Offer some guitar lessons - that is your "in", one-on-one.
She probably had two takers on the tickets before you replied to her and she felt bad about it - don't take that personally. Nothing I've read so far has indicated she's not into you; in fact, she gave you her # and was interested in having you teach her some guitar. Now, that might just be friendly talk, but there's no way to find out, unless you talk to her directly about it. Don't beat around the bush (literally and figuratively).
The guitar thing is definitely your "in" (literally and figuratively).
Get up behind her, place her hands on the strings real gentlelike. Teach her how to place sweet music. Make sweet music for her. Look her in the eyes and play something sexy. Make sure she knows it's for her. Make sure your pants are off already. That way she knows you mean buisness.
But keep your socks on, your distance runner feet might turn her off. Also, make sure they're buisness socks. That way she definitely knows you mean buisness. Play something sexy like wonderwall or crazy train.
Teach her the A string, the B string and the C string, all the way to the E string. This will get you to the most important string of all, the F string. Make her hand, guided by yours, play beautiful music. Brush her cheek with your lips. Caress her hips with your hands from behind.
Give her a look of passion, play her a love song (in spanish, italian, french or any foreign language really, if possible. If you don't know any foreign songs make shit up) then be cold and give her terse answers and look away for 60-90 seconds. Repeat in intervals till she tosses the guitar aside and jumps your bones.
Or use the D.E.N.N.I.S. method. Your call.
the reality of it wrote:
The guitar thing is definitely your "in" (literally and figuratively).
Get up behind her, place her hands on the strings real gentlelike. Teach her how to place sweet music. Make sweet music for her. Look her in the eyes and play something sexy. Make sure she knows it's for her. Make sure your pants are off already. That way she knows you mean buisness.
But keep your socks on, your distance runner feet might turn her off. Also, make sure they're buisness socks. That way she definitely knows you mean buisness. Play something sexy like wonderwall or crazy train.
Teach her the A string, the B string and the C string, all the way to the E string. This will get you to the most important string of all, the F string. Make her hand, guided by yours, play beautiful music. Brush her cheek with your lips. Caress her hips with your hands from behind.
Give her a look of passion, play her a love song (in spanish, italian, french or any foreign language really, if possible. If you don't know any foreign songs make shit up) then be cold and give her terse answers and look away for 60-90 seconds. Repeat in intervals till she tosses the guitar aside and jumps your bones.
Or use the D.E.N.N.I.S. method. Your call.
Awesome post, sir. Awesome post. "Teach her the F string", love it. That whole section was gold.
Rakunishu wrote:
Easy for a woman to say -- you bitches never have the courage to ask anyone out, even though your are easily 20x less likely to be rejected!
Man this is so often true; but not always.
As soon as I turned 30 I had 20 year old women (and one almost 20), asking me out.
It was great. As soon as I hit 50, 25 year old women started asking me out.
I am 55 and still get checked out by 20 year olds. You gotta have Confidence, and Style. Women can sense confidence. It also helps that I look like a fun, friendly, happy guy.
And don't take it all so seriously.
RRRR wrote:
jp is engaged wrote:You gotta learn to play the game my friend, play the game. You chase, she withdraws, she chases, you withdraw...the tension builds. This my friend is the dance of love(at least a pretty hot hook up).
I'll weigh in. This post is dead on. You played your hand a bit weak w/ that text. If you have her number, call her up and ask her out. If you know where to run into her in person, run into her, be bold, and ask her out in person.
Now that she knows you're interested, you gotta back off. Be unavailable and act like you don't notice her. Hit on the other pretty girl she works w/, etc. Let her be caught off guard by you not paying attention to her. If she's hot, it'll frustrate her that she's not the center of attention and make her more interested. You don't have to be an asshole, just make sure that you are out of her reach.
I once asked an old (very hot IMO) girlfriend what she remembered most about the night we met. She said, without hesitation..."I remember that you wouldn't even look at me."
Me? I remember dancing with every other girl at the club, and having her grab me by the arm as she got off the floor to give me her number. That, my friend, is how you play the game. If you do it right, and are confident, it really doesn't matter who you are, you can get just about any girl.
Once you have them...ha...that's a whole 'nother ball game.
I have no idea why, but the way you wrote this... reminds me of Chuck Yeager. "The first time I saw a jet, I shot it down." to "The first time I saw that 10 giving me the eye from the bar, I shot her down"
I forgot to mention that her last day at working at the shop is coming up in the not too distant future. Which means that time is running out. I can't make any gaurantees but I think tomorrow I'm just gonna go right in and ask her on a date. I'm getting pretty frustrated with myself for not having done annything by now. That frustration can be good because typically when I'm frustrated I don't care. When I don't care is when I'm more likely to ask.
I feel for you man. What's the worst that can happen if she says no? It's not the end of the world, and at least you are learning how to approach and communicate with girls. You sound like solid b/f material with a big heart, you are better off without your ex, and you will find somebody special that will rock your socks off down the road if the coffee girl situation doesn't work out the way you wanted it to. Just go for it dude, you know will by the tone of her voice whether or not she is interested, after that the stress is over. Trust me, if you get rejected its going to suck at first, but I guarantee when you walk out of that place, when its all over with, you'll feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders and be able to hold your head up high knowing you went down like a man: swinging. Just be in the moment, and lock eyes with her when you pop the question so she has to give you a straight answer. Who knows, you guys could hit it off. You got nothin' to lose bro.
master tactician wrote:
You sound like solid b/f material with a big heart .
He sounds like a whiney immature naive spineless douchebag with no understanding of anything.
But I agree with the rest of your post.
Gotta learn sooner or later, and the sooner the better for this guy.
the reality of it wrote:
The guitar thing is definitely your "in" (literally and figuratively).
Get up behind her, place her hands on the strings real gentlelike. Teach her how to place sweet music. Make sweet music for her. Look her in the eyes and play something sexy. Make sure she knows it's for her. Make sure your pants are off already. That way she knows you mean buisness.
But keep your socks on, your distance runner feet might turn her off. Also, make sure they're buisness socks. That way she definitely knows you mean buisness. Play something sexy like wonderwall or crazy train.
Teach her the A string, the B string and the C string, all the way to the E string. This will get you to the most important string of all, the F string. Make her hand, guided by yours, play beautiful music. Brush her cheek with your lips. Caress her hips with your hands from behind.
Give her a look of passion, play her a love song (in spanish, italian, french or any foreign language really, if possible. If you don't know any foreign songs make shit up) then be cold and give her terse answers and look away for 60-90 seconds. Repeat in intervals till she tosses the guitar aside and jumps your bones.
Or use the D.E.N.N.I.S. method. Your call.
And maybe she can return the favor and show you her G string
Success? I hope you got a "Venti"
Personally I'd give her the "grande"
A lot of great posts on this thread and a lot of helpful advice but this was probably the best so far-. Thank you master tactician this was very helpful. I just may print this out and take with me and read this right before I ask her out.
Yeah, texting is a big no-no when asking someone out. Maybe it's acceptable in much younger generations, but all the single girls I know (or knew) said the ask out text is a HUGE turn-off...for what it's worth, this would be the late 20's to mid 30s crowd.
the reality of it wrote:
The guitar thing is definitely your "in" (literally and figuratively).
Get up behind her, place her hands on the strings real gentlelike. Teach her how to place sweet music. Make sweet music for her. Look her in the eyes and play something sexy. Make sure she knows it's for her. Make sure your pants are off already. That way she knows you mean buisness.
But keep your socks on, your distance runner feet might turn her off. Also, make sure they're buisness socks. That way she definitely knows you mean buisness. Play something sexy like wonderwall or crazy train.
Teach her the A string, the B string and the C string, all the way to the E string. This will get you to the most important string of all, the F string. Make her hand, guided by yours, play beautiful music. Brush her cheek with your lips. Caress her hips with your hands from behind.
Give her a look of passion, play her a love song (in spanish, italian, french or any foreign language really, if possible. If you don't know any foreign songs make shit up) then be cold and give her terse answers and look away for 60-90 seconds. Repeat in intervals till she tosses the guitar aside and jumps your bones.
Or use the D.E.N.N.I.S. method. Your call.
this was fvcking fantastic!
especially "Give her a look of passion, play her a love song ... then be cold and give her terse answers and look away for 60-90 seconds. Repeat in intervals till she tosses the guitar aside and jumps your bones."
you need to come up with some new material, this is starting to get stale...perhaps make up that you did go out on a date, she took into a bathroom stale and got on her knees...
Good luck with everything.
I would even do this:
Go into the coffee shop, get into the line and if she asks you what coffee you want, just say`something like: I am not here for coffee, I came to ask you out.
Lol yeah or something like "yeah uhh I'll take an americano with a side of your boobs in my face mmm gobble gobble gobble gobble"
Just-Some-Guy wrote:
you need to come up with some new material, this is starting to get stale...perhaps make up that you did go out on a date, she took into a bathroom stale and got on her knees...
The fact that I have not come up with new material should be clear that I am not a troll. I can't believe people have called me a troll. The fact is I am just a guy who lacked confidence, had a wonderful relationship that went wrong so quickly and I'm looking to get myself back.
You might not be a troll, but you most certainly are one big gaping vagina!! Nut up and ask her out!
It's been over 2 weeks since you started this thread, you could have gone on a date and broken up already.