Is your girlfriend/boyfriend suppose to be your #1 priority

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looking4insight wrote:

From my perspective it makes zero sense to put my career ahead of a woman.

This seems insistent with everything else in your posts.

Inconsistent

Yung Man wrote:

I make my GF my #1 priority when she's on her back with her legs spread taking my gila monster. Otherwise, not so much.

You call THAT a "monster?" Heck, the Geico gecko has a bigger Johnson.

anon poster wrote:

It is important to neither over or under prioritize your significant other. Striking the delicate balance is critical for nurturing a healthy relationship. Too much space leads to rifts in the relationship while too little space is stifling. You must maintain your independence while engendering interdependence.

I don't expect many here to understand or master these skills.

This. I've been married for 36yrs

I agree. Yet, I have seen some otherwise very educated people use "Suppose" when it should be "Supposed." I have a friend who is in her 80s and she grew up when better grammar was typically taught in schools. She tends to use "Suppose" than "Supposed" in in sentences like these.

It is just like a lot of people use "AX" instead of "Ask." Sometimes they know better but it is the trendy way of talking or writing.

Don't forget in recent years it has become trendy for people to answer a question or start their part of a conversation by saying "So"

It sounds so odd to me and is not supposed to be that way if we are to use proper grammar.

I read some of the replies here. Some people have very different ideas about it.

It seems to me that "romance" is not a good priority to have in life. If someone, a "gf" or "bf," is holding you back from practical ambitions then that person is emotionally needy and you cannot fall into that trap also.

No way to make a "gf" or "bf" feel "needed" by you and also be able to successfully and effectively pursue something like medical school. You will end up not being able to pursue your dream career.

I don't look at it as, "No one ever regretted NOT spending more time at the office but they regret NOT spending more time with loved ones."

I think that others should understand that some people have to do practical things in life and dedicate their time to them . It does not mean you "hate" your friends or family or "significant other" or whatever. If that other person does not understand, then s/he is the one who should be questioning herself or himself. It sounds narcissistic and emotionally immature of a "gf" or "bf" to demand or expect "attention" from a friend who is busy doing something ambitious and/or important . Maybe your "gf" should dedicate herself to some worthwhile pursuit herself such as study math and science and become an engineer. She seems to have too much time on her hands and has not grown up enough to NOT need a "boyfriend."