How devastating is it to find out your high school teenage daughter is having sex?

Please how many of you wouldn't have f*cked in high school IF you had the ability to do so... yeah....

Candela is a Bible thumper trying to impose the requirements of his religion on everyone else while pretending that he's doing anything other than that.

Yes! This.

candela wrote:

madrunner wrote:

it's "wrong"? seems pretty normal.

please explain.

In Liberia, murder and rape are normal too.

I think you could say the same of the U.S.A. too. Why wouldn't you?

Back to he original post, which I remember reading a while back...6 mos ago it would have bothered me a lot more, but my teenager has matured so much in that time, that my attitude has changed. My teen will make mistakes and many will be the same I made. I do regret having sex too young, as it led to some harsh consequences. I hope I have taught my teen well, but I realize my role as authoritian is nearly done and peers have much more influence in their life. I've done my best to brace them for this.

I think it would be a good idea to not allow children to walk or talk until their 6. Anybody else think this is a good idea? why or why not?

Football Dad wrote:

So many progressive folks on LRC think it is a good idea. Watch an episode of 16 and Pregnant or whatever that trashy MTV show is called and then defend your point that they are old enough to have sex.

Dumb Fvcks.

It's not that we think it's a good idea, more like we're realistic. I don't think anybody wants teenagers having sex, but it's going to happen and someone like me would rather educate them as much as we can and provide them proper resources to protect against pregnancy and disease, not make them terrified of the consequences of having sex. It's going to happen no matter how much you try to scare them and I'd personally rather have them be prepared. Encourage them not to do it (not by threatening them with extreme consequences) and make sure they're equipped with the knowledge and resources should it happen. BTW, we all know pregnancy rates are 0% where they haven't taught sex education or equipped teenagers with resources, right? If that sort of thing worked, I'd be all for it.

wow, this thread lasted longer than our relationship!

You sound like a terrible father. Also, it is my firm belief that anyone who hates sex as much as these religious nuts do must be very, very bad at it. Send your wife my way, Football Dad, I'll make that kitty purr like you never could.

this isn't a good place to ask advice, if there are irreligious, middle-aged perverts with unshaven beards who drink beer and watch pornography.

of course these type of men will say, "go on, what's wrong with that? have as much sex as you want. who cares? do it while you're young. you need sexual experience whenever you can get it."

i think it's best to be understanding and to learn more about the boyfriend. is he some 17-year-old who works at pizza hut, smokes cigarettes, plays on the xbox, has no goal in life, and just wants to get laid? "dude, i just bagged this hot sophomore."

the women focus too much on looks, on hollywood romances, and magazine covers. you get involved too fast for the wrong reasons.

this is also about instant gratification for this generation.

you dumb, irreligious people are idiots who just want to bash.

this hippie "free love" talk is what leads to the 50% divorce rate in america and spread of veneral diseases.

a pimply-faced teenage guy with a tattoo is going to screw your daughters and say, "yo dawg, that skank last night gave me the goods."

brownsmith76 wrote:

a pimply-faced teenage guy with a tattoo is going to screw your daughters and say, "yo dawg, that skank last night gave me the goods."

And what exactly is wrong with that?

Premarital sex = not impractical under the right circumstances. Every single living thing on Earth's purpose is to duplicate its genes and make sure those genes are passed on to subsequent generations. Everything about an organism, from its behavior to physical characteristics, are adaptations that are a product of evolution. If STDs could be avoided, and the proper care were to be given to the child, it would be, in fact, very practical for those with the capacity to attract and have sex with the opposite gender to start banging as soon as possible and spread their genes more than those individuals that couldn't for one reason or another. In most cases, that can't be though. Teenagers don't have the resources to properly care for a child by themselves, and the child won't do as well in the future in terms of survivability and reproduction as a result. There's really nothing more to it than that

It's just sex people. It's literally the only thing we as life forms are actually supposed to do, as far as biology and nature is concerned.

No need to get your balls in a twist over it.

I think it is cute how people think premarital sex is something new and not something that has been going on since the start of time. For example among woman born int he 1940s, 9 out of 10 had sex before marriage. Just about the same rate as today.

The Master Troll wrote:

It's just sex people. It's literally the only thing we as life forms are actually supposed to do, as far as biology and nature is concerned.

No need to get your balls in a twist over it.