RE: I have a crush on a girl that works at a coffee shop.

This guy has limited social skills with girls (clearly). Why suggest a movie where they sit in silence or a party where she (or he) can escape and talk to other people? He needs one-on-one for a short period time. If you don't like ice cream, get a beer!

Oldguy, of course this is an epic troll.

Ice Cream works well for a date. For a first date w/ a woman you don't really know what you really want is a place that is casual and will let you talk to each other. That and it is time limited, which is key since you have limited social skills. You want to spend less than an hour on the first date. Ice cream or a beer are good for that.

we are laughing at you because you are a huge saggy pussy. you sit around pining over this girl. write message board threads about her. hardly know her name. facebook stalk her. make elaborate plans, double check those plans, run them past the lrc advice machine, and recheck them...all over something as simple as asking her on a simple date? at first we were kind of rooting for you even though we were poking fun at you too. now i just hope you fail. i hope she has a 250 pound black boyfriend who sees you talking to her and kicks your ass in the parking lot. why 250 pounds and black? because that is the opposite of you. this has gone on long enough. the poor girl would be better off without your wimpy indecisive ass.

Ice cream works well for a date if you're in junior high school! Asking her out for ice cream will place him in her "friend" category. There is nothing even remotely alluring about a guy who asks you out to eat a kid's desert.

Mr. Obvious wrote:

Oldguy, of course this is an epic troll.

Ice Cream works well for a date. For a first date w/ a woman you don't really know what you really want is a place that is casual and will let you talk to each other. That and it is time limited, which is key since you have limited social skills. You want to spend less than an hour on the first date. Ice cream or a beer are good for that.

try and figure out something you have talked about that you both like where it would be normal for you to do it alone, but now you can also ask her to come along.

Like, if you've talked about how you both like dogs, and you have a dog, say "since it's supposed to be nice this weekend I was to take Fido to (somewhere about 20-30 minutes away) to go hiking and was wondering if you'd want to come". If you're really not ready to just walk in and say "hey want to go out to eat/bowling/to the minor league baseball game on friday" this seems like something you'd be doing anyway and just want her to come along. (obv if you don't have a dog think of something else, or that plan could get awkward real quick)

great idea oat bag lady.

have the creepy introverted stalker kid ask the pretty lass to go drive 30 minutes out of town to a remote and secluded place where no one will hear her scream.

great idea.

Since ice cream is so high school like thats why I suggested coffee but apparently thats no good either. It seems like no matter what I suggest I get shut down. No thats a bad idea, is all I seem to hear. You wonder why I am so wishy washy, I keep hearing all these different ideas and everytime I mention one its wrong. So I may ask her to ice cream, I may ask her to dinner. I don't know and now I'm starting not to care because I'm simply getting annoyed. I"m leaning towards dinner though.

I'm guessing you're not old enough to ask her out for a beer?

Go with dinner. Everyone likes dinner.

Even if the date is rubbish and she doesn't like you, at least you had a good meal. Silver lining and all that. Nobody ever feels good after eating ice-cream and coffee is just coffee.

The memory of a good dinner can last a lifetime. (well at least a week)

trollism wrote:

Go with dinner. Everyone likes dinner.

Even if the date is rubbish and she doesn't like you, at least you had a good meal. Silver lining and all that. Nobody ever feels good after eating ice-cream and coffee is just coffee.

The memory of a good dinner can last a lifetime. (well at least a week)

Is there a new restaurant that neither of you've been to before, but would like to try out? If not, I vote for bowling. You can have fun and laugh at yourselves.

IllinoisMaster wrote: I vote for bowling. You can have fun and laugh at yourselves.

The stuck with match.com guy is completely devoid of humor. He is NOT capapble of laughing at himself.

To the OP: Give it up now.

Well played. Best troll in quite a while or is there a better troll? I don't know what to do, what do you guys think, do I call him the best troll and by him coffee? Or would he appreciate ice cream? Please end this thread.

Best. Troll. Ever.

Coffee is just coffee?

You sir are an idiot.

I'm older and don't have to worry about what is "high-school" any more. Ice cream has worked well for a couple of first dates for me. Maybe it isn't so good when you are in college. Coffee or dinner work. Bowling is not a good couples activity for a first date, not quite enough down time to actually talk.

Drunken keg party was my choice of dates in college most of the time.

Also, next time you go in, ask her if you can put it in her butt.

Hello Letsrun,

I want to thank everybody that has given me wonderful advice. I would to thank in particular 'girl probs in college', 'lady long legs' and 'mrs m.' for your genuine advice. I also give a shout out to 'sup bro' dude your posts were hilarious.

There has been a lot of criticism of me on these boards of late and I understand where everybody is coming from. I had originally planned to be a typical poster on here and respond back with negativity. But I will not, I will say that your criticism of me is warranted. While nobody likes to be called out on something your criticism has shown me my flaws. I acknowlegdge the fact that I have been a man and at times acted like a girl on here. I have though stuck to my word, when I said I would get something done, I did, I got her number. When I said I wouldn't post here until I called or didn't call her, I did, and plus I called her. Granted most 'men' wouldn't call these actions worthy of mention but from where I was 2 months ago to where I am now I think its okay to call those thigns accomplishments.

I have frequently been called wishy washy on here. That I completely understand, I have flipped flopped numerous times. The reason I have flipped flopped is merely because a lot of the advice I have recieved has been somewhat contradictory. I have never been in this situation before so I do not know what works. I will read something on here and think that sounds good. Then someone else will post something and I think to myself hey that sounds great too. Yet those two things will be different, and that left me confused. Which has lead to my wishy washy behavior.

I know this thread has made some people mad on here. I'm sorry if I upset you. I'm sorry if my lack of manliness you. I'm sorry if my wishy washy actions have caused you to get annnoyed. Like I said I am new to all of this. I know its sad considering I am over 21. But I made a lot of bad mistakes when my ex girlfriend broke up with me. I told her how much I loved her and missed her and wanted her back and how I couldn't live without her. I realized that was the wrong way to go about it. Since then I have left her alone and things have been better between us. I now know not to make that same mistake again. This thred is the same thing. I realize I have to be a man, step up make a decision be confident about it and go with it.

Thank you letsrun for all of your help.

-stuck with match.com

tuuuuurd

SWM.C

The reason you are not getting one piece of advice is because people have different opinions on the subject. Everyone is different, hence everyone has different ideas.

Read the advice, ponder it, decide what YOU think is the best course of action and go forward with it.

There will never be a consensus on the matter.

Keep at it.

well hot damn. i think we got through to the boy.

not a proooooo, the problem with stm.c is that he would not go forward with anything. dinner, coffee, ice cream, lunch, dog walks, whatever. he wouldnt actually just do something. he hemmed and hawed and has just been frozen. maybe he has finally realized that he just needs to make up his damn mind and move. it really does not matter what he asks her or how...as long as facebook is not the first contact.