How to tell a girlfriend she can't run with you?

twowheeler wrote:

Could you convince her that if she rode a bike with you it would help your pace, maybe she could carry some water for you? It has worked out for me in a VERY similar situation.

My wife used to do this with me and I loved it. Then she got hit by a car while doing this. That was not so good.

DTMFA

My bf and I never run together. No big deal. We both prefer it that way. We go to races together and each run our own pace, then socialize/compare notes afterward. He has occasionally gone with me on group runs with other friends closer to his pace. Again, it's not a problem b/c we all meet afterward for the socializing.

While the various suggestions of running recovery /warm-up/ cooldowns with her make sense, I'd ask this: are you compatible in other ways? Do you WANT to stay with her? And does she want to stay with you--or is her behavior a signal--i.e. raising the relationship bar to a level you won't want to accept? Seems to me this isn't just about running.

If you're not right for each other, it's better to back off now than keep forcing it, maybe marry and be unhappy. Just a thought....

Bike wrote:

The suggestion for her to bike is a good one. It also sounds like she's insecure about your relationship, probably because you've been together for a while and she's worried that you're never going to pop the question. (I'm a girl, trust me, I'm probably right.)

But seriously, "I'm not that fast, only a 2:50 marathon"...OMFG that's like saying "I'm not very wealthy, I only own a few Rolls Royces"

Yes, I realize a 2:50 is better than the average runner, but there are so many people around here that are well out of my league that I suck in comparison. Just trying not to be cocky about something that is pretty average on a running fourm.

I like the bike idea, though I do a lot of my running on trails just since I like to get in as much rolling hills as possible (not to mention that there's a lot of gorgeous mountains only accessible by trails around where I live).

I guess she seems OK with running cool-down type runs with me as long as I'm consistent about it, so I'm going to give that a shot.

I am in low 16 shape right now , while last year i was barley cracking 18min 5ks, and I think a lot of it is getting those slow extra miles with my dog,friends and lady friends in as kinda of an active recovery, well but mostly ive been hitting the track hard.

Don Corneilous wrote:

do ur cool down runs with her. tell her im gonna go run for x number of minutes so be ready and ill come back and get u and run ur cool down w her...win/win situation

Only teenagers write "u" and "ur".

well. wrote:

Only teenagers write "u" and "ur".

Not true. I've seen 47-year-old "finance guys" write like this.

Of course they were insanely juvenile, insecure and pathetic individuals, but not teenagers.