Anyone dated a girl with a borderline personality disorder?

"Anakin Skywalker, who lived a long time ago in a Galaxy far far away, was held up by some reviewers as an example of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. "

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https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0121765/trivia?ref_=tt_trv_trv

I'm seriously beginning to think most men have BPD. To all the guys who have dated women with BPD, why didn't you get the hell away when you had the chance? I learned my lesson early on in life. As soon as a guy presented any semblance of a red flag, I was out of there in an instant. Too fast to even say good bye.

Get out. What the hell is wrong with you?

I have read the initial post and some of the replies and I am perplexed as to why BPD and bi-polar are being grouped together??! They are NOTHING alike. Bi polar is a MOOD disorder and can be medicated. There is no medication for bpd. I have had bpd all my life ( my mum was one and her mum before her) I was finally diagnosed 9 years ago when I was in the grip of anorexia and self harming. I think therefore I am in a position to comment. If you have had a girlfriend with bpd this does NOT make you an expert on the subject and qualified the give advice which largely seems to be generalised’ girls with bpd can be a bear’ I ask you! I have bpd and it makes me sensitive ( like I am raw all the time so comments can hurt) I can focus on one thing( like my boyfriend falling asleep without kissing me goodnight) and deciding from that he doesn’t want or love me anymore). I make me confused a lot and he says he ‘ walks on eggshells ‘ course s he is worried about upsetting me. I frequently pack my bags to leave him. He talks me down with common sense. I know it’s exhausting for him. He tells me it’s ok but he knows minimal about bpd so we keep having problems. We’ve been together a year now and I think honestly I should leave him and give up on relationships and get a couple of kittens instead. However I was in a relationship for 18 years( he was an alcoholic) so I do have staying power. I just feel broken now tho. I have NEVER tho hit anyone, been violent and the police don’t know me. My children would say I was troubled probably but a great mum I know. Don’t label us from one or two experiences. We have a hard life. We have BPD because our feelings weren’t validated as children. My mum would upset me on purpose and then laugh at me. Who grows up normal after that?

the rules wrote:

No crazies, lazies, fatties, mommies, sickies, feminists. Least of all, crazies. Don't sign up for a relationship with one.

Let's face, any woman has a potential for a personality disorder. A long time pleasant one can go off the rails when she hits menopause.

Early on I met one with bipolar disorder (back then they didn't have that label) and didn't know it. I knew I was out of my league as she was pretty and a successful artist and then the switch flipped...

Ended up having to call the cops as she took over my home and was on my phone 24-7. Took weeks for her to stop calling me.

RUN, don't walk away from a train wreck!

padmemighthave wrote:

"Anakin Skywalker, who lived a long time ago in a Galaxy far far away, was held up by some reviewers as an example of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. "

from

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0121765/trivia?ref_=tt_trv_trv

You Star Wars people are a prime example of BPD in action. Get an F'n life.

I registered on this forum board exactly to write about my 7 years long relationship with a polish girl from Gdynia with impulsive borderline.

Some of the things she did during these 7 years:

1.She hitted me over my face impulsively with 4 knives, during a verbal disagreement. She was few mm close from cutting out my eyes. Later she said she forgot what was in the bag and behaved like it didn't matter and that her reaction was justified.

2.After this, she hitted herself in the head with the knives until she was bleeding and showed it to me as being my fault.

3.I kid you not, she literally begged me 4 times to defecate in her mouth and she happily ate all the fecals. She was happy out of her mind, I found it very strange. But she was beautiful so I didn't say no. She was extremely horny almost all the time in the first year. She also asked me to drink all the pee I produced for about 4 months, then she lost interest in that too.

4.Sex was indeed very good but only in the first year. Then she lost interest, and it became much much rarer and short.

She gave me 3 times three different sexually transmitted diseases.

Later I found out that she practiced prostitution as a "fulfillment of a fantasy she had"

5.She was cutting herself, has cutted her wrists while in highschool, and she knew exactly how to cut herself to cut only superficially. To her exboyfriend she broke his head with his mobile phone, because he tried to stop her from cutting herself by hiding her razors.

6.She tried almost all the drugs she could get for free. She chose her "model" nickname Codeine, one of her favourite substances she was overdosing herself with to give her strong emotions.

7.She told me in some mornings "Everytime you sleep I watch you and I want to kill you. But that's normal, everyone feels the same, but don't worry we only think about it, we don't actually do it"

8.She told me literally: "My mother got scared of me when I told her that all children with small heads must be killed"

9.She hitted me impulsively with whatever she had in her hand more than 5 separate times, although she promised she will not do it again.

10.She practiced prostitution for 2 months, and she chose for herself a fake name "Analel", which she said it was the name of a demon. When I pointed out that it was basically an invitation to anal sex (her favourite), she denied it repeteadly.

Then I lost most of my friends, when I continued to talk to her even after she practiced prostitution and got infected with sexually transmitted diseases of course.

11.In bed she preferred extremely dirty sex in the first year, she would ask me for deep anal, and then eat all the fecals

from the organ.

12.She bullied 1 or 2 of her highschool colleagues into suicide. Then later, after few years, she was still visiting their cemetery graves and asked me to come and show to me. She was also telling me about she horrible smells from the cemetery.

13.She isolated me from all my friends, often she would say horrible things like "You beat up kids! They are not your friends, they hate you or they don't care about you, you are too old," and many of such insults.

14.In the last year it was 5% good moments, and 95% of extreme insults, violence against me, provocations, breaking up with me and then messaging me desperately after 2 days to help her with her imagined new recurring illnesses (she imagines she has recurrent candidosis, which is not the case, and she takes no treatment, but she tells to doctors about it and then blames the doctors as incompetent)

15.Often she could not fall asleep until 4-5am in the morning, and she had to watch horror movies in order to fall asleep.

16.She had an obsession of noticing immediately any satan or demons reproductions in her surroundings, and then call them as "religious

17.She was pushing with stick eyes of dead animals, watching them from closely, even when they were full of worms.

18.She bullied her younger brother until he became agoraphobic and asexual.

Is this a rhetorical question? They're all psychotic to one degree or another...even your mother and sisters. Still, we love them.

So strange. I literally just searched for this thread because I remembered how great it was and how I'm still struggling to make sense of a borderline woman I got mixed up with 3 years ago. One of the Legendary Threads of Letsrun. Thank you to all who have contributed thus far.

Yes, in retrospect, it is hard work, mostly never really knowing which version you are going to get on an hourly basis

I mean no disrespect, but you should seek therapy. Do you often play the victim in your romantic relationships? The fact you spent any time whatsoever with this person should cause you deep concern.

Yes, after such a relationship day by day the effects was the alienation and losing my family and my friends, as she manipulated and insulted my friends and me publicly and also in front of my friends constantly. With made-up dramas out of nothing.

People escaping out of a relationship with a BPD

often have Post Traumatic Stress. I definitely have too, even a long time after.

19. Any smallest disagreement with her usually sent her into rages of fury in which she will discuss for many hours

how everything is very wrong.

20. She can never save any money, she always spent all the money she had, the moment she touched the new money

no matter if it was her money or not.

21.She made alienating false accusations, without any connection with reality, with which she convinced her family and

friends that I am some sort of monster. She was twisting the truth in very absurd ways.

For example at night she came and walked on my head with her feet, without any care,

while I was sleeping. I woke up and I tried to defend myself. She threw herself on the floor and

said I pushed her and that I am "women-beater"

22.She made up past rape and past "I was abused".

23.She had times when she acted like possesed by demons, with an extreme force she tried to insert things in my body,

in order to "show me how it is to be raped" although I was fighting hard to not let her do this

24.Another time she jumped naked in bed next to me, pushing her ass in my face, violently trying to put objects inside my ass

while I was shocked and trying to defend myself and saying all the time "NO! NO!", then she farted close to my face

and laughed

Aren't they all borderline personality disorders??

gilbertsasnfrun wrote:

I think the girl I'm been dating for a year does...

Why are you telling these lies about me? What did I do to deserve to be treated so shabbily?

Just a life observations for you to chew on, fellas: It takes 2 crazies to make an unhealthy relationship work for any length of time.

You described my BPD exgirlfriend so exactly to the very point.

Other very weird things she did and told:

A. 2 or 3 times, just before after telling me to finish (ejaculate) in her, she tells me coldly that "she wants to have 2 kids with

a gypsy", another time in the same situation/moment while having sex she says "I am in love with a guy from work I want to have kids with him" and the 3rd time, same timing, says "I want to have a black boyfriend with big muscles"

B. She loved small cats, small pigs, she was making childish songs about them, which were endearing and cute.

C. Few times we literally stayed in supermarket for more than 45 minutes, because she could not decide what chocolate she wants. Basically I had to choose a type of chocolate myself, in order for her to finally go and choose a different one.

She would ask me what clothes I like when she was trying out clothes, and then pick up exactly those that I did not like.

She was asking my preferences only so that she can choose impulsively the opposite.

D.She convinced her family and her friends that the trip to Spain for which she bought the tickets herself

was actually me KIDNAPPING her and keeping her prisoner in a basement!!! She repeated this story

to multiple persons , without no connection with reality, she simply noticed that it made me shocked and

I could not understand why she did that.

E.In front of a friend, when I went to show him the city, she begged and started to cry:

"Please don't go, everytime you leave me alone,

other men come and rape me, you should protect me, my exbf was going everywhere with me".

It was so nuts, but it worked into getting the attention of my friend.

F. She told me that she loves me, and then just few hours later she was screaming at me insults

just to tear down my self esteem in the most extreme ways: "You are idiot, analphabet, old, digusting,

you stink, you smell like my grandfather!" . By the way I am 27years old and she was 25 years old.

G. Her favourite movies were all about demons and satan possesions, and the titles of her favourite movies were predictable: "Possession", "the antiChrist", and so on.

H. Since early highschool she shocked her teachers telling them she was watching everyday the website rotten dot com just decapitations and violent, disgusting deaths of people

I. In front of my friends, she started crying and saying how "if you go from here, men will come and rape me again, they always do" which left me and them speechless

J. In highschool she bullied 1 or 2 of her colleagues until they committed suicide. Then often she visited their graves in the cemetery, and it seemed like this was seen by her as an achievement.

K. She had basically just 3 close friends, one of them was a troll who would just say crazy things in order to annoy people,

and the other 2 were radical feminists full of tattoos and piercings, whose only interests were smoking, drugs, tattoos and you guesses right, demonical possesions and satan...

L. She told few times that she wishes her parents die, because they did not help her brother go to university

M.She often put into situations where each of the options I would choose, was always the wrong one.

N.Her interest in a new passion usually lasted only few months, then she abandoned it.

O.Said often things like "all men are dirty rapists, 50% of men should be exterminated" etc, stuff that she really believed.

P. Was extremely stressed and anxious about many of the things she saw during a day, she would complain very much

and say everything is wrong, and she had revenge fantasies.

R.When I was late at a meeting even for 3-4 minutes, she was getting very angry and aggressive, and staying that way for many hours.

Kraftwelt wrote:

I had the unfortunate experience of being married to one. I was lucky I didn't have kids with her.

They are the most unbelievable, beautiful, pleasant people you will ever meet in the beginning. They hide their true selves so well. They sre almost like a drug to be around. You will never feel so connected to someone.

Then, at some point in the relationship, they become entirely different people. Mean, depressed, moody, critical, hateful, etc.

They take out all of their issues on you.

Mine had a boyfriend before our divorce was finalized. It is never ending cycle of misery with these people.

Get out now!!!!

I'm reading through this thread from the beginning as therapy for a girl I lived with 4 years ago. This post from page 1 (as far as I've gotten as I write this) really stands out.

"You will never feel so connected to someone." That for me has been my hangup. I have dated many girls since, but I have never been closer to or felt more of a connection with any girl than my (admittedly mildly) borderline roommate from 4 years ago. She was my best friend, someone I would have done anything for. We talked about having children together, had much in common, got along awesomely... And then it all changed, and she became so looney and toxic I cut all ties and wanted nothing to do with her at all, even cut out our mutual friends and acquaintances because of how strongly I felt about not wanting to ever run into her anywhere. But the good times were so good... It makes relationships now tough because I'm always comparing them to the good times with this girl, and they're never as good. But that's the thing we have understand I guess, that it wasn't real. Borderlines are experts at manipulating people and getting people to like them (early on). They will make you feel love like you've never felt before, then become so dysfunctional and toxic and borderline insane. That's what the term actually comes from: they ride that borderline between sane and psychotic. And damn do they fvck you up. We only lived together a year, yet four years later I'm still coming back to a thread like this to make sense of it and feel better about having nothing to do with her.

Also three very strange things she did repeteadly:

1. From all environment, usually normal people admire the beauty of a landscape, the place, the architecture.

There were only three categories of things which borderline gf was stimulated by:

- dead bodies of animals (or humans). she would smell them, poke them with sticks in their eyes, stare at them for long time,

take photos of them. extra points if the dead cat body had for example fresh worms too...

- representations of demons or satan. she noticed them like she had a special detector

- a strange attraction towards shyt. even her friends knew she has a special attraction towards any kind of fecals

2. She was visibly suffering when she had to take a decision: even a simple one like just choosing a chocolate from the supermarket. Sometimes she would stay for more than 30 minutes to just choose a chocolate, and change her decision multiple times.

3. She wanted to overtake all my free time with her dramas and she wanted me to spend all my time with her, in order

to complete things that were good for her. Very rarely or never the other way around.