It's not OK to hit women ... even though it's really tempting when they're whining.
It's not OK to hit women ... even though it's really tempting when they're whining.
I had a girlfriend once that asked when I was going to grow up and quit running. I dumped her
My wife is my #1 supporter. she encourages me when I am down, she comes to my races when she can, she understands how important running is to me. I do the same for her interests.
people don't change, no matter how hard we try.
If you had a girlfriend that did aerobics every day would you ask her to take a day off? No. Because a day off leads to taking the day off whenever it suits her which leads to taking a weak off to go to Captiva Island with her parents and then taking the weekend off when she wants to go on a Fall color tour, which leads to you sucking at running and blaming her ... eventually you quit in frustration and your relationship fails because she couldn't understand how important it is to you or it fails because you stand up for yourself and this thing that is so important to you and she sees this as a power struggle that she is losing to running. I don't like what is behind Door number 1. or Door number 2.
I think you know what you need to do.
Hell that guy had it right. Get her to ride her bike with you while you run on some days. I think I'm gonna try that with my girl. I think she'd be pretty down with that.
Women are stupid. They don't want you to run, work, or do anything except slave over that pu$$y.
LD
just saying wrote:
It's not OK to hit women ... even though it's really tempting when they're whining.
Whenever I can't stand listening to the girlfriend whine anymore, I tell her,
"What do you tell a girl with two black eyes?"
I dunno' what?
"What can you tell her you already told her twice."
She shuts up. I have never hit a girl and would never, but man some of them think that badgering you into something is going to work.
If they hassle me about sports (my favorite is when I am going to a race for the whole day and they say, "You never spend the whole day with me.") I just tell them that I love them the most I can love a person in this world, but I am never going to give up sports, that will be a forever thing, and that I can always get a new girlfriend or wife.
They also love this.
I reccommend that you learn some awesome oral sex techniques, and start using them. Put on several coats every chance you get, if you know what I mean. There is no guarantee that she will allow the running to continue, but I would have to say that this has allowed me many of my transgressions forgiven.
why did she throw a fit?
Bum's right. This is just a power grab, and it's not a good omen. It'll only get worse. Odds are, you've never put a single restriction on her or even criticized her. But she's already decided that someone must have the upper hand in your relationship, and that someone must be her. Like too many western women, her mind has been poisoned by Cinderella fairy tales, and she holds you personally responsible for her happiness.
She'll dare you to MAKE her happy, and she'll make that your sole mission in life, but you'll never quite succeed.
Dump her. The sooner, the better.
running comes before girls...especially if you're still on the uprise and getting better and better.
you think u got problems now .Some day you will be too old to run or bang.
Sounds like garbage.
No woman is going to be jealous of your running or any other hobby UNLESS you are not meeting her emotional needs at home.
I have a problem when my girlfriend want to go out for a run and I wanna stay in and fruck.
16x,
I don't think she's jealous - she's simply trying to get the upper hand.
I think you're terrified of her getting the upper hand and your mother was the dominant influence in your childhood development.
maple leaf wrote:
why did she throw a fit?
On the surface she thought we should be doing housework (I had already spent 2 hours doing stuff, which was a good start, and felt that we could finish up later). But the truth was, she wanted to run. Hasn't been able to run much because of chronic injuries. Anyway, she was a happy camper after doing the fun run.
Bum wrote:
16x,
I don't think she's jealous - she's simply trying to get the upper hand.
Perhaps, then what you have is the manipulative type and manipulation comes from fear, so you would need to address what it is she fears about your running - or being away from her to run or why you would rather go to a race instead of do something with her. You have to get her to address that - but kindly, not viciously.
16x wrote:
Bum wrote:16x,
I don't think she's jealous - she's simply trying to get the upper hand.
Perhaps, then what you have is the manipulative type and manipulation comes from fear, so you would need to address what it is she fears about your running - or being away from her to run or why you would rather go to a race instead of do something with her. You have to get her to address that - but kindly, not viciously.
Sounds like she may need a babysitter, not a boyfriend. Her fears may have nothing to do with him, or his running. She may fear being alone. If so, she does in fact need a babysitter, and I would suggest he cut the cord and let her grow up. It may sound harsh, but people (not just women, there are men who fall into this category) who have to be attended to 24/7 are not mature enough to enter into successful relationships.
I don't disagree with you Bum, that is one possible "solution".
16x wrote:
Perhaps, then what you have is the manipulative type and manipulation comes from fear . . .
Not necessarily. It also can come from a simple need to dominate the relationship. Among social animals, this isn't unique to humans. Even domesticated dogs quickly try to establish who's dominant and who's submissive, regardless of sex.
But it seems to me that women are much more likely than men to try to assert control. I've rarely seen a man criticize his spouse or girlfriend for their lack of a social life, for example, or some other supposed personal failing (i.e. nagging), but I see women criticize their spouses/boyfriends all the time. In my experience, the compulsion for control is much more common in women.
Can't live with 'em, . . .
If she has a rpoblem with you know running, just wait till you increase the mileage even more. Once you run 130 mile weeks all you want to do is run, sleep and eat, and they dont even understand that, even if they are a runner. Just get it in their head this is what you do, and they can have more fun when you are on down time.