flapping in the wind wrote:
Nah, I'd say the fact you're seeking advice from seething misogynist basement trolls is a bigger red flag.
This.
But also try a little framing and salesmanship when you go over your dating history. State that you've never been one of those people who could throw away years on a "good enough but not The One" relationship.
G Mack wrote:
I started dating a girl not too long ago, and past relationships came up in conversation. I told her I'd dated a lot but only been in three significant relationships, each of which lasted about 9 months (I'm the one who ended the relationship in each of the three cases). She acted like this was very strange, and it got me thinking about it and how I'm perceived to other people.
Were the women about to give birth? Maybe you're afraid of parental responsibilities.
Thedirty wrote:
A lot of good/nice guys have been in your same situation. The girls who passed on these men earlier in life are starting to see the attraction in them since they have their shit together in life. The girls will start flocking towards you (a lot of women are trash, watch out) if they realize this.
I bet there are a lot of guys who have had fewer than 3 relationships by the time they are your age, and it isn't necessarily by choice. I know some guys who have little success with women simply because they don't understand what women want are come across as too "nice." When women are young and hot, a large number of them don't want a nice guy. Instead, they prefer to play the field and sleep around, but only start considering nice guys when their looks start to fade and they realize that their power over men is decreasing
flapping in the wind wrote:
Nah, I'd say the fact you're seeking advice from seething misogynist basement trolls is a bigger red flag.
Again, the first response is the best.
But I will say to the OP that I didn't have a relationship lasting longer than 9 months until I was almost 30, when I met the woman who would become my wife.
Star wrote:
flapping in the wind wrote:Nah, I'd say the fact you're seeking advice from seething misogynist basement trolls is a bigger red flag.
Again, the first response is the best.
But I will say to the OP that I didn't have a relationship lasting longer than 9 months until I was almost 30, when I met the woman who would become my wife.
Thanks. Yeah, I've actually dated a lot, but I am kind of an usual person and don't really enjoy a lot of the same things or have the same needs as most people, so most "relationships" don't last more than a month or two as we recognize we're not very compatible. I'm also pretty liberal and live in a pretty conservative area...
The three longer relationships I had lasted 9 months, 7 months, and about 9 months again, but all three probably should have ended 2-3 months earlier than they did. In two of the cases the girl basically stopped hiding their crazy side 3-4 months into the relationship, and the other just fizzled out as we really didn't have much of anything in common and had a hard time doing things together. She was devastated when I ended things, something I didn't understand at all given the relationship had seemed very empty to me for several months.
I actually think it's a bigger red flag when I meet girls who are always in relationships. To me it suggests they're dependent on others and likely very clingy (and a bit nutty). Just my perspective though.
Biggest flag is being on LRC. If you want to "get" girls, don't plan on doing it by talking to a bunch of religious, gun-wielding, Living in the glory-days geezers.
I'd say it is. I don't know a single person that's been in relationships that hasn't been in one that was at least a year long. And I'm a few years younger than you. You probably don't like long term committment, which is a huge deal to a woman your age that's probably looking to get married.
That's Great!
TAA wrote:
I'd say it is. I don't know a single person that's been in relationships that hasn't been in one that was at least a year long. And I'm a few years younger than you. You probably don't like long term committment, which is a huge deal to a woman your age that's probably looking to get married.
No to all of this.
Now I really want to know what the OP's relationship with the mother figure was like though. It was either very good so he knows what a connection is, or something else. The absence of a direct reply is interesting.
I love these threads.
12 months X 28 years = 336 months
9 divided by 336 = .026
.026 X 100 = 2.6%
You haven't spent more than 3% of your life with the same person. Granted, the first 12 years or you life don't necessarily count, but minus those years... You are still looking at only 5% ish.
Take that for what it is.
Pop_pop!_v2.1.1 wrote:
TAA wrote:I'd say it is. I don't know a single person that's been in relationships that hasn't been in one that was at least a year long. And I'm a few years younger than you. You probably don't like long term committment, which is a huge deal to a woman your age that's probably looking to get married.
No to all of this.
Now I really want to know what the OP's relationship with the mother figure was like though. It was either very good so he knows what a connection is, or something else. The absence of a direct reply is interesting.
I love these threads.
Can you explain to me why my relationship to my mother is relevant? I'm genuinely interested. Thanks.