Editor's note on 7/1/2024- This 3-year-old thread is getting a lot of clicks as lots of people are googling Nikki Hiltz after NBC published an article "Transgender runner Nikki Hiltz is headed to the Paris Olympics" on her making the Olympic team. The article did not explain that Hiltz's is a biological female. Hiltz also is also not on testosterone as World Athletics forbids that.
I haven't read this whole thread. I imagine it would depress me. Anyway, for anyone genuinely curious about gender fluidity, or if this is the first you're hearing about it and think it's a scam or feel cynical and judgy about it, here's a podcast that interviews someone with a very similar "wake up one day a man, another day a woman" situation. It's interesting. It's not my place to tell them how to feel. A lot of our categorizations in life are to make ourselves feel like we have things under control, but the world is chaos. Just look at the platypus for proof of that.
🏳️⚧️ COMING OUT 🏳️⚧️ as transgender, non-binary.
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Hi I’m Nikki and I’m transgender. That means I don’t identify with the gender I was assigned at birth. The word I use currently to describe my gender is non-binary. The best way I can explain my gender is as fluid. Sometimes I wake up feeling like a powerful queen and other days I wake up feeling as if I’m just a guy being a dude, and other times I identify outside of the gender binary entirely. It’s complicated and complex and something I’m still trying to navigate myself, but I’ve decided it’s time to share my gender fluidity with you all. Posting this is both exciting and terrifying but I am and always will be a firm believer that vulnerability and visibility are essential in creating social change and acceptance. So here I am, once again, coming out of a closet to be my true authentic self.
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Today I can be visible because of the many Trans folks who have paved the way for me. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you and happy trans day of visibility to my beautiful and powerful trans family 🏳️⚧️💗
"Sometimes I wake up feeling like a powerful queen and other days I wake up feeling as if I’m just a guy being a dude, and other times I identify outside of the gender binary entirely".
I'm just grateful to wake up every day and be able to go on a run. Some days I feel like Sh^t, and some days I feel like an Olympic Champion. Who will I be today? Who will I be tomorrow? Is there really a today? Will there be a tomorrow?... I'm Soooooo CONFUSED!
I find it really sad that this thread reminds - which will cause a large amount of hurt if the person in question reads it, yet I post a thread about women's apparel and that's deleted, because apparently weren't not mature enough to discuss women's clothes, yet we can discuss men's clothes. Sexism still rife, as ever. And double standards about what's offensive.
I find it really sad that this thread reminds - which will cause a large amount of hurt if the person in question reads it, yet I post a thread about women's apparel and that's deleted, because apparently weren't not mature enough to discuss women's clothes, yet we can discuss men's clothes. Sexism still rife, as ever. And double standards about what's offensive.
I haven't read this whole thread. I imagine it would depress me. Anyway, for anyone genuinely curious about gender fluidity, or if this is the first you're hearing about it and think it's a scam or feel cynical and judgy about it, here's a podcast that interviews someone with a very similar "wake up one day a man, another day a woman" situation. It's interesting. It's not my place to tell them how to feel. A lot of our categorizations in life are to make ourselves feel like we have things under control, but the world is chaos. Just look at the platypus for proof of that.
This was interesting. So it seems like there is something going on with the brain, but that doesn't mean they are mentally unstable like someone with Bipolar or multiple personality disorder.
What's most interesting to me is that people can have "abnormal" brain function that would cause the switching, but it's not an illness or a disability. Instead they can embrace it as part of who they are.
From this article it doesn't sound like the person made a decision to be fluid, but rather it just happened to them in their 30s.
As for publicly announcing this on social media, people can be as public or as private as they like. Some people share all the intimate details of everything and others post the basics . . . or nothing at all. Is it attention-grabbing? Maybe it is, but I wouldn't associate non-binary with attention grabbing. Some non-binary people will use it for attention and others will not. Just like with anything.
But, of course, you're badly overstating this. Especially depending on where one lives and works. Failure to pay proper attention to others' current identification can and will have ramifications. So please don't tell everyone that they're free not to care, while likely having no problem with people being fried for not displaying sufficient attention/sympathy for the issue.
My spouse is a HS teacher. Just learned that students get to decide their gender identification and name without parental input or notification. So, if Susie wants to be called Bobby, she's Bobby (at school). If the teacher calls home, they HAVE to remember to call her Susie, because the parents might not know. Seriously.
A tragedy? No. But accurate to say that this stuff has no impact on those not concerned with it? Also no.
Who are these teachers being fired? I found an article about a teacher in Virginia who was fired for refusing to acknowledge a student's gender because of religious beliefs.
They don't HAVE to remember. Unless they are deliberately refusing to acknowledge the student's gender they won't be fired. The teacher unions are stronger than you think.
Where do you see "fired"? It was a while ago, so I had to re-read it. I didn't think that I claimed that teachers would be fired, and it doesn't look like I did. There are meaningful negative ramifications short of firing. And I'm fully aware of how hard it is for a tenured teacher to be fired. I've been around education my whole life, and I'm not a fan of tenure.
This is not, of course, the case in most other professions.
🏳️⚧️ COMING OUT 🏳️⚧️ as transgender, non-binary.
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Hi I’m Nikki and I’m transgender. That means I don’t identify with the gender I was assigned at birth. The word I use currently to describe my gender is non-binary. The best way I can explain my gender is as fluid. Sometimes I wake up feeling like a powerful queen and other days I wake up feeling as if I’m just a guy being a dude, and other times I identify outside of the gender binary entirely. It’s complicated and complex and something I’m still trying to navigate myself, but I’ve decided it’s time to share my gender fluidity with you all. Posting this is both exciting and terrifying but I am and always will be a firm believer that vulnerability and visibility are essential in creating social change and acceptance. So here I am, once again, coming out of a closet to be my true authentic self.
•
Today I can be visible because of the many Trans folks who have paved the way for me. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you and happy trans day of visibility to my beautiful and powerful trans family 🏳️⚧️💗
I am supportive but isn’t this the sort of thing you should just keep to yourself?
I know this is a year ago. They are doing it because they are desperate for attention. I agree keep it to yourself. I have plenty of friends that are gay, and they are not introducing themselves with my name is Mark and I am Gay.
The entire world is changing, and if this is the trend, how long beofre the following happens:
Homecoming Queen is what?
"Miss"" America?
Complaints inside "non binary" bathrooms ?
We hetrosexual males become a minority?
Dramatic much, boomer?
You seem sort of insecure about your orientation so I doubt that you're really heterosexual. If you were secure about your sexuality, and really were heterosexual, the prospect of being a "minority" wouldn't bother you so much. Do yourself a favor and face reality. You'll be happier if you quit living a lie.