Woman I'm dating is very upset that I follow some "sexy" pages on Instagram and says it's a red flag... ?

You continue to follow models on Insta even though you know she doesn't like it and she snoops through your phone and worries about you seeing sexy women. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Red flags abound.

The issue isn't what you follow, it's that she would even want to know what you follow and make a comment on it. I mean, if she is totally granola and you are following Guns And Ammo, could be a problem but overall, instagram is pretty tame. Please post the hashtags of the hottest ones you do follow, so we can evaluate.

Instagram, another useless piece of social media and a vapid time suck.

Dude since the beginning of time women have been the biggest red flag the earth has ever known. They like to take the fun out of everything. Dump her and live a life of happiness. Remember you don't need women for your survival. They need men for theirs though. Just a few words of wisdom for you

Us women can get a thing called "the ick" about men. Once you get it, you literally cannot be intimate with them any more. Or even date them. This woman is simply explaining to you that you are in ick territory. Your behavior isn't classy and being obsessed with social media lihe a teenage schoolgirl isn't attractive in a man.

There's no telling what might cause the ick. I once had a handsome boyfriend who was unreliable, this isn't what put me off him though. It was the photo of him with stains on his shirt. I literally can't think of him without seeing those stains (what were they?) and the image is so bad, I avoid thinking about him at all. Following lots of women on insta is strong ick territory. It's just not an attractive or sought after trait in males.

To Mr Incel above. Thats right, all of us women are chasing your 40k pa and rented condo. No seriously, who the heck are you dating? Facts show that men who get married live longer and are happier but the opposite for women. The world is changing, few decent wonen want to marry losers any more, and you're getting left behind.

I once had a handsome boyfriend. LMFAO!!!!! What happened sweetie?????? No one wants you anymore. You have hit the wall. Go watch Fresh&Fit and have Myron school your bitter @ss. LMFAO!

Erm got married!

I'd be real careful about taking relationship advice from someone who once rejected a partner because of a photo of unknown stains on his/her shirt.

Please. There is no way that anyone got rejected solely because of an “ick” factor due to stains on a shirt. If Mr. Right were to wear the stained shirt, the stains would not even be noticed. I suggest that more thought be put into the why this guy was not the right guy. The stains simply embodied the true reason why he was found wanting.

In the sexy insta accounts scenario, the woman may feel insecure that she may not be found as physically attractive to her guy (regardless that love and even just admiration go far beyond physical traits). Or, she may feel that her guy may be a horn dog that she has trouble trusting (and, maybe she’s justified to hold that view). Whatever it is, it is not the accounts / pictures themselves. Dig a little deeper… it will help you going forward with or without her.

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I once had a handsome boyfriend who was unreliable, this isn't what put me off him though. It was the photo of him with stains on his shirt. I literally can't think of him without seeing those stains (what were they?) and the image is so bad, I avoid thinking about him at all.

But maybe you know more than the person who actually posted that. Either way, is that the person you'd take relationship advice from?

Apologies- was not speaking to you specifically, but rather just adding my 2cents on the topic.

I agree wholeheartedly with you on the stained shirt stuff. That comment sticks out bc it is ludicrous. It would be pretty bad if a person were so shallow to find someone else unacceptable merely for wearing a shirt with stains and was photographed. But, it is far worse, imo to know oneself so little as to actually believe that the stains were THE reason for the break-up. They weren’t. And then to actually posit this publicly… no, I would never take advice from someone with this level of maturity.

So would I. What is this place? The Let's gaslight women forum"? The "Let's interpret every statement made by a woman as negatively as possible convention"? Why don't you date men if you hate women so much?

He wasn't "rejected". He was told not to contact me again after I stupidly put up with his being unreliable. By unreliable, I mean ending it with me on two previous occasions in order to sleep with other women and not call it cheating. Stupidly, I still had feelings for him on one of our off phases, until I saw that photo, and it was as if a light switch had been pulled. There was also the text messages from him just often enough to keep me interested. I just grew tired of it all.

Of course, a photo of somebody in a stained shirt doesn't usually end a relationship, but if you need all of that explained to you and take everything literally, then you probably aren't great at relationshios and need to work on your emotional integrity.

He's no longer handsome either. Perhaps he never was.

Getting back to the thread. There's no way that men obsessed with Instagram models is ever attractive.

OK, you can backtrack on your original comments if you want but doing so doesn't make me a gaslighter or a woman hater. I took you at your word, your original word. Perhaps that was wrong of me to assume what you said was what you meant. Men have an "ick" factor too and it's pinging pretty loudly about you.

Well sorry random guy, but games of 'you said this, no you didn't, you actually said that" are what proper men grow out of in kindergarten. You know, men who are actually adults instead of little dweebs. In real life, you'd have no Internet buddies to show off to. What would you do then, if you had to spend time alone with a live woman who wasn't mute or unemployed?

I can just imagine you on a date, with the woman muted into silence, terrified to speak in case she is accused of deficiencies in her sentence structure. Or maybe she pre prepares a script, and gets you to approve it first?

You're all kinds of stained shirt vibes...

I said I follow roughly 10 (max) pages that are dedicated to beautiful/sexy women for the sake of being beautiful/sexy out of roughly 1000 pages total that I follow, meaning literally 1 percent. How does that qualify as "obsessed"?

Wow, that dude who supposedly cheated on you really dodged a bullet. Good luck to you...and anyone who dates you.

Have to give the girlfriend a few points on this one. The instagram models/influencers are complete freaks of nature and are nowhere near anything resembling what normal women, even reasonably attractive women, look like. If you are into that look, then you are going to make your GF feel incredibly inadequate and insecure. Yeah, she may be the jealous type and have some issues. But no one is perfect. Stanning thirstraps on instagram is not a good way to build a relationship. And you do not even need to follow these accounts. If you spend any time on instagram looking at anything guy related, they will pop up. I go on my wife's insta account to look at golf and drumming videos. I still get thirstraps on the video feed.