I’ve thought about this. In the business world, it seems as if men who are not married and don’t have kids in their mid 30s or older are viewed differently and relate less to others. It can potentially kill good deals because they will think something is wrong with you if you are a single guy in a room full of married men. All the way through your 20s nobody will care because you aren’t the boss making decisions but as you move up the ladder and begin meeting the decision makers on deals they’ll wonder what’s wrong with you if you’re 40+ and single. Just some thoughts I’ve had on the subject.
Marriage is about children and ensuring financial support because men can just up and go. If you want to be a father, find someone suitable to be a mother. if not, just fuk around.
Marriage is about children and ensuring financial support because men can just up and go. If you want to be a father, find someone suitable to be a mother. if not, just fuk around.
I think I very much have seen it this way as well but as I age I find I am more susceptible to the social pressures and also a seeming internal desire to have a family of my own through which legal contract provides the benefits and the felt sense of "officialness" that can be had. It seems beneficial that marriage would be needed prior to having kids as well for practical reasons.
FWIW, I am gay and not altogether immune from the internal pressures of feeling like I am behind in my mid 30s not being married or having a real family yet.
I am 62 years old.
I was married once upon a time. My wife passed away when we were both pretty young (mid-late 30's).
At the time of my marriage, I had not thought through some of this. It was just the thing to do. And I had no regrets even though, looking back, I do think it is bizarre to have the government (or church) have anything to do with my personal relationship.
I am now in a long term committed relationship with another (significantly younger) woman. I am not interested in marriage again.
I raised three kids on my own from my marriage. I am now raising two more with my present partner. (since someone was bound to ask)
62 here also...similar situation
Got married late: 36 - and my wife was 28 (this was her 2nd marriage).
She passed after 19 yrs of marriage.😔
I raised my two sons on my own - one out on his own & the other at home currently attending fulltime college.
How "significantly younger" is your partner? How did you meet? (dating site, running club, work, etc). Did your partner want marriage when you first met? (the overwhelming number of women I date in my age demographics want LTR & marriage. 😬).
I’ve thought about this. In the business world, it seems as if men who are not married and don’t have kids in their mid 30s or older are viewed differently and relate less to others. It can potentially kill good deals because they will think something is wrong with you if you are a single guy in a room full of married men. All the way through your 20s nobody will care because you aren’t the boss making decisions but as you move up the ladder and begin meeting the decision makers on deals they’ll wonder what’s wrong with you if you’re 40+ and single. Just some thoughts I’ve had on the subject.
Good points and societal expectations are a thing, esp. in the Western world. Networking opportunities are also different (not better or worse, just different).
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