Terrible trolling, you should learn the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist/counselor/therapist.
Your psychiatrist is there to prescribe and monitor your medication. Your psychologist is there to talk about your relationship with your mother. If you're seeing a psychiatrist more than once every 3-4 months to discuss medications and dosages, something is deeply wrong.
You should hire a different therapist and talk to her about your feelings for your psychiatrist. If she thinks it is a good idea for you to ask out the first one, then you know that her ethics are poor and you should ask her (#2) out instead.
This is actually good advice from Steve. I have a buddy that ended up laying pipe with his life coach (like a therapist) and made it happen with Steve’s suggestion. You want to invite them somewhere there will be alcohol. That’s the social lube that makes things happen. Good luck brother.
The gap between a practising psychiatrist and a “life coach” who probably worships crystals and sells beauty products out of her garage is so wide it cannot be bridged.
Around 15 years ago, a client confessed his love to my therapist wife. It was incredibly awkward, and he had to stop being a client immediately, as it made my wife very very uncomfortable. This is part of the reason why my wife switched to private practice and has been seeing only women/girls for many years now.
If you really are developing feelings, stop it. If you can't stop it, then you should stop seeing her, especially if it gets worse. If the latter, then you might as well shoot your shot and subtly ask her out for coffee or something casual outside of the therapy setting. If you you strike out, then thank her for being your psychiatrist and say that you'll have to find another one because the situation is untenable.
Regardless, good luck! It's a tough situation to be in.
I get that I pay her, it’s her job to listen, etc. But we literally have an amazing connection. Laughing really hard together, really connecting with each other. I’ve never felt this way before about a woman, and I am 100% sure she feels it.
I’m nervous to let her know that I’m feeling something deeper. Is there any possible way this could work? What would be the right next step?
My now ex-wife and I were seeing a marriage counselor. Ex said this is stupid but insisted I keep going. After the 10 sessions insurance paid for I saw my shrink in a bar. She went and got us a hotel room to meet in. Lots of dirty talk went back and forth. Sex was great. As I was leaving she said, " now you know what you are missing from your marriage". So I got a divorce. Have never seen either one of them again.
I get that I pay her, it’s her job to listen, etc. But we literally have an amazing connection. Laughing really hard together, really connecting with each other. I’ve never felt this way before about a woman, and I am 100% sure she feels it.
I’m nervous to let her know that I’m feeling something deeper. Is there any possible way this could work? What would be the right next step?
A lot of troll posts out there, but a lot of people fall for their psych. Just know - There are a million people you can connect with, not just her. You can bring it up, there is no harm in that, but don't be let down if she doesn't want to connect with a patient or, already has a partner - it's a legit possibility. It is okay to be friends still, and then continue on to find someone who you also share a connection with, it's out there. Never put your eggs all in one basket.
I get that I pay her, it’s her job to listen, etc. But we literally have an amazing connection. Laughing really hard together, really connecting with each other. I’ve never felt this way before about a woman, and I am 100% sure she feels it.
I’m nervous to let her know that I’m feeling something deeper. Is there any possible way this could work? What would be the right next step?
I can see your case featured in a Lifetime movie. You as the psycho patient.
It’s her job to make you feel comfortable and happy. Clearly she’s doing a good job. Men have a tendency to think any woman who talks and laughs with them are interested. For example, female coworkers talk to you and laugh with you. I recommend telling her you need to change to a new therapist because you are developing feelings for her. She’ll understand and she can make a recommendation.