Ok guys I'm 20 years old about to be a junior in college, don't run for the team, but I ran 4 years of XC/Track in high school with PBs of 1 mile - 4:33, 5k - 16:54, half - 1:20 and I have been recently running around 50-60 miles per week, but all of a sudden my parents got angry when I told them I ran 7 miles and my dad says I'm running too much when I only ran 7 miles and he keeps telling me to only run 3 days a week or quit. Now I'm not a troll or anything, but I rely on them because I got no money, no car, and no job and I'm an incoming junior at my university with $5k of student loan debt already. How can I tell my parents that I need to get my mileage in and or convince them to let me do my own training?
i'm thinking a little context was left out of this deposition. did you run 7 miles instead of doing something you were supposed to be doing? most parents wouldn't be unreasonable enough to just object to their kid running just because.
True but some are just not fit to be parents. When I was 15 I was kicked out from home because I wouldn't quit running. I was a good student too. My mom didn't like that I looked too skinny and would "waste" all my energy when I could be working a part time job.
I now have two boys and try my hardest to raise them the complete opposite of how I was raised. Both boys seemed to be very happy kids. They both are very social, are great runners and excel in class.
Ok guys I'm 20 years old about to be a junior in college, don't run for the team, but I ran 4 years of XC/Track in high school with PBs of 1 mile - 4:33, 5k - 16:54, half - 1:20 and I have been recently running around 50-60 miles per week, but all of a sudden my parents got angry when I told them I ran 7 miles and my dad says I'm running too much when I only ran 7 miles and he keeps telling me to only run 3 days a week or quit. Now I'm not a troll or anything, but I rely on them because I got no money, no car, and no job and I'm an incoming junior at my university with $5k of student loan debt already. How can I tell my parents that I need to get my mileage in and or convince them to let me do my own training?
My most successful academic periods of my life were when I was running the most. At the peak I was hitting like 90-100mpw during doubles daily. I was Uber productive outside of running as the schedule forced me to be organized. When the XC season was over was usually when my grades slightly dipped, as I was taking naps, drinking more, etc. college students often work way too many hours on schoolwork. when they could work more efficient with better habits. I was a physics/math double major
My most successful academic periods of my life were when I was running the most. At the peak I was hitting like 90-100mpw during doubles daily. I was Uber productive outside of running as the schedule forced me to be organized. When the XC season was over was usually when my grades slightly dipped, as I was taking naps, drinking more, etc. college students often work way too many hours on schoolwork. when they could work more efficient with better habits. I was a physics/math double major
There's no way around it if you are still accepting their money. The only way you can say F off to them is to get yourself off from their support. That is the harsh reality. Now that you know this what are you prepared to do? This is the nature of the world. Good luck!
Look, this nonsense thread has gone on for too long, so here is the simple truth:
Unless you are a pro runner, any time in excess of at most 4 hours/week you spend running is no more useful than spending that same amount of time masturbating or enjoying dessert or watching a guilty pleasure movie by yourself, ie, no health benefits, no material benefits, no mating potential benefit, just idle fun.
honestly, you should find some middle ground. back in my post college days, i went to extreme lengths to become as fast as possible and it ultimately got me nowhere. even sub 15 5ks and sub 2:20 marathons does not put food on the table. as a competitive runner, you get all of these endorphins flying around but the time you spend being a try hard is time wasted that you could have spent on your friends, family, and financial career. your PRs don't really wow anyone. an average joe is already impressed by whatever your mile time is but to a competitive runner, you're just an average try hard. you can minimize your efforts while still maintaining your speed and endurance by just doing 3 mile jogs with strides at the end and a long run on the weekend.
honestly, you should find some middle ground. back in my post college days, i went to extreme lengths to become as fast as possible and it ultimately got me nowhere. even sub 15 5ks and sub 2:20 marathons does not put food on the table. as a competitive runner, you get all of these endorphins flying around but the time you spend being a try hard is time wasted that you could have spent on your friends, family, and financial career. your PRs don't really wow anyone. an average joe is already impressed by whatever your mile time is but to a competitive runner, you're just an average try hard. you can minimize your efforts while still maintaining your speed and endurance by just doing 3 mile jogs with strides at the end and a long run on the weekend.
Everything doesn't have to put food on the table to commit to it.
as i said in my post, i committed to something that i ultimately regret later in life. this is just my opinion. training like a sub-elite runner while also going to school/work takes up way too much time that could be, in my opinion, spent on better things.
OP, a 3.0 GPA in CS is trash and will not get you internships or easy jobs out of college. Especially without good side projects. You should probably focus on raising this and building good side projects.
In my experience, running beyond 40mpw with intensity lowers productivity and mental energy. But contrary to what most posters think ITT, getting faster does matter a bit. You can network better in your team, and there's a difference between how a 4:15 mile and a 4:30 mile is perceived in the real world. The former most will find very intriguing, and will credit you with a lot of positive traits as a semi-professional. 4:30 OTOH will be treated as a serious amateur, and will be seen as awkward meh-bragging.
Most likely you will not get to 4:15, or significantly increase your current productivity. 20 is not young in the sense of expecting lots of change to your personality traits. You should go all in on school and try to get a paid internship ASAP. Reduce running to 40mpw with intensity, and get a paid CS internship to reduce reliance on your parents. You don't want to graduate with dick as a resume, $15k debt, under your parents roof at 23, and a mile PR of 4:28.
Indian dad at work told about a family intervention necessitated by his son getting “only” a 96 on some test. We throw a party if someone gets a 96. Good guy but seems not to grasp that kids will earn a very good living here with 3.0 in CS. Fear of poverty maybe hard to drop coming from country with per capita income below $2,000 per year.
as i said in my post, i committed to something that i ultimately regret later in life. this is just my opinion. training like a sub-elite runner while also going to school/work takes up way too much time that could be, in my opinion, spent on better things.
Of course, kids don’t understand the permanently lost value of lost time. They think they are invincible and time is infinite until they suddenly find themselves on the other side of that rosy world.