Need advice on how to deal with spousal issues

The moral of this story is don't have kids.

pedestrian wrote:

The moral of this story is don't have kids.

No. Children are our future. We must treat them well and let them lead the way. We must show them all the beuty they posess inside, and give them a sense of pride.

We must also check our posts for spelling errors b4 we hit send. I bet the children will do that.

You bitch

"Here's a thought. Maybe instead of trying to get the wife to do certain things, how about if you decide she has a brain of her own and can decide for herself what to do or not do! I suppose you want her to bring you the paper and rub your feet when you get home? This isn't 1950 anymore!"

Here is an idea, please go kill yourself. Now that it is out of the way we can all live a more peaceful life. I am not sexist is any way. Helping my wife find something she enjoys is terrible? Your a loser. I bet you had to think long and hard for something to bash me on, on that one right? Go back to your 8th grade homework.

Henpecked wrote:

Christ. What kind of wimpy advice is this? I thought this was a message board for SERIOUS runners.

Next time I need help, I'll post a question on lets-golf.com.

I think you are headed down the wrong road and you should post your question on Dadsdivorce.com

Is the marathon going to pay the bills, ie can you run sub 2:14? If not then your running, although serious to you, has become a hobby that you thoroughly enjoy and don't want to give up. Compromises will work best in the long run. My 2:16:09 is an achievement I am proud of but by being a "serious runner" I believe it led to my first wife telling me "we are through". It is not fun writing out the child support check each month while feeling like you are missing out on raising your sons. I have 2 sons that I am involved in their life as much as possible but I am not the custodial parent so I get the every other week and Wednesday night dinner schedule.

The choice is yours and I applaud your wife for voicing that your running schedule is affecting the family life. Get up early to run and be at home for your kids and wife.

Been there done that and still paying for it

Henpecked,

I've been having a good time reading all of the various responses on the board to your issue. They are pretty funny. Let me help you out.

There are only so many hours in the day. What you need to do is schedule your workouts during a time when you don't have other responsibilities. It's just that simple.

The other solution is to get a divorce and let her have custody of the kids.

End of story.

What you want from us is to tell you that she's wrong, and you're right. Dude, who cares? Even if she's wrong, she will still leave your ass. Like it or not, she wants you to do your part. You either do it or suffer the consequences. That is marriage.

You can have love, or you can have freedom. You can't have both.

LD

KILL THE BITCH!!

chgray wrote:

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Wow, good post. Thank you for sharing your personal story.

(1) It's wimpy to put your running before the needs of your family (her included). Don't screw up a lifetime relationship for something as transient as being in shape for a few years. Or you'll be one of these lonely old coots in the local road running club.

(2) letsgolf.com doesn't have this problem, since one doesn't need to golf everyday. it's easier to get a "pass" from the other half.

Hate me, fine. But I'm proud that I put my kids and wife first in my life.

First, most golfers are fat (although there are exceptions), which is highly unattractive.

Second, I would rather my husband spend an hour or two each day (and longer once on the weekend) getting fit than waste 4-7 on the golf course.

Most women hate golfers, unless they golf themselves.

If you think your wife is happy with your golfing, I suspect you are in denial, unless she golfs with you or doesen't care about spending time with you.

but apparently some of us know how to read... and not use the word "most" where it clearly can't be substantiated. more comfortable in a mob than being an individual, are ye?

where does it say i golf?

twerp

[quote]I disagree wrote:

most golfers are fat

Most women hate golfers, unless they golf themselves.

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Oh, the generalizations...I gotta go with the once a runner, now a golfer guy on this one. Don't speak for all of us (women) just cause you have some inborn hatred of those men who would wield golf clubs for a few hours on a saturday. I personally try not to hate anyone. I find it more productive than ranting about the fatness of golfers and the women who hate them on a message board. lighten up.