My 45-year-old daughter has never grown up. Until recently, she relied on her grandmother to make ends meet. Her grandmother passed away, and now I'm all she has. After she was fired from her job at a running store and evicted from her apartment, she broke her leg in a while overtraining. I got her into an apartment and have been supporting her for a few months now.
Once her leg has healed, she has another job at a running store lined up, however long that lasts. I don't think it pays enough for her to live on. I offered to pay for training in ANYTHING she's interested in, but she shows no interest in a part-time job to help with bills. In fact, she spends most of her time on Letsrun. I can't believe what she tells me because she never learned responsibility, accountability or honesty.
She has now quit texting me because I called her out on her continual excuses, lies and half-truths. I'm committed to paying her rent until her leg is fully healed, but then what? Do I let her go to the street in hopes she'll learn responsibility? I know what can, and probably will, happen. To say she's ill-prepared is an understatement.
There are many people (often women) just like that - zero responsibility.
Seriously. Every woman in so cal is what you described. They eventually marry some wealthy dumb guy that needs a project and gives her an allowance. See Rancho Mirage, Palm Desert 🌵. Those chumps will pay for her future surgeries/Botox/implants too.
My 45-year-old daughter ... spends most of her time on Letsrun. I can't believe what she tells me because she never learned responsibility, accountability or honesty.
0/10. A woman spends all her time on letsrun ... very believable
My 45-year-old daughter has never grown up. Until recently, she relied on her grandmother to make ends meet. Her grandmother passed away, and now I'm all she has. After she was fired from her job at a running store and evicted from her apartment, she broke her leg in a while overtraining. I got her into an apartment and have been supporting her for a few months now.
Once her leg has healed, she has another job at a running store lined up, however long that lasts. I don't think it pays enough for her to live on. I offered to pay for training in ANYTHING she's interested in, but she shows no interest in a part-time job to help with bills. In fact, she spends most of her time on Letsrun. I can't believe what she tells me because she never learned responsibility, accountability or honesty.
She has now quit texting me because I called her out on her continual excuses, lies and half-truths. I'm committed to paying her rent until her leg is fully healed, but then what? Do I let her go to the street in hopes she'll learn responsibility? I know what can, and probably will, happen. To say she's ill-prepared is an understatement.
My 45-year-old daughter has never grown up. Until recently, she relied on her grandmother to make ends meet. Her grandmother passed away, and now I'm all she has. After she was fired from her job at a running store and evicted from her apartment, she broke her leg in a while overtraining. I got her into an apartment and have been supporting her for a few months now.
Once her leg has healed, she has another job at a running store lined up, however long that lasts. I don't think it pays enough for her to live on. I offered to pay for training in ANYTHING she's interested in, but she shows no interest in a part-time job to help with bills. In fact, she spends most of her time on Letsrun. I can't believe what she tells me because she never learned responsibility, accountability or honesty.
She has now quit texting me because I called her out on her continual excuses, lies and half-truths. I'm committed to paying her rent until her leg is fully healed, but then what? Do I let her go to the street in hopes she'll learn responsibility? I know what can, and probably will, happen. To say she's ill-prepared is an understatement.
DEAR ABBY: My 40-year-old daughter has never grown up. Until recently, she relied on her grandmother to make ends meet. Her grandmother passed away, and no...
There are some people ... Jimmy Johns and living at home. His plan was to learn welding and make swords and knives like the modern blacksmith guys on TV. Then he found out that welders in his area mostly work at the refineries. So, plan B is Jimmy Johns....For whatever reason, they just cannot handle the workaday world most everyone else has to live in.
Oh precious one I do need to correct you here. Your sister in law has had a real job. She simply has not had a professional career.
Can't be all bad, Jeremy Warner now runs a Jimmy Johns, now there's a hero.
My 45-year-old daughter has never grown up. Until recently, she relied on her grandmother to make ends meet. Her grandmother passed away, and now I'm all she has. After she was fired from her job at a running store and evicted from her apartment, she broke her leg in a while overtraining. I got her into an apartment and have been supporting her for a few months now.
Once her leg has healed, she has another job at a running store lined up, however long that lasts. I don't think it pays enough for her to live on. I offered to pay for training in ANYTHING she's interested in, but she shows no interest in a part-time job to help with bills. In fact, she spends most of her time on Letsrun. I can't believe what she tells me because she never learned responsibility, accountability or honesty.
She has now quit texting me because I called her out on her continual excuses, lies and half-truths. I'm committed to paying her rent until her leg is fully healed, but then what? Do I let her go to the street in hopes she'll learn responsibility All about archery quivers? I know what can, and probably will, happen. To say she's ill-prepared is an understatement.
It's evident that you care deeply about your daughter and want the best for her. However, it's also essential to consider the long-term consequences of enabling her current behavior. It's not uncommon for parents to want to protect and support their children, but it's equally important to encourage personal growth, responsibility, and independence. Here are some suggestions for handling the situation: Communication: Try to have an open and honest conversation with your daughter about your concerns, expectations, and the need for her to take responsibility for her life. Encourage her to be honest about her goals and aspirations. Set boundaries: While it's essential to support her during her recovery from the leg injury, establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. Let her know that the support you provide will be temporary, and she needs to work towards self-sufficiency. Encourage responsibility: Help her explore her interests and passions, and support her in finding a job or career path that she enjoys. Emphasize the importance of financial independence and responsibility. Seek professional help: If you believe her lack of responsibility is related to deeper issues like mental health or emotional struggles, consider encouraging her to seek therapy or counseling. Offer guidance, not handouts: Instead of providing financial support indefinitely, consider helping her with budgeting and financial planning to ensure she can manage her finances effectively. Community resources: Research local resources that may offer job training, career counseling, or financial assistance programs. Encourage her to take advantage of these opportunities. Patience and tough love: While it's challenging, sometimes allowing natural consequences to occur can be a powerful teacher. Cutting her off completely may not be the answer, but gradually reducing support and encouraging her to take responsibility can be more effective. Remember, every situation is unique, and it might be helpful to seek advice from a family therapist or counselor to navigate this delicate situation. They can provide personalized guidance based on your specific circumstances and help facilitate healthy communication within the family.
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