Girl Wants to Workout out With Me. Please Translate.

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Thanks female bro. Somewhat common sense but overall good. I think what you are missing in a) is: being too nice isn't going to pay dividends. Being a bit of a jerk isn't bad as long as the intentions are right.

Well it's probably been mentioned already, but she thinks you're gay.

NOT THAT THERE'S ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT

So you are just stringing a guy along when you know he wants to be more than just friends??? Just for a training partner??? Seems kind of mean huh?

we aren't strining anyone along...what I'm saying is that if we DO actually like the guy, then something will happen outside of doing workouts together after some time. If we don't then we still have a training partner. You guys are easy to string along though, all we have to do is show up for a workout in tiny shorts and we win.

I'd say if you've worked out with her for more than a month and it hasn't gone beyond just doing workouts, suggest doing something outside of that...if she shoots you down she is not interested in anything other than a workout buddy.

Female yo,

I think what your missing is that this guy said she's already on a swim team. How does that figure into your womanly calculations?

female yo wrote:

I'd say if you've worked out with her for more than a month and it hasn't gone beyond just doing workouts, suggest doing something outside of that...if she shoots you down she is not interested in anything other than a workout buddy.

I would add that unless she's a good training partner, you should stop training with her if she shoots you down. No sense getting used if you're getting nothing in return. She'd string you along if you didn't, no sense in not spending your time with someone else.

girls don't want guy friends just like guys don't want girl friends. If she is asking to hang out alone she is interested in seeing where it goes. So if you like her go for it, if you don't like her or if you are in a relationship then don't go for it.

Short answer, yes she wants to f*ck, and if she doesn't then she is naive and shouldn't have asked you to hang out but no one would fault you for making a move.

I would avoid working out with her until you can analyze "all" the data you received on this forum.

Better to be safe than sorry (or happy).

I went with the upfront and open way with the girl i liked in college to. I ended up marrying her. If she is playing these headgames with you than ditch her, she obviously doesn't want anything serious. Now if you are just trying to get laid just be honest about it. "Hey, I like working out with you, you mind if we add sex to the equation, no there doesn't have to be a relationship". Those things happen in college, but usually end up bothering alot of women for the rest of their lives(Wife is a psychiatrist and alot of her patients complain about all the casual sex they had in college and how empty it has left them and how hard it is to open up to their husbands sexually due to all the men they have slept with before and all the hurt they feel blah blah blah, I don't know any guys that have that problem).

Somewhat Experienced Gent wrote:

This girl I know through a friend and I have been txting a bit. She suggested that we go running or swimming together some time. Quoting her, "Its always a lot easier to do a workout with someone else so if u ever want to im down haha". I am three years older than her and to be honest I don't know her that well. I am definitely going to take up her offer at some point but I will go about it slowly because we are both busy and I don't see the point in rushing it.

So was I immediately put in the friend zone or is pound city coming my way?

It depends what you mean by "slowly."

I'm not sure how old this girl is, but I'm 26. She sounds like she is a bit younger. However, this is pretty close to a message I would send a guy if I was attracted to him. I think there is an even greater chance she is doing this based off physical attraction because she doesn't personally know you. There's not too many other ways that you can easily get someone to hang out in a 1 v 1 scenario that isn't labeled as some sort of date. I just had a guy who has been eye f*cking me at the gym for almost a week now finally strike up a convo with me today. By the time I left to go home he asked me to be his "running partner" sometime. I think that is and ALWAYS is the first way a guy tries to get me to hang out.

Point is, she is attracted to you. I don't think you have to be worried about being friend zone guy for awhile. It's not like she's going to expect you to pull her shorts down and do her on mile 5. Give her something that will leave her hanging. Make a flirty comment, wink at her, squeeze her arm, accidentally touch the small of her back. If you do something to indirectly confirm your attraction, you'll be fine.

Let me help all you fools who are "playing it cool", "taking your time", etc.

The girl never puts you in the friend zone. You do that to yourself. A girl approaches you and says she wants to perform a vigorous physical activity with you. You're both in your teens or twenties. Hello, what do you think is going on here?

The girl is EXPECTING you to make a move...and not some friend-zone-inducing maneuver like kissing their hand. You have no excuse for not trying other than your own pathetic fear.

Be direct and arrogantly humorous with the innuendo. As soon as the run is finished: "Hey, now let's go back to my place and do a real workout", whatever, something that says it so directly that your position on things is clear.

Then you make a real move, at least attempt to kiss the lips. Who cares if you fail?

You succeed...bingo.

You fail but she makes another running date with you...your position is already clear and she hasn't said no. No awkward tension exists and you won't have to overanalyze what everything she did and said might have meant. Continue being randy until you either succeed or fail.

You fail and she does not make another running date with you...you just saved yourself from being a workout rabbit for a cocktease.

You do not have to apologize for being a horny man, it's biological reality. She chose to approach you knowing this in advance.

Maybe you think "but I might lose a potential platonic friend who only wanted to run with me." That's the cost of being a man. If you surround yourself with women who aren't putting out for you, all the other women out there who you might hope to connect with are also going to move you into the "safe but gay" category. Are you really so desperate for someone to run with that you would accept blue-balls? Go find some dude to function as your running partner and save yourself the humiliation.

Thank me later for saving you a lot of wasted time.

In case I wasn't clear, you should still be cool, friendly, and fun to be around, and you shouldn't be a typical male chauvanist swine, but be 100% unapologetic about being a man and wanting what a man wants...

"blahblahblah Im down blahblah"

That's all I got out of that text.

Personally, while feedback from the opposite sex is helful...it could really screw someone over if they used that advice as a generalization towards someone they are interested in. No offense, but the royal we in this case is annoying, pretty sure not all girls think like this.

You certainly aren't going to start getting it on in the middle of a run, so ask her out like a normal person.

Dead wrong. Working out is the perfect segue to other physical pleasures.

DanDan wrote:

You certainly aren't going to start getting it on in the middle of a run, so ask her out like a normal person.

Update - Previously posted on here, I was in a similar situation. Went on a running date with a girl who wanted to go for a run. She was really just a friend of a friend. I asked her to go for another run after the first and we did a few days later. There's a lake in the metropark so I told her we could swim after. She told me she'd bring some food and we made it into a picnic. I made a move after the picnic and it worked. She's most likely into you.

So true.