For mostly adult men: anybody else's adult father show no interest in your life?

Man up frijoles. Your Dad doesn't wanna listen to your BS. He's worked his life away and just wants to be left alone with as little jibberjabber as possible until the sweet release of death.

You'll understand when you get to be his age.

Would try to be a little bit better every day and try to love and accept all. My dad was too tough, rough, and controlling at times and even ruined my running career (early on). I learned, through Christ, to forgive him, love him more, and move on. My life is now better than ever. My dad has only a few more years left here on earth and I want to make it better for him.

Give the guy a break, for crying out loud.

We fled my violent alcoholic father for the last time when I was ten.

I never saw him in person again.

He blew his head off with a shotgun when I was 32.

You watch Oprah. Men are not like you.

When men don't talk to their sons, those sons grow up to have trouble with their conversations and relationships, like "A guy with lots of feelers".

I think a lot of men of an earlier generation were brought up in authoritarian / traditional households. They were never asked for advice, and so they would never ask the younger generation for advice.

Also older adults, for cultural and physiological reasons, are no longer learning at the same rate as young adults. So they are no longer as curious about the world around them, or as interested in new ideas.

In the wild, females and juveniles / young adults learn new skills faster (how to use a tool to remove lice etc) than adult males. Not sure of the reasoning but it certainly has applications for humans.

Maybe some of you can delouse before trolling.

We all work our effing asses off you jag, What is this 1950? Oh boohoo I worked hard to support my family like I’m suppose to do because I chose to have a family and now I need my me time cause I’m a cranky self obsessed boomer. How is it that everyone else in the family manages to have jobs, attend school or college, have careers, families of their own, and personal lives AND STILL MANAGE to be decent loving supportive human beings to each other? I’ll tell you how, by not being a diva of a lousy father who thinks he’s some kind of martyr for doing what all of us do. Climb down from your little self indulgent tower where you’ve somehow convinced yourself your more important than everyone else cause your a Straight white privileged male with a delusional worldview, and engage with the children you created. While your at it, thank your wife for taking care of your kids and your home while working her own job probably, so that your selfish ass was freed up to pursue a career of your choice and focus on being successful in it. These are the people who supported you and loved you through it all, so free up your boring schedule of watching golf and jerking it to Fox News so YOU can man up and go listen to the BS and jibber jabber before they put your stale, boring busted and crusted Bad attitude in a state ran elderly facility where they don’t have watch you at home being a miserable blow hard waiting for his sweet release of death.

Men, in particular, need to reject “modern life”. The modern world seeks to emasculate boys and men. Our modern systems and institutions want submissive, obedient, non-threatening zombies. This is exactly want a man is not.

Submitting to worldly systems and norms creates deep depression in men, particularly in men, which is what you are seeing here in this thread. Men don’t want to be bad fathers. But they have given up. They have given in. Don’t be like that.

For all men: go back to the natural and righteous path of life which includes a foundation of eating real food (meat, fat, veg), rejecting zombie food (sugar, processed carbs, junk, poison). It also includes moving your body every day through hard labor or hard exercise including weight lifting. Especially lifting weights. This also includes quality sleep. Turn off the TV and the iPhones.

Take control of your life. Stop obsessing on fuc#ing safety. Take risk. Be uncomfortable. Be aggressive. Do things. Make things. Get things done. Be better. Set goals. Do better. Get knocked down. Get back up and move forward. One little step at a time.

There is no better or worse version of abuse or neglect. The experience of sexual, psychological and/ or physical abuse as well as abandonment or neglect, can result in trauma that we carry with us long into adulthood. Having a parent or parents who are emotionally withholding, cold or just plain absent can result in low self esteem, fear of abandonment, unhealthy codependent relationships and feelings of inadequacy. Communicate to your father that lately the two or you feel like total strangers and that it really bums you out. Express to him that you enjoy his company and input and it would mean a lot to you if the two of you could arrange a get together. Tell him you have been studying a lot of new cool things and would just love his opinion on it . Stay away from words like “you never” “you don’t care” or anything accusatory (cause he may not even realize he’s doing it). Stick to positive words like “quality time” or “fun project”. Hopefully he will see that you value his company and personal intellectual views on the subjects that interest you, this will feel like a part of the fun rather than an onlooker. Also, let him know your more that willing to reciprocate and try your hand at something he enjoys and can teach you. I hope this helps!

Bad advice. That’s not how men interact with each other.

daddyproblems wrote:

anybody else's adult father show no interest in your life?

Most people's fathers are uninterested in my life.

I’m not saying read it as a word for word script. That general idea with your own words and spin on it. Y’all don’t communicate at all that’s the problem lol.

Stop making your Blanket statements of how all men talk Professor Websters

Ate you sure you're an adult?

I sincerely hope that you have suffered greatly in life since making this reply