Enemy of the Podcast wrote:
So don’t have a bachelor party. Or just do a casual bar crawl for one evening. Sounds like you’re more into the honeymoon, anyway.
First post, end of thread. Don't call it a "bachelor's party" if it isn't going to be a bachelor's party.
If you can't honestly enjoy yourself with a bunch of dudes up in the mountains then don't host one.
You sound like one of those 6 hr marathoners that just want to say they did it. Nobody cares if you had a bachelor's party or not
breaking tradition wrote:
The idea of celebrating my marriage to the person I love by spending 3 days having fun without her seems backwards.
The wedding is the celebration of your marriage. By all means, invite your fiancee to that. The bachelor party is a celebration of your friendships, upon which you are turning a page.
Is this a time where I just need to go with the flow and say "it is what it is," or is it reasonable to put my foot down and say "this is my party and this is what I want even if it isn't the norm"?
Typically the groom does not host, organize, or pay for the bachelor party, so I'm not sure that is is "your party". You might be better described as the guest of honor at your best man's party.
I'm more the type to rent a cabin by a lake and do some hiking and boating and maybe come into town for a brew pub or two
FYI, that is a pretty common bachelor party format.
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3 days apart from her is good practice for when you eventually get divorced.
Been There, Done That wrote:
OP, my wife and I went camping with a big group of our friends the weekend before our wedding in lieu of bachelor/bachelorette parties, and nearly 11 years into the marriage, everything has turned out fine.
I had a bachelor party at a strip club with chicks. My wife had a bachelorette party at a strip club with dudes.
20 years into the marriage, everything turned out fine.
Difference is, you can always do a camping trip with friends after your marriage. Your whole life will be doing campy things together after you’re married.
You’ll never have another chance at a bachelor party in your honor.
You may attend other bachelor parties, but that will be rare and not the same.
On a message board where every third post is some d-bag accusing an OP of being a troll or shouting “0/10”, we’re really gonna give this thread pages of discussion without anyone so much as acknowledging the possibility that this story might not be real?
I think it's a 9/10 troll job.
You need public opinion to help you make decisions about your own relationship? Sad. Weak. LOLZ.
breaking tradition wrote:
I realize that this isn't exactly traditional, but it is what I want and it seems like the party should take my desires into account within reason. I should say first of all that I'm not the type who wants my bachelor party to be a weekend of debauchery. I'm more the type to rent a cabin by a lake and do some hiking and boating and maybe come into town for a brew pub or two, not the type to want to hit strip clubs and be plastered for 72 hours straight. And I'm marrying my fiancee because she's the person I WANT to spend all my time with. The idea of celebrating my marriage to the person I love by spending 3 days having fun without her seems backwards. I literally can't imagine a better long weekend than my best friends AND my fiancee all doing something special together.
Is this a time where I just need to go with the flow and say "it is what it is," or is it reasonable to put my foot down and say "this is my party and this is what I want even if it isn't the norm"?
Is this a joke?
You don't have to partake in any debauchery, but no, your wife-to-be is not allowed to come to this party. It's a last chance for your male friends and family to have you to themselves for an evening before the rest of your life is devoted to your wife and potential kids to follow.
It's not your party. It's a party for your buds. Don't screw it up for them.
Well, I understand you. I don't like to come to depraved bachelor parties. And if I had a wedding, I wouldn't want to ruin our relationship by having a naked ass sit on me. I attended two bachelor parties as a best man. Every time I was faced with doing something grandiose but not dirty. And I was pleased about it. Both times were at the end of spring, so we rented houses by the lake and swam sober in the lake for distilling. And then we played games and had fun according to the plan from adultpartythemes.com. I plan parties well, but I take ideas from different sources. Try to look for something suitable for you, so your bride will enjoy it.
7 months later …
This guy may be divorced by now.
Exactly. We need an update, OP.
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