You're still young. There will be time to lose the gut for years. Bust your ass at the bank for 3-5 years and then you are setup to have a career with a much better work life balance and good pay and go back to being a healthier person then.
You sacrificed much to be a collegiate runner you can sacrifice much to kickstart your career.
sincerely,
your manager
Something along these lines. I actually quit a similar situation at your age to keep better work life balance and i kind of regret it now. If you see a light at the end of a 2-5 year tunnel, bust your ass. Work will ease up, and you’ll be financially free by the time you’re 30 or 35. Trust me, the women and family will come a lot easier at that point. I’m 43 and shooting for a retirement at 55, you could take a solid decade or two off that to do whatever you want. I would kill for that opportunity now.
I’m the meantime do some damage control. Do what an earlier poster said and stay off the donuts, eat well, maybe even skip a meal or two occasionally. Get out for a run whenever you can, but don’t beat yourself up about it. Take it easy on the booze too.
I know it feels like a loss of your identity now, but you were going to stop running competitively at some point soon anyway. You might as well be rich.
I was a college D1 runner good not great, 14:40’s 5k, 10k in 29’s was my strongest event.
I look at myself now and hate what I see in the mirror. I’m working in New York at a big bank, I’m a first year intern so basically my whole job is bringing entitled jerks coffee while I beg for scraps of how to manage the big deals and trades. Three of my cointerns have quit because of stress, the rest are miserable.
These days when I have a free moment, I pull up my old pics of me competing in college. I look at that guy, and look back down at my gut, and I’m disgusted at what they have made me become—what I let myself become, a fat, burned out, angry, balding, bitter person, barely keeping up, barely making the next day to get screamed at again.
I don’t or won’t run anymore, I have no time, so it’s two pumps of that sugary syrup to the “America runs on Dunkin’” drink I got chilling by my side.
my cointerns swear by adderall and ozempic to keep the weight off, on our few rare days off we get blacked out drunk and make horrible decisions. To a man not one is in a committed relationship.
I can’t help but look at my old running pics and hate who I see before me, wondering only “What if”
This is just the beginning of your downward spiral. You're already on the "dreadmill" of life.
Next comes that trophy wife spending your cash. Gotta have the right address in Manhattan & West Palm....that's big $$$. Now comes the kids all in private schools.
All of a sudden you're 53 looking at your "old running pics", hating what you've become.
BTW farmers put in 100 hour weeks in snow, heat and rain. So quit your whining.
i highly doubt you're at a big bank or were ever good at running. You do not sound like a winner or closer. It takes brass balls to be a winner, sounds like you have none.
I hardly believe anyone when they say they work 100hrs/wk. If you work 7 days a week, then that is 14hrs, 20mins a day. So, arriving at work at 7am, lets say, and getting off work to go home at 9:20pm. Literally, who does that. It's just a cool thing to say, to say you work 100hrs a week. Very macho thing to say.
I was a college D1 runner good not great, 14:40’s 5k, 10k in 29’s was my strongest event.
I look at myself now and hate what I see in the mirror. I’m working in New York at a big bank, I’m a first year intern so basically my whole job is bringing entitled jerks coffee while I beg for scraps of how to manage the big deals and trades. Three of my cointerns have quit because of stress, the rest are miserable.
These days when I have a free moment, I pull up my old pics of me competing in college. I look at that guy, and look back down at my gut, and I’m disgusted at what they have made me become—what I let myself become, a fat, burned out, angry, balding, bitter person, barely keeping up, barely making the next day to get screamed at again.
I don’t or won’t run anymore, I have no time, so it’s two pumps of that sugary syrup to the “America runs on Dunkin’” drink I got chilling by my side.
my cointerns swear by adderall and ozempic to keep the weight off, on our few rare days off we get blacked out drunk and make horrible decisions. To a man not one is in a committed relationship.
I can’t help but look at my old running pics and hate who I see before me, wondering only “What if”?
You accepted the job offer, i don't know why you are complaining. maybe you should of asked the hiring manager in the job interview about work life balance before you signed the dotted line.
If it bothers you that bad then quit and get a new job. Dont make the same mistake the next time.
I hardly believe anyone when they say they work 100hrs/wk. If you work 7 days a week, then that is 14hrs, 20mins a day. So, arriving at work at 7am, lets say, and getting off work to go home at 9:20pm. Literally, who does that. It's just a cool thing to say, to say you work 100hrs a week. Very macho thing to say.
Agreed. I worked some 90+ hour weeks as a medical resident, but these weeks were scattered throughout the year with plenty of 40-80 hour weeks in between. Having experienced maybe 15 or 20 weeks of 7 straight 7pm-8am shifts over 3 years of training, I feel pretty confident that maintaining an even more intensive schedule over any sustained time period would be essentially impossible.
I believe a finance bro who tells me that he works a lot of hours and occasionally hits 100+ in a busy week when a big deal is closing. I don't believe a finance bro who claims that 100+ hours per week is their norm.
I hardly believe anyone when they say they work 100hrs/wk. If you work 7 days a week, then that is 14hrs, 20mins a day. So, arriving at work at 7am, lets say, and getting off work to go home at 9:20pm. Literally, who does that. It's just a cool thing to say, to say you work 100hrs a week. Very macho thing to say.
Agreed. I worked some 90+ hour weeks as a medical resident, but these weeks were scattered throughout the year with plenty of 40-80 hour weeks in between. Having experienced maybe 15 or 20 weeks of 7 straight 7pm-8am shifts over 3 years of training, I feel pretty confident that maintaining an even more intensive schedule over any sustained time period would be essentially impossible.
I believe a finance bro who tells me that he works a lot of hours and occasionally hits 100+ in a busy week when a big deal is closing. I don't believe a finance bro who claims that 100+ hours per week is their norm.
Cash out early. One of my colleagues did the hedge fund route and found himself in a similar posting: from 14:20s to 220lbs within a year just grinding. Kept at it and 6 years in had a mental breakdown, returned home to a family who took care of him… had invested enough, got mentally and physically healthy, now owns some of the largest commercial and residential properties in a major city and has two $6-12m homes and is happy with 3 kids.
how did this initial post get more upvotes than downvotes, are people here that gullible. 100/hr a week is 20 hours for 5 business days. Even if he is somehow working 7 days a week at a bank that is over 14 hours a day.
This is the lowest level troll post and idiots on here eat it up
From what i understand the young bankers work a lot. Even if it's 80 hours a week that seems nuts and not something I'd want to do.
Is it just some right of passage?
When I moved to Ct and most of the people in my town worked in finance and were higher up, they weren't working 80 hours a week but were getting paid a ton.
If some AI bot can do most of the modeling can't the OP's hours be more efficient and like 40-50 a week?
how did this initial post get more upvotes than downvotes, are people here that gullible. 100/hr a week is 20 hours for 5 business days. Even if he is somehow working 7 days a week at a bank that is over 14 hours a day.
This is the lowest level troll post and idiots on here eat it up
From what i understand the young bankers work a lot. Even if it's 80 hours a week that seems nuts and not something I'd want to do.
Is it just some right of passage?
When I moved to Ct and most of the people in my town worked in finance and were higher up, they weren't working 80 hours a week but were getting paid a ton.
If some AI bot can do most of the modeling can't the OP's hours be more efficient and like 40-50 a week?
how did this initial post get more upvotes than downvotes, are people here that gullible. 100/hr a week is 20 hours for 5 business days. Even if he is somehow working 7 days a week at a bank that is over 14 hours a day.
This is the lowest level troll post and idiots on here eat it up
From what i understand the young bankers work a lot. Even if it's 80 hours a week that seems nuts and not something I'd want to do.
Is it just some right of passage?
When I moved to Ct and most of the people in my town worked in finance and were higher up, they weren't working 80 hours a week but were getting paid a ton.
If some AI bot can do most of the modeling can't the OP's hours be more efficient and like 40-50 a week?
It's not far fetched that this job takes up every waking hour of his day. Some people like myself take the job very seriously but are susceptible to allowing it to become all-consuming.
I was a college D1 runner good not great, 14:40’s 5k, 10k in 29’s was my strongest event.
I look at myself now and hate what I see in the mirror. I’m working in New York at a big bank, I’m a first year intern so basically my whole job is bringing entitled jerks coffee while I beg for scraps of how to manage the big deals and trades. Three of my cointerns have quit because of stress, the rest are miserable.
These days when I have a free moment, I pull up my old pics of me competing in college. I look at that guy, and look back down at my gut, and I’m disgusted at what they have made me become—what I let myself become, a fat, burned out, angry, balding, bitter person, barely keeping up, barely making the next day to get screamed at again.
I don’t or won’t run anymore, I have no time, so it’s two pumps of that sugary syrup to the “America runs on Dunkin’” drink I got chilling by my side.
my cointerns swear by adderall and ozempic to keep the weight off, on our few rare days off we get blacked out drunk and make horrible decisions. To a man not one is in a committed relationship.
I can’t help but look at my old running pics and hate who I see before me, wondering only “What if”?
No way you are working 100 a week. That’s like working 14hrs a day 7 days a week. Impossible. No one works those kind of hours.
OP is probably a troll, but there are stories of young analysts working 100+ hours and dying due to health conditions.
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I work at BB, and did 100 hour weeks as a first year.
Your story doesn't line up. How are you an intern? It's not intern season(that's summer). There is no reputable nyc bank doing internships right now.
You say you are learning how to "manage the big deals or trades". Huh? That sounds like a mix of classic m&a advisory and sales and trading mixed into one. Which is it? SEC and regulatory rules require a Chinese wall between those working on "deals" and those "trading".
If you are doing some sort of market related sales and trading role they do not work 100 hour weeks. That's an investment banking thing...and there's no investment bank doing an internship right now (I work in IB).
how did this initial post get more upvotes than downvotes, are people here that gullible. 100/hr a week is 20 hours for 5 business days. Even if he is somehow working 7 days a week at a bank that is over 14 hours a day.
This is the lowest level troll post and idiots on here eat it up
From what i understand the young bankers work a lot. Even if it's 80 hours a week that seems nuts and not something I'd want to do.
Is it just some right of passage?
When I moved to Ct and most of the people in my town worked in finance and were higher up, they weren't working 80 hours a week but were getting paid a ton.
If some AI bot can do most of the modeling can't the OP's hours be more efficient and like 40-50 a week?
Most people in Connecticut are working at hedge funds(most offices are in CT as well) and their hours are much better(but more stressful).
If someone living in CT works in IB(where people at junior and mid levels do work 100 hour weeks) they are generally more senior and can delegate and control their schedule.
Easy to do 100 hour weeks. Imagine you are JP Morgan, and get a call on Monday from the twitter board of directors that elon musk is putting in a take private bid for Twitter and there's like a week before this thing becomes a certified public chit show. Trust me there's a lot of work to do in that scenario that AI can't handle.
Many people work 70-80 hours. I used to put in 75 hours per week. But claiming 100 if really 80 is like claiming to run a 4 minute mile.when really 4:20.