Marriage is great! Until you ruin your life with kids.
Marriage is great! Until you ruin your life with kids.
Asking a bunch of rando LRC posters for advice on marriage is about as helpful as asking Helen Keller for advice on picking out a wardrobe.
That being said, here's the best advice I could give: pick the right person to marry. If you make the right choice, you'll be very happy.
Yes,
Get off of social media on such an important day. Good luck!
That's Showbiz Baby wrote:
AXC wrote:
Got a short run in, 4.5 easy. Now just getting ready to head to the venue, chill with my groomsman who are mostly my college xc teammates and then to see my beautiful bride.
Does LetsRun have any last second advice before I take my final steps as a single man?
1. Save Your Money. Live very frugally until you have kids (if you want them). There is no reason to buy fancy cars or a fancy house, unless both of your parents are rich and buying them for you.
2. If you are in your early to mid 20's, don't have kids until you are at least 30 and truly ready. Make sure you've been married 4 to 5 years before you have kids.
3. Marriage counseling does not work. If you are considering it, your marriage is already over.
4. Make sure your wife isn't on anti-depressants, or is bi-polar, or has borderline personality disorder, etc. You are in for a world of pain if so.
5. Lots of couples have major issues over extended family. If your wife hates your mom, she is really going to hate her if you are married. Holidays and where you decide to go for them (your parents or hers) can become all-out wars. Make sure you are cool with each others family.
6. Don't lose yourself in the marriage. Keep your hobbies and interests.
7. Read #6 again. If she tries to change you, don't let her. She knew what she signed up for.
8. Schedule crazy vacations that are not kid-friendly and get all of that fun out of your system before the kids arrive.
9. Don't get a house until you have kids. If you get divorced, it's much easier to divide assets, etc.
10. Don't lose respect or gratitude for one another. If that happens, it's all downhill from there.
MareiHe counting works if you go very early and consider it coaching you two as a couple so you can communicate better, not push each other's buttons, etc.
we dont care
Two in the pink. One in the stink.
Congrats! I got married recently and am glad that I did these two things:
1) Ditch your phone, you don't want that distraction.
2) Accept that not everything will go to plan, and that's fine. (It's the marriage, not the wedding that counts.)
Dude your last minute advice is right in the address bar
RUN
It's the next fifty years you should worry about
Steve The Addict OFFICIAL -----^^^^^ wrote:
I just listened to John Daly the golfer who's been married 4 times. He says don't get married to modern women because they're not good like the boomer generation was. He explains that boomer women were loyal, they'd cook and clean. Excellent women for a marriage. He explained the modern women will use marriage (and even kids) as a trap then start changing their actions and expectations immediately after that. These changes in actions and expectations are the most toxic part for relationships according to John Daly.
If your role model is John Daly, you've got a lot bigger issues than modern women and probably shouldn't ever contemplate getting married.
Its not as though John Daly is going to be attracting top sports stars and beautiful career women who can afford their own houses.
-ipo0#4-whorsf.b wrote:
Steve The Addict OFFICIAL -----^^^^^ wrote:
I just listened to John Daly the golfer who's been married 4 times. He says don't get married to modern women because they're not good like the boomer generation was. He explains that boomer women were loyal, they'd cook and clean. Excellent women for a marriage. He explained the modern women will use marriage (and even kids) as a trap then start changing their actions and expectations immediately after that. These changes in actions and expectations are the most toxic part for relationships according to John Daly.
If your role model is John Daly, you've got a lot bigger issues than modern women and probably shouldn't ever contemplate getting married.
Its not as though John Daly is going to be attracting top sports stars and beautiful career women who can afford their own houses.
Exactly, never marry a groupie.
Don't let your honeymoon last over 6 days.
7 Days makes a hole weak.
The organization of the wedding is both beautiful and very difficult. It is difficult to say whether for the future bride and groom the wedding day or all that happens during the months of preparation for the big event will remain more important in the memory. It largely depends on who takes care of everything: a wedding venue business or the fiancés helped by their families. Regardless of the chosen option, the bride and groom cannot stay away from the preparations. Because it is one of the most important days of their life, they must get involved, supervise or come up with their ideas and organizing strategy. Given the amount of time that has passed, I would like to update you on how your wedding day was. Thanks!