something so serious and dramatic. I usually look at everything and rationalize it.
Just so people know, I have been supportive and have not put her down. However, when she said she was raped by a ghost, I almost lost it. That is why I came here.
Today, I tried texting her some things on paralysis and dreaming. She called me saying she wished it was that, but she already looked it up and it's not. She told me she knows there is a man ghost in the house and she can feel him next to her at all times. She is scared to be in the house and she is going to have this lady come over. She also said that because I don't believe, he doesn't bother me.
No...I'm NOT kidding...I know some heads are rolling after reading that.
Soooo, now what? What are your thoughts? Some people mentioned schizophrenia...are you serious? I never would have honestly thought about that. Don't you think it's a bit absurd?
Psychotic breaks typically happen in your 20s. She is having persistent hallucinations. She needs to be talking to a real psychiatrist to see what is going on. No, this is not normal.
Holiday Inn Expert wrote:
Spiritual realities? In what realm of the physical world? The whole idea of anything spiritual just boggles me because none of it can be seen, heard, felt, tasted, etc. All this nonsense is based on anecdotal evidence, none of which can be observed, tested, and proven in the real world...
Always loved this logic.
A) Spiritual realities cannot exist because they cannot be seen, heard, felt...
B) Of course, if they could be seen, heard, felt then they would not be spiritual realities but rather physical realities.
Ummmm....ever heard of assuming your conclusion?
I was really hoping this was going to be a OAR reference.
Sorely disappointed.
To Bad Wiggins: When I stated that Krishnamurti 'believed in nothing' I may have misled you. If I understand him correctly I think what he is saying is that once you have a "belief" then that belief becomes a prison and you reside there comfortably because 'you know.' Krishnamurti says that what "is" is constantly changing and you need to be in 'the moment' to perceive what 'is.'
In all of his talks he never came at a topic or issue as if he "knew" the answer and was imparting his wisdom to you. He approached things by saying that he doesn't know: "Let us examine this together."
He believed that we don't use thought properly, that we don't control thought, thought controls us. He is referring to that incessant inner noise going on constantly in our minds...the inner conversations, condemnations, judgments. If you doubt that you don't control your own thought...try to silence it.