It's fashionable nowadays for women to hang out with gay pals, who'll go shopping, provide fashion/gossip advice, accompany them to shows and hit the trails for some cardio. You should be flattered that she wants to be pals with you.
It's fashionable nowadays for women to hang out with gay pals, who'll go shopping, provide fashion/gossip advice, accompany them to shows and hit the trails for some cardio. You should be flattered that she wants to be pals with you.
Cette fille que je connais par un ami et j'ai été txting un peu. Elle a suggéré que nous allions courir ou nager ensemble quelque temps. Citant son, "Il est toujours beaucoup plus facile de faire un entraînement avec quelqu'un d'autre, donc si u veux plus jamais im vers le bas haha". J'ai trois ans plus âgé qu'elle et pour être honnête, je ne la connais pas très bien. Je vais certainement prendre place son offre à un certain point, mais je vais aller à ce sujet lentement parce que nous sommes tous deux occupé et je ne vois pas le point de se précipiter dans ce.
Ainsi ai-je été immédiatement mis dans la zone ami ou est la ville la livre sterling à venir mon chemin.
>Vous n'avez aucune chance que vous skinny Vierges américaines!
female yo wrote:
I am a girl. I have been the girl in these "situations" before. Here's whats up.
Either:
a) you guys just met and/or just started talking, she knows you have similar interests in running/swimming, she is suggesting that you do these things together to feel you out and see what you are like without going on a true "date"...this way if things don't work, or she doesn't end up liking you, or she starts seeing the giant red flags with you, or you end up being a giant douchebag, etc., she can just say that you are "training partners." No loss on our end. We get a training buddy who is likely faster than us and we get to keep looking for a different dude who is better than you.
b) You are already in friend zone. She just needs a training partner.
c) she already has a boyfriend who does not do workouts, she has not mentioned him yet because she wants a training partner.
have fun!
^^^ this
also female ... wrote:
female yo wrote:I am a girl. I have been the girl in these "situations" before. Here's whats up.
Either:
a) you guys just met and/or just started talking, she knows you have similar interests in running/swimming, she is suggesting that you do these things together to feel you out and see what you are like without going on a true "date"...this way if things don't work, or she doesn't end up liking you, or she starts seeing the giant red flags with you, or you end up being a giant douchebag, etc., she can just say that you are "training partners." No loss on our end. We get a training buddy who is likely faster than us and we get to keep looking for a different dude who is better than you.
b) You are already in friend zone. She just needs a training partner.
c) she already has a boyfriend who does not do workouts, she has not mentioned him yet because she wants a training partner.
have fun!
^^^ this
Sorry but no one cares what women think.
Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:
This girl I know through a friend and I have been txting a bit. She suggested that we go running or swimming together some time. Quoting her, "Its always a lot easier to do a workout with someone else so if u ever want to im down haha". I am three years older than her and to be honest I don't know her that well. I am definitely going to take up her offer at some point but I will go about it slowly because we are both busy and I don't see the point in rushing it.
So was I immediately put in the friend zone or is pound city coming my way?
Pound city? Good Lord.
Some things:
1) You don't know her that well, so go run with her and get to know her. Then either step it up if you feel like it (maybe you can come back here and ask how to do that), or just continue being workout partners and leave it at that.
2) You're busy? Too busy to get to know an available woman who wants to WORKOUT with you. There's a name for guys like that...single. Dude, you'll never have as much free time as you do as a single guy with no kids. If you don't have enough free time to go meet a potential girlfriend a few nights a week, then you've got the wrong job. Just quit being so busy. It's all about priorities. People are too self important and say they are busy when they aren't. Life is only so long brother. Spend it all being "busy" if you want; sounds foolish to me.
3) She doesn't know you yet, so you can't be in the friend zone, unless she's a lesbian. She's likely hoping that you're NOT going to be in the friend zone, but that is yet to be determined.
hangingsack wrote:
Sorry but no one cares what women think.
Lemme guess...you are single and living in your mom's basement playing call of duty all day?
female yo wrote:
hangingsack wrote:Sorry but no one cares what women think.
Lemme guess...you are single and living in your mom's basement playing call of duty all day?
I'm married and I don't care what women think.
Flagpole wrote:
Pound city? Good Lord.
Some things:
1) You don't know her that well, so go run with her and get to know her. Then either step it up if you feel like it (maybe you can come back here and ask how to do that), or just continue being workout partners and leave it at that.
2) You're busy? Too busy to get to know an available woman who wants to WORKOUT with you. There's a name for guys like that...single. Dude, you'll never have as much free time as you do as a single guy with no kids. If you don't have enough free time to go meet a potential girlfriend a few nights a week, then you've got the wrong job. Just quit being so busy. It's all about priorities. People are too self important and say they are busy when they aren't. Life is only so long brother. Spend it all being "busy" if you want; sounds foolish to me.
3) She doesn't know you yet, so you can't be in the friend zone, unless she's a lesbian. She's likely hoping that you're NOT going to be in the friend zone, but that is yet to be determined.
Thanks for the fatherly advice flagpole. The truth is I made that comment to potentially flame people to draw interest to my thread. I don't normally talk like that but this is letsrun and certain immature measures are necessary.
Update: I asked her if she wanted to workout. She takes ridiculously long to reply to my txt messages so I may not be sitting that pretty at all. I think I'm gonna stop responding to this thread just because its becoming a little too much.
P.S. Flagpole how can you possibly make the judgment on how busy I am exactly? I normally put in 12-14 hours a day of school/work plus personal care which includes daily exercise. I normally sleep 6 hours a night. Not every 20-something is as lazy as those that abound in the Great State of Ohio.
Do like I do at work and stuff the muff. Just watch "The Make Shift Shaft." That will teach you to reach the tunnel.
F her, dammit.
Trolleo gets his Flagpole then waves the white flag. Figures.
Umm...YOU said you were too busy.12-14 hours of working plus personal care and then 6 hours of sleeping. Ok, that's 18-20 hours in that day. You've got 4-6 more hours each day brother. You can fit in a girlfriend if you want.But, being in Ohio has nothing to do with the fact that single people with no kids have a LOT of free time on their hands. When I was single with no kids, we lived in California along with our friends, and we did stuff all the time even though we worked a lot too.You don't spend your evenings going to see your kid run track meets and diving and band concerts and taking them to Front Runner for shoes and spikes for cross country (did that last night) and then to JCPenny for Converse and helping them with their homework and helping them read the sheet music that's a little harder and making them dinner and on and on and on. Now, I PREFER this lifestyle, but single kidless people have way more flexibility and free time to schedule in more things if they choose. Granted you COULD work 16 hours a day if you want, but that's a choice. You could also have a girlfriend if you wanted (unless you're hideous).
Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:
Flagpole wrote:Pound city? Good Lord.
Some things:
1) You don't know her that well, so go run with her and get to know her. Then either step it up if you feel like it (maybe you can come back here and ask how to do that), or just continue being workout partners and leave it at that.
2) You're busy? Too busy to get to know an available woman who wants to WORKOUT with you. There's a name for guys like that...single. Dude, you'll never have as much free time as you do as a single guy with no kids. If you don't have enough free time to go meet a potential girlfriend a few nights a week, then you've got the wrong job. Just quit being so busy. It's all about priorities. People are too self important and say they are busy when they aren't. Life is only so long brother. Spend it all being "busy" if you want; sounds foolish to me.
3) She doesn't know you yet, so you can't be in the friend zone, unless she's a lesbian. She's likely hoping that you're NOT going to be in the friend zone, but that is yet to be determined.
P.S. Flagpole how can you possibly make the judgment on how busy I am exactly? I normally put in 12-14 hours a day of school/work plus personal care which includes daily exercise. I normally sleep 6 hours a night. Not every 20-something is as lazy as those that abound in the Great State of Ohio.
Any report?
OP a couple posts up, "I think I'm gonna stop responding to this thread just because its becoming a little too much."
I couldn't resist. I doubt he will actually stop...
jhkhjhkjjjh wrote:
Let me help all you fools who are "playing it cool", "taking your time", etc.
The girl never puts you in the friend zone. You do that to yourself. A girl approaches you and says she wants to perform a vigorous physical activity with you. You're both in your teens or twenties. Hello, what do you think is going on here?
The girl is EXPECTING you to make a move...and not some friend-zone-inducing maneuver like kissing their hand. You have no excuse for not trying other than your own pathetic fear.
Be direct and arrogantly humorous with the innuendo. As soon as the run is finished: "Hey, now let's go back to my place and do a real workout", whatever, something that says it so directly that your position on things is clear.
Then you make a real move, at least attempt to kiss the lips. Who cares if you fail?
You succeed...bingo.
You fail but she makes another running date with you...your position is already clear and she hasn't said no. No awkward tension exists and you won't have to overanalyze what everything she did and said might have meant. Continue being randy until you either succeed or fail.
You fail and she does not make another running date with you...you just saved yourself from being a workout rabbit for a cocktease.
You do not have to apologize for being a horny man, it's biological reality. She chose to approach you knowing this in advance.
Maybe you think "but I might lose a potential platonic friend who only wanted to run with me." That's the cost of being a man. If you surround yourself with women who aren't putting out for you, all the other women out there who you might hope to connect with are also going to move you into the "safe but gay" category. Are you really so desperate for someone to run with that you would accept blue-balls? Go find some dude to function as your running partner and save yourself the humiliation.
Thank me later for saving you a lot of wasted time.
This. Is. Gold.
I read the topic as "Girl Wants to Makeout out With Me. Please Translate." That would have been much more interesting.
not that it matters... wrote:
jhkhjhkjjjh wrote:Let me help all you fools who are "playing it cool", "taking your time", etc.
The girl never puts you in the friend zone. You do that to yourself. A girl approaches you and says she wants to perform a vigorous physical activity with you. You're both in your teens or twenties. Hello, what do you think is going on here?
The girl is EXPECTING you to make a move...and not some friend-zone-inducing maneuver like kissing their hand. You have no excuse for not trying other than your own pathetic fear.
Be direct and arrogantly humorous with the innuendo. As soon as the run is finished: "Hey, now let's go back to my place and do a real workout", whatever, something that says it so directly that your position on things is clear.
Then you make a real move, at least attempt to kiss the lips. Who cares if you fail?
You succeed...bingo.
You fail but she makes another running date with you...your position is already clear and she hasn't said no. No awkward tension exists and you won't have to overanalyze what everything she did and said might have meant. Continue being randy until you either succeed or fail.
You fail and she does not make another running date with you...you just saved yourself from being a workout rabbit for a cocktease.
You do not have to apologize for being a horny man, it's biological reality. She chose to approach you knowing this in advance.
Maybe you think "but I might lose a potential platonic friend who only wanted to run with me." That's the cost of being a man. If you surround yourself with women who aren't putting out for you, all the other women out there who you might hope to connect with are also going to move you into the "safe but gay" category. Are you really so desperate for someone to run with that you would accept blue-balls? Go find some dude to function as your running partner and save yourself the humiliation.
Thank me later for saving you a lot of wasted time.
This. Is. Gold.
+1
When you stretch, "accidently" flash the goods. Her response will answer your question.
I honestly wasn't going to reply but this update is necessary and describes the bizarre twist which happened.
I knew this girl through her roommate. The roommate is a sweet girl but I would never make advances on her because she isn't attractive. I will now refer to the attractive one as "Blondie" and the other as my friend.
A week ago Blondie initiated communication with me and I was pleased how nicely things were falling into place. In an earlier post I mentioned that she began taking extremely long to respond to my txt messages and it got to the point where she stopped responding all together. Just to be clear I only txted her 5 times in a span of over a week. When she took long to respond or failed to respond all together I would put her on 24 hour radio silence just to make sure I wasn't coming off as too eager.
The day I posted that things weren't looking too good was the day hell broke loose at my friend's apartment. I only got some details but it sounds like Blondie is a psycho bitch. She is an athlete and is taking summer classes but from what I gather neither went or are going well. Blondie had a nervous breakdown and vandalized the entire apartment resulting in the three other roommates including my friend to immediately vacate the apartment that evening. Blondie is leaving on Sunday and is probably taking the Fall semester off.
This is the one instance in which playing it overly cautious has played well for me. I didn't get caught in the fray and have no personal ties to Blondie. My friend was actually homeless for an evening and crashed on someone's couch. Its kind of disappointing that I couldn't tell you guys some macho, sexually graphic story but I am glad I didn't go too far down this rabbit hole. I guess the lesson of the story is vetting someone is never a bad idea even if you may c*ck block yourself.
During this time I've been txting girls which aren't as attractive as Blondie but are definitely worth pursuing because they are normal and as of right now sane.
P.S. To clarify to Flagpole who challenged my daily agenda. I said I WORK 14 hours a day PLUS exercise and personal care. During the work week I typically only have an hour of personal time which cuts into my allotted time to sleep. I'm happy you are raising your kids properly and if I had a girlfriend I definitely wouldn't be exercising as much or making myself as many meals - because its the woman's duty to cook!
...so you didn't do her?