Is it weird that my daughter texts her coach late at night?

Yes; it’s weird you fvcking idiot. Tell her to knock that sh!t off.

Is his name Jake?

You reply to the original post, dumbazz

I'm a father of girls, a teacher at a high school, and have coached for a couple decades now.

I give my cell number to athletes with the instructions not to text me about anything not directly related to the sport in question, and only if it's something that can't wait until the next practice or for me to see and reply to an email (usually shortly before or during competitions). When I coached a Sr. Girls team sport this school year, I also told them that if it's after 9pm, I wouldn't reply until the next day. I'm very direct about this and tell them flat out it's not appropriate for a middle-aged man to be texting with teenage girls late in the day.

When I'm on school trips and directly responsible for them (acting in the place of a parent), I will text them later into the night as needed for logistics or safety concerns.

It would raise alarm bells to me if a coach is texting with my daughter "late into the night", though it could be harmless and an example of a coach who hasn't thought out or yet learned about appropriate boundaries.

I've been out of the coach-athlete thing for a while so I don't know what's "normal" and "weird" now with smartphones...I didn't go to school in an age where "texting" my coach was an option.

I did go to high school with a coach who lacked boundaries. Now, I don't think or know of any instance where he crossed it into anything illegal or clearly inappropriate, but his lack of boundaries impacted us tremendously in a negative way.

I don't want to go too into details about my coach, but when you have a coach who blurs the line between coach and friend behavior, as a teenager sometimes it's hard to make a distinction. Late night texting? That's not a thing you do with an adult educator. Thats what you do with friends. Keep in mind, this is a high school coach. Your daughter seems like a good runner but she's still a kid. She and her coach should have some boundaries, and should be able to communicate at school and at practice.

I think you are trolling but this happens so I will weigh in. If by some chance you are not, you need to screenshot the conversations and show the AD with a copy to the principal and superintendent. This is messed up.

I don't text my high school athletes at all. I respond back in an email with my school email account that also includes the parent and assistant coach as part of the communication. It's actually very easy.

This protects everyone but also, I am trying to model good behavior for our athletes.

Sounds like he's about three days from sending d1ck pics.

ok boomer thanks for the opinion. What high school students even uses email? I text my kids all the time. I know there is nothing odd going on, besides. Legally an email doesn't "protect" anyone any more than a text does.

I also use BAND.

It's not and have never been about the communication method. It's about if someone is a creep or not.

Don’t feed the boring, unimaginative troll.

This is probably why so many of the teen phenomns emerging are coached by their parents.

Does anyone remember the thread on here a very long time ago about someone called "the dizzle" who was coaching sport. He did some atrocious things and it started off as looking very innocent, like he was just being friendly.

This stuff happens way more than we know. There have been real scandals - Becky Lyne's training group (for which she acted impeccably, she got involved, wanted the truth to come out - a lot of elite athletes would have completely shied away from that).

dailymail.co.uk

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In new BBC documentary Nowhere to Run: Abused by Our Coach, Charlie Webster detailed the first time her athletics coach, Paul North, assaulted her at the age of 15.

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I watched the documentary when it came out. I find it incredibly sad that the governing body did not try to talk to any of these athletes, but glad that they are now taking on a new approach.

Create a group text with yourself, your daughter, and the coach. Just state you'd like to be included in any correspondence between the two. This is a totally reasonable request.

Aww why you gotta play the dizzle like that?

If the coach votes red, then all's good right yankee?

Only monitored communication methods should be used with kids. Not texting, not personal email, etc. Use Remind, school provided email address, etc. Follow district policy.

The short answer is yes!

Probably both your daughter and / or her coach are living out some sort of fantasy.

This situation may not end up good.

Yes, it is weird!

Never apologise for being a good parent and looking out for your child. Just confront the coach and ask him why he is exchanging texts with your daughter late.Simply put your foot down and tell him no texts after 8pm,no apologies no dithering just be firm on it.

The whole point of setting boundaries is to avoid problems like this. I don't think coaches should be texting athletes in general, but if they do, it should be minimal and during working hours.

Doesn't matter what your intentions are, a professional avoids setting off parents' alarm bells.

For you, an open, honest conversation with your daughter about your concerns is probably a good idea. Maybe also a private word to the coach that maybe they should keep most of their track-related chatter to practices and working hours, because you're worried about your kid's sleep/phone habits. GL

If it’s a D3 school, then he’ll probably be sending d3ck pics.