RE: I have a crush on a girl that works at a coffee shop.

Easy for a woman to say -- you bitches never have the courage to ask anyone out, even though your are easily 20x less likely to be rejected!

Just-Some-Guy wrote:

Unfortunately, for the worse, she became my girlfriend at that time in my life.

You can't just let it go at that. What, she was a bitch or something? Fill us in.

flaneur wrote:

Just-Some-Guy wrote:

Unfortunately, for the worse, she became my girlfriend at that time in my life.

You can't just let it go at that. What, she was a bitch or something? Fill us in.

I think it means that because of the time of his life, he was a dick, and treated her accordingly, thus leading to the inevitable ugly breakup.

Rakunishu wrote:

Easy for a woman to say -- you bitches never have the courage to ask anyone out, even though your are easily 20x less likely to be rejected!

QFE

Mrs. M wrote:

Do not call her again. She will not pick up - she either 1) knows it's you and does not want to talk to you or 2, more likely) doesn't recognize your #. Don't give her your # - she won't call, women rarely do unless they're aggressively pursuing you - I think we all know this is not the case here.

For the last g0dd@mn time - ASK HER OUT IN PERSON! She cannot screen your call this way. This is most DIRECT approach possible. I know it's a scary prospect, but what have you got to lose? No guts, no glory! DO IT TODAY!!!!!

If only I had known what pusses boys were back when I was in my 20s!

Although I agree he should ask her out in person, this idea that he shouldn't give her his number is completely wrong. Read what you wrote at first - she doesn't recognize his number. She gave him her number - she obviously has no problem with him calling. The problem is, as you stated, she doesn't recognize his so she doesn't answer it. Simple, give her yours (accepting that she won't call - hell, if she does it is a BONUS) and have her put it in her phone so then she CAN recognize your number.

With all that said, your conclusion of him asking ehr out in person is the correct one.

We texted a good bit last night after the missed phone call. I think its set in that area.

You are a moron. Now, I see why there are so many guys on here that can't get laid. I decide to share a story from my youth, that I think has some value/advice, and instead of taking the useful part of the lesson, you jerk offs are all concerned about why it ended. Since some of you are really interested, I will tell you, the abridged version. Simply put, she was crazy, I mean REALLY crazy! It was typical hot-girl syndrome/craziness, but throw latina fire on top of that, a lethal combo - those guys out there that have experienced this, know what I'm talking about. It was a lot of fun while it lasted, but also a lot of scary moments. Oh, and I broke up with her. That story however, I do not want get into and will not get into so don't ask.

Dude, do not call her a third time! Listen, you are bordering on stalker here. At this point you need to ask her out and my suggestion is you do it in person. Why don't you ask her to go out with some friends of yours?, like "hey, some friends of mine are meeting at....would you like to join?" She'll know you wan to be more than "friends". Or if your invited to some party ask her to come, or some event, etc.? Come up with something real. Whoever said this is a big fail for you if you got nothing is right! You could've spent this time going after some girl that wants to go out with you. you have your mission now do it. My opinion one of two things will happen, she will say yes or outright now, i.e. crash and burn hard. I don't think you'll get a "may be next time" or anything like that.

Just do it!

Those kind are great in the sack, though.

Um, yeah, why do you think I stayed around as long as I did? It was the only reason why that relationship lasted as long as it did.

match.com guy needs to have one of his friends ask one of her friends if she likes him. If the friend say yes they then have to ask if she like him or if she "likes him, likes him"

Mr. Obvious wrote:

match.com guy needs to have one of his friends ask one of her friends if she likes him. If the friend say yes they then have to ask if she like him or if she "likes him, likes him"

I have called her twice with the intention of asking her on a date. I think its pretty clear I dont need a friend to do the work for me.

You dialed her twice and then hung up. Wuss.

Don't worry, I know you aren't real, I'm just taking the piss.

I texted her about something about an hour ago, she hasn't responded. I think its safe to say she's not interested. I'll look on all this and try to figure out where I made the mistake. sigh, oh well. It was fun while it lasted, right?

You can't hedge your response. Either you think the thread is fake and don't respond or you respond to a fake post like a big idiot.

god damnit dude stop pu$sy footing around (pun intended). Just f***in ask her in person already. at least you'll know and have to stop freakin yourself out. I've read 17 pages of you debating with yourself. it's time to get it done man

Anyone on here, read Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo, especially Chapter 7. Unbelievably good stuff. You'll never have problems getting laid again if you take that material to heart.

Sorry buddy, but it doesn't really matter what you said or did. If she was attracted to you, you would know it and she would have contacted you. If you were a great looking guy you could be wishy-washy and she would still be interested. I am not criticizing you, but I speak from experience. She obviously knows you are interested so I would just let it go. Don't stop going in there but find someone, at least one, else to date and get your mind off of her. I spent too much time when I was young chasing girls I had no chance with and I regret it know.

In the future

1. Talk to a lot of girls just to become comfortable, without the goal of dating them.... develop your social skills and confidence with women.

2. Remember if a woman is interested in you, she will give you some sign..she will initiate...then follow up on it.

Good luck

stuck with match.com wrote:I'll look on all this and try to figure out where I made the mistake. sigh, oh well. It was fun while it lasted, right?

Abbreviated & Abridged List of Mistakes

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1) You waited too long to ask her out

Ever seen a hot new girl at college / work. Notice how after a few weeks she doesn't look so hot. That’s what happened to you

2) You tried to wear her down over time and win here over with your insecure but witty charm. That works in films, not in real life

3)When you did ask her out you were in your own words wishy washy

4) When you eventually got here No you rang too soon. Then you left a message - that a big no, no

5) Know when to give her up. She blew you off, get with it. Again only in films or for that jerk in Friends does this charming persistence pay off

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