I’d too rather marry someone with no personal goals and no hobbies. Maybe you should leave him for some overweight deadbeat
A running obsession is neither a goal nor a hobby. It’s a disorder.
Not enough info to call anything in this fantasy a disorder. Leaving the kids in front of the TV in soiled diapers for a tempo? Sure. Going to sleep early and exercising 1-2 hours before the rest of the world is awake? Probably not.
I definitely see some spouses annoyed by the schedules of anyone who takes their hobby seriously, but running has to be the least offensive of the bunch.
He was being himself when you met him and you thought you could change him. Stop trying to change him and focus on doing something positive in your marriage. Continue accepting him being the person he was when you met him.
I tell him that his running pursuit is worthless, but he just keeps going.
When we first met, I thought he’d grow out of it. 15 years later and it’s only gotten worse.
He’s upstairs now taking his third shower of the day. And he re-gels his hair every time.
He has a serious addiction. This addiction, like all others, is a disease that has no cure, but can only be managed in order to restore the sanity of both himself and those who love him. He should first be admitted to an in-patient facility for acute addiction treatment where he can be medicated heavily while going through detox. Thereafter, he will need close and frequent outpatient observation and treatment by mental health specialists with experience in managing this devastating condition. A great resource for him, as well as your entire family, is Run-On&On. It is a support group to help families, like your own, deal with this horrible and chronic condition moving forward. Understand that relapses are common, and you can't change your husband - change has to come from within - but having the support of friends and family is critical to his success. My thoughts and prayers are with both you and your husband in your journey through these difficult times.
lol. this is a funny post. can you imagine being married with children to a die hard runner like this?
I bet there are a lot of them. The BQ craze have many people heaving and panting. I have heard hobby joggers doing 150 miles per week. Someone should tell them Grant Fisher does easy jog at 6 min/mile.