Men Are Lost

Does the article mention men who father children then abandon them?

there are lots of those in the good old USA?

seems like the scrawny geeky virgins outlined in this article aren’t as lost as the American “baby daddy”

"Bottom line, the best men are strong of character, kind, protective, empathetic, giving and genuinely confident. Fake men construct facades to protect their egos, are self-absorbed, belittle others to hide their insecurities, plus act in a loud and profane way to merit attention."(quite)

In the latter part of that paragraph, not a bad summation of those who claim to be "leaders", who hunger for public office and abuse it when they have it.

One thing I didn't see mentioned in the article (skimmed most of it) and rarely mentioned when this topic comes up is male rites of passage rituals. IMP its one of the main reasons modern men feel 'lost' as they become adults. Every culture had some type of multiple types of rituals where boys became men. You could argue that even decades ago when boys would enlist in the military they would come out as men, qualified as a rites of passage ritual.

Instead boys just turn 18 and then they are supposed to be men without anything that provides any real sort of guidance or idea of what it actually means to be a man. A lot of fathers have no idea how to instill this in their kids either if they are even around to teach it.

Nice post. Sums it up pretty succinctly.

Is this for real? Is anyone actually a fan of Andrew Tate?

You wound woke.

That does not sound true. It only sounds like something that some folks whine about and then other folks repeat the whining - until lots of folks are convinced that the whining represents something other than whining.

I think this doesn't have anything to do with masculinity as much as it does that in the USA we have moved adolescence from age13-15, from 13-25.

We have 20 year old men and women who have virtually the same expectations as 12 year olds. This was not the case in generations past, but now it's more the norm. I don't think it's natural and I think it is the cause of many of the mental health problems young adults have today. Nature is telling them they are grown adults, but we treat them like children and that causes a massive disconnect, that leads to frustration and acting out.

Yes, she does mention this group. Even writes about the My Brother's Keeper initiative that was started by Obama but quickly abandoned when it started getting attacked by women's and LGBT groups for not being inclusive enough.

I do not agree with everything in this article, but it is a start. That it was published in the Post is a good sign, IMHO.

Perhaps, but at the same time it's a shift in behaviour that applies to a lot of significantly older individuals, too.

Both men and women are lost. Women are trying to be like men, men trying to be more like women. It's a mess, and it seems as a whole neither side is satisfied with the current dating pools.

last 30years, girls have been taughted that they should be brave, strong, independant, make a good living, be ambitious. On the other side, boys were told it's all right to cry like a baby and share their emotions, with some mothers forcing them to eat soy and takings supplement from tropical berries extract to get their vitamins. Add the porn that disturbs hormonal functions for both gender and all the screens and wireless technologies that disturbs the brain and nervous system and you get what we have today. Almost everybody is lost. What a mess.

The problem is shoes. That's where it all started and that's where it starts. Disconnection from our environment, from our bodies, and from reality.

I'm all for amendments, and volunteerism is a good thing and worthy of being added to the list (though if I thought about it a bit more, I MIGHT decide it doesn't belong), BUT your "Spirituality/Faith" nonsense doesn't belong at all. Moral compass is fine, but that does not require religion in an way shape or fashion. There is nothing manly about believing in fictional nonsense.

Society's become too easy to live in, which has allowed for both physically and mentally weaker human specimens to survive. Traditional (aka, how human beings organized themselves for millions of years until 60ish years ago) roles and modes of being have been subverted, hierarchies have been inverted so that the weak are now considered strong and the strong are considered weak. Notice how many believe that men who lift weights and do traditionally masculine activities are now commonly considered "insecure?" This couldn't occur under normal natural selection pressures.

It's started before that I believe with agriculture and primitive technologies.

Agriculture means we have to work to eat instead of just enjoying what is available like every other species.

The need for technology relies on the illusion that we are not made with the full package necessary to live which is obviously wrong but now the habits are so strongly rooted in our lives since milleniums/centuries/decades/years depending on the tech, that we cannot do without anymore.

other than social media, life has always been hard