Why are girls so quick to turn down date offers? Like if you don't have anything better to do why not just say yes?

I feel qualified to answer this as a girl who's never gone on a date: because some of us greatly prefer eating dinner alone and reading a book. For us, that IS fun. Personally, I'm insanely awkward and going to restaurants, making conversation, and eating with other people give me anxiety, so doing all of them at once (i.e. going on a date) would be kind of terrible.

She might not be "hyper picky," she might just not enjoy the concept of going on a date and would rather do her own thing. Hanging out at home alone could be her version of "fun," and just because it isn't the same as yours doesn't mean it's wrong.

The issue is that you're assuming every girl who rejects a guy is trying to "do better" and that you never considered that not every girl is interested in dating or that their goal in life, at least not currently, is not to have a relationship.

I'm sorry you got rejected, but if you like this girl enough to ask her on a date, I would've hoped that you at least considered her feelings and that her interests might not be the exact same as yours.

Easy: they can already imagine better things to do with that time. Being alone was better than being with you. It's not too late to turn around from the Incel path you're on and become a real man.

10 steps to learn to shut the fk up! wrote:

alvin wrote:

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

obvious troll obviously trolling, but there are people socially retarded enough to believe this.

Be careful - you'll hurt his feelings by pointing out the obvious and he'll cry to get your post deleted!

under a bridge wrote:

Be careful - you'll hurt his feelings by pointing out the obvious and he'll cry to get your post deleted!

I didn't report your post. They deleted both your post and my response to it. Probably trying to protect your feelings.

The real reason, that nobody is going to really tell you, is that most girls get 100 other guys asking for the same thing you are asking. Every girl who has tinder can have 100 men liking her within the hour if she is even moderately above a 5. She will choose and control when she wants to go out and doesn't have time to go out every single night.

10 steps to learn to shut the fk up! wrote:

introverts rarely imagine the rest of the world is or should be like them.....extroverts almost always do.

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My wife and I are both introverts and we've both come to the same conclusion.

I'm curious Alvin, tell us about yourself. How do you spend your time? What skills do you have that you're proud of? What skills are you working on? How do you dress? Where/how did you meet her? What made you think she might be interested? How would you rate your intelligence vs her intelligence? How would you rate your looks vs her looks?

Trollol at best. Keep an eye out for a news report of a wimpy distance runner arrested for stalking or worse.

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Maybe she said no because she realized she is NOT attracted to you and doesn't want to have to deal with your sleazy advances all night long.

Then you'd be complaining about "Why do women say YES to dates and then don't put out"?

Do you go hang out with every person you meet?

She does not like you. Maybe you creep her out in some way? There are plenty of times I would rather be home alone than spend time with someone who does not interest me.

You might want to look up narcissism.

Why are we not surprised? wrote:

alvin wrote:

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

Herein lies the problem, you are absolutely wrong about this.

I read the response as more global. Like no one wants to be alone for their entire lives. But yes, people at times want alone time. (BTW, I am sure there are the small percentage who do not crave social interaction, but they are pretty rare).

By visiting this forum, I would argue you do not want to be alone.

tycobb wrote:

you must enter a username wrote:

Because a small but not insignificant number of dates for women end up in being raped/stalked/murdered/humiliated.

Many guys take a "yes" for one date as an invite for sex and/or marriage. Too much hassle of saying no to a second date that a guy won't accept.

Sex, sure. Marriage, uh probably not!

10 steps to learn to shut the fk up! wrote:

alvin wrote:

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

obvious troll obviously trolling, but there are people socially retarded enough to believe this.

introverts rarely imagine the rest of the world is or should be like them.....extroverts almost always do.

Even introverts want social interaction. They just typically limit those to people they allow in their inner circle. I was married to one and dated several (I am slightly extroverted). They just did not like the small talk or being around a lot of people. They recharge alone and then share their company sparingly.

So if an introvert wants to hang out with you, they trust you and really value you.

Extroverts will hang out with anyone. Facebook was invented for extroverts.

sbeefyk2 wrote:

alvin wrote:

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

This isn’t true at all. Ask anyone in a relationship or any married couple, they love having alone time.

Also, some people understand the difference between want and need. Nobody NEEDS to be in a relationship. People WANT to be in relationships. Thus, you hold out to find someone who WANT to be with.

Lastly, most people understand their worth. Going on a date takes hours of your day. If you have no interest in the person there’s no need to waste hours of your day. Especially when you sound like the kind of guy who will make the women pay if she says you’re not getting a second date.

There is a difference in being alone and having alone time. Those married people have chosen to have that person in their lives. They may well need a break, but ask them if they want to spend the rest of their lives with no human contact?

I disagree. Humans do NEED relationships. We are social animals. (Yes, a very few people have issues dealing with others, but these are the rare cases and also not seen as healthy either).

A respectful woman will not just go out with just anyone. I like that there are still some women who are showing some restrain. too many young ladies are throwing themselves at boys today. Looks so desperate. And honestly, can the guy really respect her?

Women’s pickiness is what drives the human race forward. They are hard-wired to be that way, and for good reason. Work on yourself, that’s the only answer

Did this really happen to you, or are you summarizing a plot point from Napoleon Dynamite?

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