I don't have an opinion on the overall "issue" (I couldn't care less if married runners have sex or not), but the word "let" seems odd in the above sentence. Are there really married guys out there who have enforceable authority over decisions like this? Maybe I'm a simp, but if my wife tells me she's going to happy hour with people at work or any other group activity she does, it's never a question of her asking me if she can go and me telling her that her proposal is approved or denied. I don't think I'd even want that.
You are a simp. It is not about approving or denying activities. It is about establishing that you are/were her first choice. If you were actually her first choice she would feel that it is wrong to like receiving attention from other men.
As a 50+ male in a large club I run with others my pace and that turns out to be older guys like me and 20 to 30 year old women who make up 50% of the group during the Boston Marathon training season.
I must admit I see a lot of good looking people while running so it’s a nice bonus.
As a 50+ male in a large club I run with others my pace and that turns out to be older guys like me and 20 to 30 year old women who make up 50% of the group during the Boston Marathon training season.
I must admit I see a lot of good looking people while running so it’s a nice bonus.
I'll fess up and admit to being one of those people. In fact, my wife and I met 12 years ago in a running group, had an affair, divorced our spouses and got married. It'll be 11 years married in October.
After my wife and I "came out", over the next couple years no more than THREE OTHER "COUPLES" (aka six runners from the group), approached us in confidence as to what to do, as they were also cheating!
Every one of those three couples ended up divorcing their spouses. That would be 8 divorces out of one running group.
A decade on, most of those people, including my wife and I, no longer run. Most are in their 50s now, including me.
Life is a series of learnings and phases, I didn't totally understand that then, and ethically its not who I am or wanted to be, but it happened. There is something to having your kids raised or mostly raised, where you start to think about what is next, and your spouse is doing the same, and they aren't likely aligned.
I'll fess up and admit to being one of those people. In fact, my wife and I met 12 years ago in a running group, had an affair, divorced our spouses and got married. It'll be 11 years married in October.
After my wife and I "came out", over the next couple years no more than THREE OTHER "COUPLES" (aka six runners from the group), approached us in confidence as to what to do, as they were also cheating!
Every one of those three couples ended up divorcing their spouses. That would be 8 divorces out of one running group.
A decade on, most of those people, including my wife and I, no longer run. Most are in their 50s now, including me.
Life is a series of learnings and phases, I didn't totally understand that then, and ethically its not who I am or wanted to be, but it happened. There is something to having your kids raised or mostly raised, where you start to think about what is next, and your spouse is doing the same, and they aren't likely aligned.
Losers are only as loyal as their options. Therefore their spouse who they selected is lame but they'll secretly go for the person who's better than their spouse in looks or charisma. But I have also seen women cheat on their husband's with guys in so authority positions who are fat, bald, ugly. The perception of power for a man gives women a dynamic of attraction in general. As for the running thing, I revert to the we're only as loyal as our options argument. If a person acts as of theyre even entertaining their options when married, their loyalty is compromised and pathetically defunct. Hot garbage.
Dear Amy: “Hapless Husband” wrote with a suspicion that a guy in his wife’s running group was interested in more than just running.
I used to be an avid runner and ran with a group of around eight people. Three marriages broke up, as runners spent a lot of time together. I’m a lucky one — I met my wife while running without breaking up any marriages.
— Going the Distance
It got me thinking. Should people this let their spouses run with people of the opposite sex?
If that running together leads to more than just running together there are problems in the relationship.
The same question could be asked about people of the opposite sex working together or being in any situation where people of the opposite sex come together.
Weird how my G-rated comment that complimented the world's second largest religion was deleted.
If you post something that probably had no point other than its negativity, and then whine about how unfair the world is to you, maybe the mods will have a change of heart and give you a present.
As a 50+ male in a large club I run with others my pace and that turns out to be older guys like me and 20 to 30 year old women who make up 50% of the group during the Boston Marathon training season.
I must admit I see a lot of good looking people while running so it’s a nice bonus.
In my training group, a 50+ runner dated and then married a runner in her early 30s. Both were single. They are still together 20+ years later and very happy.
There was also a group that was very close and would travel to Boston and other marathons together. They were members of the same running club and socialized a lot together, mostly without spouses. It was about even numbers of women to men. It was always 100% platonic and there were never any issues with spouses. Adults can have friends who are of the opposite sex without ending up in bed together. I would suspect that the people in the article would have cheated on their spouses whether they were in a running group or not.
Speed goggles are real. If you are a good male runner, and even slightly attractive the women will throw it at you. Women want to be with the best in whatever it is that they find of value. If they are religious they want to bang the preacher, in school the teacher/professor, at work the guy in charge, in athletics... it's the top performer.
There is only so much temptation a guy can take, eventually you will give in. Maybe you enjoy the ego stroke from having another woman indicate that you still "have it." maybe it's when you've had a few beers and you let your guard down, maybe you're just horned up and the wife is away or whatever.. you break down.
As a 50+ male in a large club I run with others my pace and that turns out to be older guys like me and 20 to 30 year old women who make up 50% of the group during the Boston Marathon training season.
I must admit I see a lot of good looking people while running so it’s a nice bonus.
I like silver foxes too ;)
Warmer weather is here-it's not a crappy day, but rather, a crop-py day at run clubs all over the US. :p
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Speed goggles are real. If you are a good male runner, and even slightly attractive the women will throw it at you. Women want to be with the best in whatever it is that they find of value. If they are religious they want to bang the preacher, in school the teacher/professor, at work the guy in charge, in athletics... it's the top performer.
There is only so much temptation a guy can take, eventually you will give in. Maybe you enjoy the ego stroke from having another woman indicate that you still "have it." maybe it's when you've had a few beers and you let your guard down, maybe you're just horned up and the wife is away or whatever.. you break down.
Is there something you'd like to share with the group?
Wrong. It is Christianity that is right about women.
All religions are stupid. God is no different than Santa Claus. Have an ethos, have a social group…but why on earth people in 2024 believe in spirits, gods, beings, or deities I cannot fathom.
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