Do you care if your girlfriend/wife hangs out with other guys??

"That might be a good angle. If you two ever discuss this ask her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot"

Most women who get annoyed with this statement say "It's okay that I have guy friends because I have had them for a long time it's just not okay for you to get "new Girl Friends". How do you respond to this one ladies?

it is quite clear that you havent the slightest idea about how men really are.

cumulus nimbus chick wrote:

someone wrote:

I mean, why would any guy want to hang out with any girl unless they are more than friends?

What a load of crap! So you're saying that if you're in a relationship, you can't have friends? Or you can only have friends of one gender? Surely a relationship that's like that is suffocating and doomed to fail anyway. If you don't trust each other that much (or her judgement) then I just wouldn't bother. It's completely paranoid to not want your partner to have friends and an outside life. Living only for each other is short sighted and not particularly healthy.

Have you ever met a girl that you tried to date

But a year to make love she wanted you to wait

Let me tell you a story of my situation

I was talking to this girl from the U.S. nation

The way that I met her was on tour at a concert

She had long hair and a short miniskirt

I just got onstage dripping, pouring with sweat

I was walking through the crowd

And guess who I met

I whispered in her ear

Come to the picture booth

So I can ask you some questions

To see if you`re a hundred proof

I asked her her name

Se said, blah, blah, blah

She had 910 pants and a very big bra

I took a couple of flicks and she was enthused

I said, how do you like the show

She said, I was very amused

I started throwin` bass

And he started throwing back mid-range

But when I sprung the question

She acted kind of strange

Then when I asked, do you have a man

She tried to pretend

She said, no, I don`t

I only have a friend

Come on, I`m not even going for it

This is what I`m gonna sing

You, you got what I need

But you say he`s just a friend

And you say he`s just a friend

Oh, baby, you got what I need

But you say he`s just a friend

But you say he`s just a friend

Oh, baby, you got what I need

But you say he`s just a friend

But you say he`s just a friend

It all depends on if she's trying to keep you away from her friends or trying to hide them from you. If she's going out every night with this group of guys, not inviting you, not wanting you to spend time with them, and putting them as a time priority over you, that's not alright and you have a problem. If you've been introduced to them, invited to spend time with them at least occasionally, but they've just been good friends with her longer so are closer to her than you, then you're just being insecure and she deserves to keep her friends and some of her own space.

Spoken like a true woman.

Your girlfriend is a candy bar in a room full of dieting fatsos. Somebody is just waiting for the chance pounce.

if you were my bf, i would hang around other guys with bigger tools too.

why would i care? lots of times she hangs out with other guys and other girls, i am usually there too, it is called an orgy. we usually take part in our neighborhood orgies every thursday. who cares if she is going somewhere else, i am too.

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it is quite clear that you havent the slightest idea about how men really are.

You can say that again. Straight men are always on the make for women, friend or not. Just the way they're programmed.

Listen, never take advice on girls from a girl. Most girls don't even know how to masturbate until you show them. Heres the deal. You need to put a stop to your girl hanging out with all these other guys. Don't whine to her, do have a heart to heart, don't express your feelings - thats the surest way to have her end up on the recieving end of some other dudes c***. Don't tell her she can't see them either - you can't force her. Heres what you need to do - meet these friends and, with your girl friend there, make it clear that you are better looking/have more money/have a bigger c***/etc... then anyone in the group. If you can't do this, its only a matter of time. If you do, she'll lose interest in these "friends" quickly - problem solved. She only has them because she precieves they offer something you don't. Thats how it works as a guy - you always have to be the biggest swinging d*ck in the place (or at least the best one your girl can get).

If you want to marry this girl, you need to tell her to stop.

Otherwise, she is free to do this as long as she likes. If you do not like it, you need to find another girl.

My wife would never do something like this, nor would I. Like it was said before, did your mother hang out with other single guys without your father?

If I were in your situation, though, I would treat this like any relationship issue. If this is something that she likes to do, and you see it as a major fault, you should end the relationship. Just like if she were snorting coke all the time or something. If she wants to do it, you can not make her stop, but you can adjust your own life to not have to deal with it anymore.

I am a realist. I think that members of the opposite sex can be friends, but it needs to be regulated. It isn't even about self control, it is about respect to your significant other. It is just not respectful to do that, end of story. That said, she has a right to do what she wants before she is married to you, so if you think she is being disrespectful, do something about it.

Do not be a cuckold.

I trust my lady 100%. But way too many guys flirt with her, are quick to put in a criticism against the boyfriend (me), and aggressively try to 'get some' anyway. It's not my lady that bothers me, but the behavior towards her.

With guys increasingly behaving this way, along with the homos, transexuals, 'naked in your face lockerroom ettiquette' and annoying "Hello sir!!! Howya doing today" friendly/smiley/'brighten your day' BS I put up with in every store, restaurant, bank, etc.., I hate today's males. I had 2 'straight' males move from across the bar to sit next to me last weekend, despite me never saying a word. WTF??? Even the heterosexuals are half-homos.

Obvioiusly, you're the one with the problem here. If she and her male friends are offering to include you, they're being cool and understanding, she's being fine, and you're the one who needs to look within himself.

There is no "supposed to be" or "unnatural" with friendships or relationships...this is the 21st century.

These guys sound like decent guys, and an inability to hang out with a significant other's friends is on a sure path to being DUMPED.

Sorry if I'm being harsh, but I just think you need to lighten up.

insecure much?

"If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends."

You can take the phrase "get with" however you please.

Exactly the opposite actually. I'm just telling him the truth. Your girlfriend is with you because your the best guy she has been able to get. If you cease to be the best guy she can get she will move onto something better. If you whine, or try to force her to do something she doesn't want to do, you are not the best guy she can find. Notice I did say have a heart to heart with the girl. Nothing wrong with telling her like it is, just don't be whiny and don't get all emotional about your feelings - I have not yet met a girl that is not extremely turned of by this. Simply meet the guys, show your girl that among them you are the best guy for her and the problem will solve itself. If you can't do that she will eventually move on. Its not insecurity - its reality. If you are insecure, and can't assert yourself as the best guy for your girl your done. Maybe my phrasing was a little inelegant, but what are you gonna do.

With regards to taking relationship advice from girls - I stand by my opinion. Girls will always give you advice based on how they want relationships to be not how they are.

No, no, you misunderstood my post. I trust my wife. My post was asking why would any guy want to hang out with any female unless he was able to take it further than being friends? I don't have any female friends because they are, for the most part, annoying and moody. No guy has ever asked "So what are you thinking?". sorry you misunderstood my post.

cumulus nimbus chick wrote:

What a load of crap! So you're saying that if you're in a relationship, you can't have friends? Or you can only have friends of one gender? Surely a relationship that's like that is suffocating and doomed to fail anyway. If you don't trust each other that much (or her judgement) then I just wouldn't bother. It's completely paranoid to not want your partner to have friends and an outside life. Living only for each other is short sighted and not particularly healthy.

well, I kinda have to back off my statement of "no guy can be just friends with a girl." I mean, if the girl is fat I can see that I guess....but that is the only case.Like a couple of people have stated, men are pigs and the number of sexual partners is only limited by our opportunities for the most part.

RunDaddy wrote:

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it is quite clear that you havent the slightest idea about how men really are.

You can say that again. Straight men are always on the make for women, friend or not. Just the way they're programmed.

well, I would get a new girlfriend and never, never, never again show all of us how much of a loser you are by talking about it on letsrun. also, it dosent suprise me, she would probably rather hang out with other dudes than watch you write on letsrun.