How long before you said "I love you"

my boyfriend said it after a about month - i said it back but didnt mean it. (we had been good friends for 3 years before). he knows i didn't mean it then, and now we joke about it.

he said "i'm in love with you" about 3 months later and i hesitated about 2 days before i said it back. we've been together a year and things are fantasic.

I love you

Say it right away -- get it over with.

Everyone says it to your Mom right away because she will go down the dirt road.

She does not have my balls, just because she made me get a vasectomy does not mean she runs the show. I am still a man! We are perfect for each other. We plan on adopting a baby boy from Iran.

Hello there everyone wrote:

I know it tends to vary with circumstances, but I'm interested in getting input as to how long it was before those of you who are in (or have been in) serious committed relationships told the other person "I love you."

I can tell she's got some pretty strong feelings for me. She's told me she "really, really likes" me, and the other night after she'd been drinking a little was telling me how she told her best friend she's "pretty crazy about" me.

Anyway, I know the easy answer is something like "you'll just know" or whatever, but I guess I'm looking for some reasonable input/experience as far as what a "normal" timeline is for this kind of thing.

Well, first, good luck with the lady friend. I think the "you'll just know" applies here. There's no normal length of time. I'd say vast majority of people, in serious relationships, said it somewhere between one month and six months.

I told my wife that I loved her on our first date. It pretty much slipped out, but it was honestly how I felt. We had met each other about three months prior. Maybe it had a little to do with the age gap --she's seven years older than I am-- but her response was "are you sure?" I stared at her and said "yes," which followed with our first kiss and an "I love you, too."

There's little science to it. If those chemical reactions are in motion, they're in motion. If they're not going, they're not going.

If you want it, you have to go for it. First, of course, you should be reasonably sure that you really want a serious, long relationship with the girl. After that, there's little upper-level thought involved; just do it, or don't. Think about all the time you'll have wasted if you don't go through with it. If you break it off months from now.

So, you have some thinking to do. But, it's only one decision.

I've had that exchange with three men. All three said I love you for the first time after about 2-3 months of dating. In all three cases I wanted to say it, but waited for them to say it first. I dated the first one for a year, the second one for two years and I'm married to the third.

Typically it takes me between 6-8 beers to be able to tell some skanky ho' that I love her and want to spend some time with her. I then typically go home to her place, do her hard and leave while she is asleep. I rarely see these cheap pieces o' ass again.

Dont get too attached man. All girls are the same. If I were you, I would just keep chuckin up the deuces!

When you realize that you love her.

Honky Tonk wrote:

Try this: jerk off and if you still like her as much right after say "I love you." If not, then you might not be in love son.

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That wasn't so difficult.

What is it we're actually saying when we say those magic words?

The attraction that we call being in love can start immediately, and sometimes it lasts forever, although it certainly evolves over time. If this is all we're talking about, then we should say it right away. In a sense, we do say it right away, though always in different words.

The act of loving, of trying to make someone happy regardless of any benefit to yourself, can happen at any moment. Some people love in this way more readily than others. This kind doesn't really need to be communicated, because you demonstrate it.

The soul-mate/spouse thing is different and unique because it involves a promise to continue loving, no matter what. This is the only kind of love that really requires some sort of dramatic communication, because after you make that promise, everything really is different. When we say, "I love you," I think we're really just taking a practice swing for the real promise, which for most people is marriage, though it needn't necessarily be. I think the real message is, "I think that at some point I may be ready to promise to love you and only you."

Chris Brown wrote:

Dont get too attached man. All girls are the same. If I were you, I would just keep chuckin up the deuces!

God bless you, good sir. Post of the day

I started dating this girl after a long and drawn out awkward period of hooking up/hanging out. She was crazy about me from the minute she met me, and I fell for her soon after. By the time we started actually dating I knew I loved her, but I was 3 years older and didn't wanna be a b!tch so just waited and waited. She was scared so she didn't say it either but I knew she loved me so I was ok without the words. I think we both knew the stigma the words have and didn't wanna mess up our perfect relationship. They're just words--we both knew how the other felt. After about six months I decided to tell her I loved her and she told me she loved me too and that she had for a while.

Ideally I would have liked her to say it first but I did what I had to do. I don't regret it on bit--but you'd better damn well know that she loves you if you're gonna say it first. The fact that you're asking means you love her but don't know if she loves you. You'll know--and thats when I think its ok to say it. If you're not sure just keep waiting and it'll happen eventually if its gonna happen.

U wish wrote:

I said it the moment my bf announced his inheritance of a large sum of money.

Boo. What a golddigger.

just another guy wrote:

Typically it takes me between 6-8 beers to be able to tell some skanky ho' that I love her and want to spend some time with her. I then typically go home to her place, do her hard and leave while she is asleep. I rarely see these cheap pieces o' ass again.

classy

female perspective wrote:

I've had that exchange with three men. All three said I love you for the first time after about 2-3 months of dating. In all three cases I wanted to say it, but waited for them to say it first. I dated the first one for a year, the second one for two years and I'm married to the third.

did you have one nad between the 4 of you?

like sharing the one nad

"It's my turn to use the one nad"

Why say it at all? Love is a f***ing sham. You realize that if things got difficult she'd pry just start screwing some other dude. A woman is all good and faithful, then you go on a 18-month long whaling trip, she gets lonesome and starts boning the blacksmith.