When did you realize life was not fair?

Minor, I know, but this stuck with me; I was reminded of this a few ago when I was being wheeled into an operating room for minor surgery (and thought, "For once, I get to ride!")....

In grade school days, I always seemed I was the oldest and largest of my family and in the neighborhood. When we had push go-carts, merry-go-round rides, etc., almost always I had to be the one pushing and not the one riding.

At puberty. Most my friends finished growing before I started by the end Jr. HS. Competing against taller and strong kids your same age was not fun. I didn't stop growing until my freshman year in college so it was really hard to put on muscle mass.

The realization took place through my late teens and into my early 20's. The realization was that I had been raised to follow certain rules that guaranteed an outcome in my own personal efforts (school, athletics, etc.). However, the "unfairness" is that while you can control yourself, you cannot control others. Even if you do everything right, your success can be limited by the subjective judgment of other people. So, even if you are perfectly qualified for a job, you may not get it. Even if you are a perfect match for someone, they may not feel the same way. Even if you are nice to someone, they may not be nice back, or may use your niceness to take advantage of you.

when Trump won the Republican Nominee

Naturalrunner wrote:

when Trump won the Republican Nominee

+1

When Montano killed Martinez's shot at rio 800m

Naturalrunner wrote:

this marks when the world officially became surreal.

when Trump won the Republican Nominee

That just marks when the world became truely surreal

Our expectation of outcome does not match what Gaia serves, so we perceive an unfairness. The world and its events are as they should be we just do not see it as such.

This year, when I was picking my college/university. Was a paradigm shift realizing that some people simply do not have to consider many things that for others are important. Was slightly frustrating watching privileged girls be able to choose bs majors and know that they'll still be doing okay-well 10 years down the road simply because their families can set them up with whatever they need or from marrying into a safety.

When my mom raped my butthole with a steak knife and then forced me to lick it clean.

I agree, all the best

ck3237 wrote:

In high school, I was running up to 70 miles a week and then a guy who played football in the fall was keeping up with us. He eventually set our high school records in the 880, mile and 2 mile. He also got a full scholarship to a college.

lol!

Similar situation sort of........Playing little league, probably 1963 or 1964,

I'm called out at a play at home even though catcher dropped the ball between his legs. Umpire (a volunteer) did the best he could......but darn it, I would have been safe if life was fair!!

When I started watching porn and compared my genitals to the men who I was watching plow some of the most lovely women I had ever seen.

Psycho-logist wrote:

The realization took place through my late teens and into my early 20's. The realization was that I had been raised to follow certain rules that guaranteed an outcome in my own personal efforts (school, athletics, etc.). However, the "unfairness" is that while you can control yourself, you cannot control others. Even if you do everything right, your success can be limited by the subjective judgment of other people. So, even if you are perfectly qualified for a job, you may not get it. Even if you are a perfect match for someone, they may not feel the same way. Even if you are nice to someone, they may not be nice back, or may use your niceness to take advantage of you.

This. Took me well into my twenties to finally accept the reality of this. Guess I was slow to let go of the "you can achieve/do anything you set your mind to" idea that I'd been fed my whole life.

In the womb, when my identical twin attempted to cannibalize me.

anon wrote:

Life is mostly fair. You get what you work for (for most people). Some luck is involved to. You can increase your luck though by being qualified/prepared.

A lot of luck is involved for some. A kid getting a paralyzing brain tumor at 10, you think that they asked for that?

That kind of stuff aside, if you are physically and mentally healthy in the US after about high school (and stay that way), it's on you to make your life work. Bad stuff happens to everyone and some get the silver spoon and some don't. You hit some bumps on the way but life's been good.

That said, I don't like a lot of folks on this forum.

OP,

Great question. For me, it was my 3rd year at a Fortune 100 company. I'm still here, but completely realize how unfair life is, but you just deal with it and feel happy for the haves...

In the last couple years. I know a few hot women that are dating rich guys. If they get married, they will live luxuriously and never work a day in their lives.

TAA wrote:

In the last couple years. I know a few hot women that are dating rich guys. If they get married, they will live luxuriously and never work a day in their lives.

Proof that the TAA idiot = jamin