Signs your significant other is cheating on you

just another guy wrote:

I recently had a pretty good sign that my wife is cheating on me. I came home early from work one day and noticed that her male friends car was parked across the street. This made me suspicious. When I went inside I noticed men's clothing on the stairs, this made me a little more suspicious. When I went into my bedroom to let my wife know I was home early I saw a naked man on top and balls deep in my wife. This really had me suspecting something was going on. If I put this all together it appears that she may be engaged in unfaithful behavior. I am not ready to say she cheated yet but it is really starting to look like it to me. What do you think?

just spit my coffee out. hysterical!

On a serious note, my wife of 12 years got a new high-powered job, and was always talking about her "mentor" - a guy of similar age and interests as me. We should get together,etc... didn't bother me in the least as I totally trusted her , and looked forward to meeting him. Never happened. Eventually she stopped talking about him, and suddenly we had "issues" that were of concern to her, though she would not pin them down. Then..boom, she f***ed up on the computer and I knew. Bottom line - when they go "silent" about friends or co-workers - start suspecting. Don't get jealous of other people they talk about because, hey, at least you are getting info.

On a positive note, we are divorced and it was fairly easy to let go. I don't think we ever really liked each other that much. At age 39 I thought the prospects out there were slim, but this is definitely not true. If you aren't ugly, have a somewhat decent job, and treat women with just a basic amount of respect and kindness, you will have more opportunities than you can imagine.

the guy who said to cut all times immediately is absolutely correct.

i was the loser sap that got cheated on and kept replying.

just cut ties and walk away. cold turkey.

[quote]wasaloser wrote:

the guy who said to cut all times immediately is absolutely correct.

I second this. It's really hard to let go and not send emails, messages, or texts to "test the waters" but don't do it.

out in the cold wrote:

Latest and greatest excuse: Driving all her friends home and didn't get in until 6:00 in the morning from her good deeds.

Not to be a p**** but man it hurts when she treats me like this. And she gets mad when I'm putting in time to run. Done with it.

Are you sure it's over though? I mean has there been a breakdown in communications, her not listening to you and you not listening to her?

Have you asked her if it's over or if she is just not happy with the way things have been lately?

J.O. wrote:

Are you sure it's over though? I mean has there been a breakdown in communications, her not listening to you and you not listening to her?

Have you asked her if it's over or if she is just not happy with the way things have been lately?

She won't address it or skirts the issue when I brought it up. Not only that, she's gotten 'crazy busy' lately. Basically she filled her schedule and if there was an opening she might give me a slot of time. It's only gotten like this in the last few weeks.

clownfaceloser wrote:

She didn´t admit it, but I finished it, got mad drunk and got laid (which i had not for 6 months, bc i loved her, boohoo).

Man, something about this struck a chord. How messed up is it that a person goes through a drought because they care about their significant other.

Has she been a bit depressed lately, and now she is trying to shake it off?

Yes there might be someone else involved, and yes, it was unacceptable for her to stay out till 6. You couldn't have slept much that night, and your mind must have been in turmoil? But then again, she might be going from depressed to hyper and back?

You have to ask her directly, you can't go on like this.

no mo emo wrote:

[quote]wasaloser wrote:

the guy who said to cut all times immediately is absolutely correct.

I second this. It's really hard to let go and not send emails, messages, or texts to "test the waters" but don't do it.

I couldn't do that. Too passive to just walk away. I see the bonus of the lack of drama, but...

I'd definitely need to have her tell me to my face so I can get pissed and tell her what a no-good whore she is for lying about everything.

Probably just me.

I did it because we were away from each other and I respected her. She obviously did not respect me.