Go with A. I've had pleanty of Girl B and it was a time waster.
Go with A. I've had pleanty of Girl B and it was a time waster.
dating: go with whatever floats you boat.
marriage: to quote jimmy soul "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty girl your wife.
glad to help.
The cute, stable girl is slightly older than me, and if I was looking to get married right now, I think she would fit really well. Also, I have to say, even though I have a very good job, the possibility of never having to worry about money due to her wealth is pretty enticing.
The hottie is 1 year younger, and like I said, will probably go places and make a name for herself. When I'm thinking with my dick I choose her every time.
I guess I'm worried that if I go for the hottie and stop dating the cute, stable for the time being, she probably won't be around in a few years (married herself by that time)...and she is definite wife material.
Decisions, decisions....I guess this is why someone like Tiger Woods gets married and bangs a few on the side...
There actually are hot AND stable chicks out there. Until you find one, always fu\ck the hottest available.
Date a fat chick, the only maintenance involved is a few daily feedings and they'll never leave you.
young and unwise wrote:
Decisions, decisions....I guess this is why someone like Tiger Woods gets married and bangs a few on the side...
If Tiger Woods is a role model, please do Girl A a favor and let her down nicely and continue to chase the ape shit-crazy, high maintenance hotties and DO NOT settle down until you come to the realization that people who have sexual addictions like Woods are dumbasses.
My husband just added that you should close your eyes and imagine each girl 75 pounds heavier and then decide who you could stand for the rest of your life.
Mrs. M wrote:
My husband just added that you should close your eyes and imagine each girl 75 pounds heavier and then decide who you could stand for the rest of your life.
I wonder what your husband is trying to say...
The flaw in your question is that you NEED to "make a decision soon". If you are a man of Value, this is not at all the case. Date both of them, no more than 2-3 times/week, show them your awesomeness, both as a person and a sexual man, and they will stick to you like glue, if they have any clue as to what a man of Value is. Over the subsequent months, things will sort themselves.
And for crying out loud, stop this impoverished thinking of "settling down" when you are only 23, unless you are incredibly uninclined to personal evolution and change. Of course, the problem with this latter strategy is that even "Miss Stability" may well become bored with you in 5-10 years and cut you off, then divor$e you in hopes of finding "romance" again.
If one or both leave, then this frees you up for dating others, until you find what you are looking for, whether it is in one package or many. Meantime (and after!) your primary focus should be your career and life mission. Good luck and Happy Hunting!
young and unwise wrote:
Girl B: very hot, more high-maintenance, good personality, smart, comes from broken family but is very level-headed and has high aspiration for herself
What's the problem with Girl B other than being high maintenance? Does high maintenance mean she's one step into the nut-house? As long as "high" is manageable, Girl B sounds good too. Smart, "level-headed" with future aspirations? What's unstable about that? Sure, her family has no money, but you don't want to entangle yourself with the parents financially anyway. With girl A there might be that temptation to rely on the folks money. I vote for Girl B - besides, she's very hot too.
That's what I was thinking--what exactly is high maintenance about her?
Not the older crowd, but the exact same age/place in life. I say rail the hottie until you are ready to settle down. If you don't see wedding bells in your future option A is just settling.
I'm nearly 50, and I married choice A. OK, there really was no "B" but I would have chosen "A" anyway! "Hot" becomes "shot" in a big hurry, and high maintenance? You don't need it, my friend. Cute and stable all the way, and you said wealthy? No brainer.
[quote]my gf has a whooty! wrote:
Through my experience, the hotties/high maintenance/broken family girls are GREAT to date. But never, I mean NEVER move in with them/ask them to marry you/have a kid with them.
The low maintenance/plain Jane/stable upbringing ladies are the ones who make wives. They aren't as exciting, but when you settle down and live with someone or have kids you want stability, not drama.
My personal oppinion is that you are only 23. Date the hottie. Trust me, you don't want to be married with kids until your 30's anyway. And the "good girls" are always out there. I just picked one up one year ago. Sure she's 6 years younger than me (another good reason to wait till you're 30 to date a stable one, you can pick one up way younger than you and thus she will always be younger and hotter than the girls your age!) [quote]
This is THE correct answer. I was going to write almost the same thing verbatim but this smart guy beat me to it.
Date (i.e. bang) the hot girls now. Start thinking about marriage after you turn 30. I repeat, AFTER you turn 30.
Here are their pics so you can decide for yourself:
Cutie:
http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/imgs/020122/1011736389__walk_l.jpg
Hottie:
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3079/2562377084_7ceb38400f_o.jpg
That's what you call "hottie"? Sheesh... looks like jailbait to me. I'm not into bleached hair and black eyeliner though (reminds me of too many pornos). I love the natural look on women. Shows their self-confidence. I wouldn't be too keen on bringing choice B home to meet my folks...
racketeer wrote:
That's what you call "hottie"? Sheesh... looks like jailbait to me. I'm not into bleached hair and black eyeliner though (reminds me of too many pornos). I love the natural look on women. Shows their self-confidence. I wouldn't be too keen on bringing choice B home to meet my folks...
That's obviously not the pics of the OP's girls.
What the hell is this "looking for a more solid relationship at this point in my life..." bull$hit? You're 23 with a "well-paying job". Until you're about 30 to 32, date all the hotties and freaks you can handle. There will always be chicks that want to settle down. The only possible caveat is the "wealthy family" situation. But that may be a negative if she always had life easy, which can get annoying, unless you grew up the same way.
When I was 23, I was a broke ass med student and by the time I was making $$$, I was 1 to 2 years away from being "too old to be in the (night)club". Life itself will force you to settle down: all your wingmen will get married, the music will no longer appeal to you, you'll get tired of coming home at 4 AM on Sunday, etc.
What the hell is this "looking for a more solid relationship at this point in my life..." bull$hit? You're 23 with a "well-paying job". Until you're about 30 to 32, date all the hotties and freaks you can handle. There will always be chicks that want to settle down. The only possible caveat is the "wealthy family" situation. But that may be a negative if she always had life easy, which can get annoying, unless you grew up the same way.
When I was 23, I was a broke ass med student and by the time I was making $$$, I was 1 to 2 years away from being "too old to be in the (night)club". Life itself will force you to settle down: all your wingmen will get married, the music will no longer appeal to you, you'll get tired of coming home at 4 AM on Sunday, etc.
F*** it, man, just date them both. Be smart about it.
