Feel like I've finally "made it" in life at age 35 and want to find a wife. What age of woman should I be looking for?

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1 year ago 02/02/2024 1:19pm EST

re: POW

POW wrote:
Depends on how many kids you want. Women are about done having kids at 35, so think 2 years per kid (really should be closer to 3), plus 2 years for each kid and subtract it out. If you want 4 kids you probably need to have 3 before she turns 35 so 29 at the oldest. 35 is when you automatically become a high-risk pregnancy. They can have kids into their 40s so this is a guideline more than hard rule.
While age is important, what's more important is whether she will be a good mom. Will she help you kids work through their emotions, will she set good examples for them.
Also more important is that you like spending time with her and working with her. Because if you get married you are going to be spending a whole lot of time with her.

Keep in mind a lot of defects are more of a function of the father’s age.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

Paternal age and birth defects: how strong is the association? - PubMed

Infants born to older fathers have a slightly increased risk of birth defects. Young paternal age is also associated with slightly increased risk of several selected birth defects in their offspring. However, given the weak a...

Link:pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17164268/

1 year ago 02/02/2024 1:20pm EST

re: 1/2 your age plus 7

1 year ago 02/02/2024 5:22pm EST

re: Ralph M.

Ralph M. wrote:
The Doctor is IN wrote:
Unless you're the CEO of a wildly successful start-up, let's take it easy with the "I've just been working so hard" excuse for why you haven't been able to find a woman until age 35. Very busy people still find time to plow.
You are unsuccessful with women and seem looking for someone younger (and probably out of your league looks-wise). You feel your worth as a partner is correlated with your salary. You project insecurity. I gotta be honest, you're probably gonna walk right into a gold digger's arms. At least you'll get laid!
Not everyone is looking to get married young. Getting married and settling down was something I positively did NOT want in my 20s. You seem to think every person out there's primary goal in life from age 18 is getting married as soon as possible. It isn't. I dated and had relationships. Getting laid has never been a problem.
Also, if a man has his crap together, he is going to be much higher value in his 30s than in his 20s and thus able to date and secure a higher quality woman as well... This isn't rocket science...
One of the more ignorant posts I've seen on this board for awhile.

I don't think they are so far off. You are 35 years old and have been avoiding commitment your whole life. You can claim you were putting your career first, but you don't make that much. That's a red flag for many women looking for a husband.

You tone is strange, its like you watch to many bro-science youtube dating videos. You mention value/quality women, and seem to infer that you can easily find a wife just because that's your focus. That's not how it works. Finding someone is a matter of timing/luck and a million other factors you aren't even considering. Most importantly, is that they have to, you know, actually like you. Dating/Marriage is not a science at all.

1 year ago 02/02/2024 6:09pm EST

re: The Doctor is IN

The Doctor is IN wrote:
Ralph M. wrote:
Full background would require giving you guys my life story, but the short of it is that I focused on a variety of things in my 20s besides dating seriously and starting a family, and then I went to graduate school and focused on getting my career started.
Unless you're the CEO of a wildly successful start-up, let's take it easy with the "I've just been working so hard" excuse for why you haven't been able to find a woman until age 35. Very busy people still find time to plow.
You are unsuccessful with women and seem looking for someone younger (and probably out of your league looks-wise). You feel your worth as a partner is correlated with your salary. You project insecurity. I gotta be honest, you're probably gonna walk right into a gold digger's arms. At least you'll get laid!

Dude 100%. The fact that this guy felt the need to ask Letsrun the age of women he is allowed to date without being judged just says it all. He's 100% going to end up 1. in a shallow relationship with a gold digger and 2. being judged. He could at least man up and embrace that scenario as being worth it to him and not give a f*ck.

1 year ago 02/02/2024 6:29pm EST

re: Ralph M.

Walked in an elevator with Paul Chelimo on it. He was mid conversation with a couple other athletes and was talking about it not being that hot compared to Kenya. Dude is going for sub 2:08:10.

1 year ago 02/02/2024 7:54pm EST

re: Ralph M.

Ralph M. wrote:
Full background would require giving you guys my life story, but the short of it is that I focused on a variety of things in my 20s besides dating seriously and starting a family, and then I went to graduate school and focused on getting my career started. Now I'm 35, have a stable career where I make over $150k/year, and I have a decent amount of free time. I feel like all areas of my life are pretty much set so that I can focus on finding a wife and starting a family. My question is, what age of woman should I be focusing most on? So far on dating apps I've matched with many women at basically all ages from 20 up to early 50s (just been testing things out, not actively dating these women). Would people judge me if I ended up with a woman ~10 years younger than me?

Consider going the passport bro route if you want to find a woman untainted by Western feminism and boss-bytch mentality. You'll find a more traditional wife in Philippines or Colombia.

1 year ago 02/02/2024 11:24pm EST

re: kellen_olmstead

I married at 22 and didn’t totally get my financial life together until the kids we had were done with college.

1 year ago 02/03/2024 12:43am EST

re: Nancy B.

Nancy B. wrote:
Armstronglivs wrote:
How is it that women 28-35 "have a ton of baggage" but men don't? So who are they getting this baggage from?
Sure, men have baggage. The OP isn't looking to date a man though, so it's not relevant.

So the OP will also have "baggage", since he's in that age group. His dates should be warned.

1 year ago 02/03/2024 12:45am EST

re: I dont want my name here

I dont want my name here wrote:
Armstronglivs wrote:
Choosing a partner is so like buying a car. What make and year, new or second-hand. Of course, at a later stage of life, after divorces, business and health reversals and stuff that happens to your kids, it turns out that none of that way of seeing things works after all. Life isn't a bunch of investments and acquisitions. Finding someone you like isn't a bad start though.
So a newborn?

How do you get that from finding someone you like? You have no friends?

1 year ago 02/03/2024 7:15am EST

re: Josh439

Josh439 wrote:
Depends how quickly you want to have kids. A woman close to your age is probably more willing to knock that out soon vs a woman still in her 20s.

If you don't want to have kids, date whomever you want because this advice is irrelevant.

If you want to have kids and you date women close to your age who also want to have kids, just don't waste her time. Things need to move fast in your 30s, and so you need to be prepared to commit quickly given the biological clock.

Many women in their 20s aren't interested in having kids in the near future, and there can be a big gap between where you are in life and where they are. But there is a lot more time to date and get to know each other and if the relationship feels right at 27 for women than there is at 33.

1 year ago 02/05/2024 12:19am EST

re: 10 years younger is about right

10 years younger is about right wrote:
$150K is different depending upon where you live. In San Fran it's not that much. In the middle of nowhere in the mid-west it could be a huge amount.
As for a future wife, 25 is about right. Young enough to have 2-3 kids before you get too old.

$150k/year is 91st percentile in the US as a whole. Assuming the guy doesn't live in one of the most expensive cities in the world (like SF), he's doing quite well for himself. $150k/year would be enough to comfortably support a family of 5 where I live.

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