This chick is obviously the clingy, needy type whose estimation of herself depends on a man's affection.
This chick is obviously the clingy, needy type whose estimation of herself depends on a man's affection.
Dr Phil a- tio wrote:
You must spice things up in the bedroom. I recommend you try anal and see if he likes you any better.
alright, our sex life is fine. we've done everything including anal so he should have no complaints. i'm not a clingy person but miss him and the affection. i'm not changing schools for him but for my education. he's my best friend and i miss him. we struggle so much now.
you can do better. if he says he doesnt want to hang out with you anymore, doesnt love you anymore, just leave him. the fact that youre best friends and together so much just makes him sound like your crutch. bottom line, he told you he doesnt love you so leave. he isnt your best friend if he is going to act like that toward you. i understand that it would suck not to have him around anymore, but you really need to think about why you are even staying with him in the first place. good luck!
Bizzy, I'll date you if he doesn't want to. I might not be as fast, but at some things, slow is better.
Well. This is probably wasted advice because you don't seem to take any of the good advice that's been given b/c it's contrary to what you want to hear but I got a few minutes of my life to waste on you so here goes.
Guys don't really play a lot of games. If he's straight up TELLING you he's not interested anymore, that he doesn't love you anymore, doesn't want your affection blah blah blah....Girl, he's saying the relationship is OVER.
He's not mincing words, he's not playing games, he's not your "best" friend anymore, he's over it, and you are wasting your time by hanging around.
You asked for helpful advice--well here's some: Make a clean break with this guy and walk away. Don't drag it out, break up and move on. You can't "fix" it if he's not in it anymore.
Move on with your life and your goals and realize that at such a young age, it's a great idea to be out in the world living up your life, having fun, dating guys and not tying yourself down.
UPDATE PLS
Socrates wrote:
Just some thoughts i have rolling around in my head after reading all of this. Happiest Runner says love is more important than anything else. This is not true, especially when you are only in your early years of college. There is so much more to your life right now than your boyfriend. I think people need to think of their own personally happiness before they try to appease the emotional needs of others. Who do you spend time with other than him? If that is pretty much nobody than I feel like that is a problem. You may have a plan for school and you are fitting him into that schedule, but it sounds like he is trying to tell you that he does not want you in that schedule. You yourself said "Each day is a continual struggle." that is no way for anyone to feel in a relationship. If you feel like that imagine how he feels, trying to tell you that things are not working out for him. I don't know of anyone or let alone relationship that has succeeded when someone in it says they want NO affection, and NONE given. There comes a point when you have to accept the hurt of a break up. I don't see any sign of him wanting to continue this relationship, and as much of it hurts, it really isn't much of one as it is. Hope this helps.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
Get some space. If things don't get better in a few weeks with limited time spent with the dude it's time to call it over and done.
Socrates wrote:
Just some thoughts i have rolling around in my head after reading all of this. Happiest Runner says love is more important than anything else. This is not true, especially when you are only in your early years of college. There is so much more to your life right now than your boyfriend. I think people need to think of their own personally happiness before they try to appease the emotional needs of others. Who do you spend time with other than him? If that is pretty much nobody than I feel like that is a problem. You may have a plan for school and you are fitting him into that schedule, but it sounds like he is trying to tell you that he does not want you in that schedule. You yourself said "Each day is a continual struggle." that is no way for anyone to feel in a relationship. If you feel like that imagine how he feels, trying to tell you that things are not working out for him. I don't know of anyone or let alone relationship that has succeeded when someone in it says they want NO affection, and NONE given. There comes a point when you have to accept the hurt of a break up. I don't see any sign of him wanting to continue this relationship, and as much of it hurts, it really isn't much of one as it is. Hope this helps.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
Get some space and do some 'you' things. If things don't get better in a few weeks with limited time spent with the dude it's time to call it over and done.