That's awesome that he refers to his wife as "my muffin," I refer to mine as "my peach!"
nameless wrote:
I have a friend who will say, "I had my muffin, my coffee, and my paper this morning before taking my drive in to my school."
That's the way he relates to things.
Is he nuts or abusive? No, but he is insecure and needy.
surprised me wrote:
On the other hand, I know someone who NEVER bothers to refer to anyone by their "title". They just throw out names, left and right. It's impossible to follow the story because you don't know who the F they're talking about. You can't tell a story like that, you have to introduce the characters.
I've known people like that. I pity them because it's a transparent attempt to make it seem like they know so many people.
I understand what you are saying, I notice these things in people too. It seems like they pride themselves over being married, as if they're in love with the concept of marriage, and not necessarily the person it is with (though Im sure most are). For instance, lets say a 2nd Lt. gets promoted to 1st Lt. Now instead of having to call their superior officer by Lt......, now they can call them by name and do so excessively. Are they a young couple, and does your sister do the same thing? (my husband....)
My sister sometimes refers to our father as "my dad" when speaking about him to me. She is not abusive, she's just a little slow.
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
4. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
5. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.
6. Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
7. Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
8. Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Ugh...the word is infer not imply!
ponytayne wrote:
Don\'t imply from what your brother in law says or doesn\'t say.